Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Biblical Divorce Because Of Abuse?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Thankfulness For the Little Things?

by Becky Thompson from Becky - An Honest Valentine For My HusbandEditor's note: Digging through the archive at Ms. Thompson's site brings up all sorts of other pieces on how marriage is a battlefield and other not so great ideas about marriage. Like this one, in which she manages to be thankful for some of the things her husband does that do not seem from here to be about her at all. Marriage really seems much more difficult, unpleasant and like a slave-master relationship inside Fundamentalist Evangelicalism. … [Read more...]

Open Thread – Easter Holidays

Open thread - Discuss whatever you'd like.Easter Question: How has Holy Week and Easter changed for you? Did you believe in your old faith community that chocolate bunnies and Easter baskets were sinful? Or did you celebrate Easter like everyone else? Celebrating in a special way this year? … [Read more...]

Trusting a Therapist in Stage One of Healing

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission My husband and I once took in a few feral kittens. He says that it took three years before they would let him touch them. I saw this meme today and thought of the good therapists and the not so good ones that I've seen. It is no easy job to develop trust with a feral cat, and in many ways, I think that traumatized people have much in common with them.  We have forgotten how to trust, and we need someone with great patience to help us remember and learn if we ever knew how to have healthy trust to being with. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Has Sports Killed Church?

by Leslie from Growing 4 Life - The New ChurchEditor's note: While she might have a point about sports being worshiped in America this is no new thing and it's seriously doubtful it is the main reason people aren't going to church much any more. The NFL has had Sunday games for decades now. It has more to do with the leagues of people eager to abuse others or put them down with their tongues, the lack of relevance to their lives, and so many other things that nothing to do with sports at all. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 2 The Boys

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the book in blue text.Quick refresher before we hit the boys.  According to the Botkin Sisters, girls should:Treat all young guys as they would treat their brother...kind of. Don't flirt, joke, tease, or have deeply personal conversations with boys. Be more reserved around guys than girls. Realize guys are imperfect and treat them with understanding and charity. Have "family friends" rather than individual guy friends.Here are the guys: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Any Other Man’s Attention Wrecks Your Marriage?

by Becky Thompson of – Beware of Quicksand: How One Stranger’s Comment Changed My Marriage ForeverEditor's note: This last bit makes me feel sad for the author. Marriage shouldn't be a battlefield that you're constantly having to toil at to make work. If it's that much work and stress it's not much of a marriage there to revive. Sometimes a kind comment has nothing to do with attempting to turn your heart towards anyone, it's a small thing done by someone that sees you're having some sort of issue that day, or senses you need a little bit of a lift to get through your day. … [Read more...]

Review: “Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife” by Ruth Tucker

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog SamanthaPField.comI heard about Ruth Tucker’s Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife: My Story of Finding Hope after Domestic Violence mid-afternoon on Monday, after I’d finished my review of Radical and was browsing the Twitters. Zondervan has been promoting her book with the question “is complementarianism connected to domestic abuse?” which has spurred some conversation among the people I follow. And by “conversation,” I mean a lot of us saying “duh. Yes.” … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Any Other Man’s Attention Wrecks Your Marriage?

by Becky Thompson of - Beware of Quicksand: How One Stranger's Comment Changed My Marriage ForeverEditor's note: We continue on in the tale of extra-Biblicalness that claims any man looking at you or commenting or interacting with you might lead to him falling penis-first into your vagina. Again, are Evangelical Christian marriages so weak that you cannot ever risk friendship or any friendly interaction with the opposite sex? Why is it so impossible to think that some nice man realized she was having a very bad day and said something kind to her? … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Are Some Sins Unforgivable – Duggar Family Edition?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.This question comes directly out of the various tabloid reports of Josh Duggar returning home from Reformers Unanimous. Why is the sin of molesting little girls ruled to be forgivable yet infidelity and pornography aren't? To me this seems backwards, it seems like molesting children would be the bigger sin. … [Read more...]