How Parents Prime Children For Victimization Through Faulty Ideas About Self Love/Esteem

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much More GraceOriginally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the “Roots of Victimization”Failing to Teach A Child Appropriate Self Love and ValueAs noted in the previous post, children the characteristics of children, when respected and anticipated by the parent help to form the basis of appropriate core behaviors in adulthood. What is perhaps the most primary of these is the development of appropriate self-love, addressed briefly in an earlier post. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Changing Nations By Changing Diapers?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - The Rod of GodEditor's note: The Rod of God sounds like it belongs more on Colin Campbell's porn-sounding named column "Meat For Men" than something for ladies. Here Nancy reinforces yet again the message to be grateful that you're raising children for the glory of God, a very common mindset in Quiverfull. … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – What Do I Do Now?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Good Christian Family Living and Singing Gives You Oxytocin?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Living Stress Free in a Stressful WorldEditor's note: Clearly Nancy needs a refresher course in the sciences and basic biology based upon the claims she's making in this posting. The only thing I've heard of that puts you in this much of a 'blissful stressless' state involves a handful of Klonopin washed down with a bottle of tequila, at least seems to work for temporarily. Or so some people say.  See how many logic fails and lame claims Nancy makes in this piece. Why she doesn't suggest real proven destressors, like yoga, meditation and indulging in a hobby you love, like reading or running or gardening or gaming is puzzling. She does mention … [Read more...]

How Will People Know Our Home is a ‘Godly’ Home?

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserSnark ahead. If you are an easily offended Evangelical, please leave now before you feel a wedgie coming on.Fundamentalist Nancy Campbell, blogger extraordinaire for the Above Rubies website, asks the question What Goes on in Your Home?  Campbell wants to know if people “feel” the presence of God when they come into a Christian’s home: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Talking Too Much & Homeless Shaming?

by Steven L. Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church - Vain JanglingEditor's note: Another jaw drop point from this awful sermon about not talking too much and letting only the learned pastor speak from the pulpit. He manages to be scornful of the homeless, junk food and his own followers at the same time. This is also the part that had the most 'Amens' type sermon interruptions coming right from the crowd. He doesn't seem to take into consideration that a homeless man isn't going to have a place to fix cheap and nutritious food, a way to get to a super market to buy the ingredients or any of the other factors that go into healthy eating. This man is doing sheer survival eating and … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet – Part 8 Mr. Visionary (Move Away From Your In-Laws, They’ll Contaminate Your Wife)

by Althea cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonpp 87-88Today we finish out the chapter on Visionary Men. Text is in purple.Mr. Visionary's Five L's    *Listen    *Love    *Laugh    *Labor    *LeaveListen: Be willing to stop your dreams long enough to hear your wife's concerns. At her urging, seek counsel from another man of wisdom-a Steady Man, but not another Visionary.     … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Just Read Your Bible?

by Steven L. Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church - Vain JanglingEditor's note: God or Fate or whatever you chose to call it has been kind to NLQ and put up an entire transcript library of Anderson's sermons. This one is a lengthy word salad where he's basically claiming only someone who has read the Bible cover to cover many times, like himself, is qualified to preach. He knocks down the idea of anyone else there preaching. This little bit about reading on the internet is not the same as reading paper books and the Bible is interesting. There's a part also in the beginning of the sermon where Anderson states he doesn't believe in every word of the Bible, that some of the stories, … [Read more...]

How to Spiritually Abuse Your Children in Three Steps

by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous Circumspection Step One - Repeatedly teach them something that the rest of society would find weird, "out there", or flat-out offensive.Step Two - Tell them that the negative reaction of the "rest of the world" proves that the above "something" is true and must be adhered to even more rabidly. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Education Leads to No Sexual Morals?

by Fire Breathing Christian as quoted by Ladies Against Feminism and at Fire Breathing - Giving Our Daughters 'The College Experience'Editor's note: What is it about higher education not as a Bible college that extreme elements of the Christian fold, like Quiverfulls, find so incredibly threatening? Is it that their children will be completely out from under their smothering controlling influence and might just start thinking for themselves. Or is it something darker and more twisted? … [Read more...]