Review: “Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife” by Ruth Tucker

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog SamanthaPField.comI heard about Ruth Tucker’s Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife: My Story of Finding Hope after Domestic Violence mid-afternoon on Monday, after I’d finished my review of Radical and was browsing the Twitters. Zondervan has been promoting her book with the question “is complementarianism connected to domestic abuse?” which has spurred some conversation among the people I follow. And by “conversation,” I mean a lot of us saying “duh. Yes.” … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Any Other Man’s Attention Wrecks Your Marriage?

by Becky Thompson of - Beware of Quicksand: How One Stranger's Comment Changed My Marriage ForeverEditor's note: We continue on in the tale of extra-Biblicalness that claims any man looking at you or commenting or interacting with you might lead to him falling penis-first into your vagina. Again, are Evangelical Christian marriages so weak that you cannot ever risk friendship or any friendly interaction with the opposite sex? Why is it so impossible to think that some nice man realized she was having a very bad day and said something kind to her? … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Are Some Sins Unforgivable – Duggar Family Edition?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.This question comes directly out of the various tabloid reports of Josh Duggar returning home from Reformers Unanimous. Why is the sin of molesting little girls ruled to be forgivable yet infidelity and pornography aren't? To me this seems backwards, it seems like molesting children would be the bigger sin. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Any Other Man’s Attention Wrecks Your Marriage?

by Becky Thompson of - Beware of Quicksand: How One Stranger's Comment Changed My Marriage ForeverEditor's note: I don't know of Ms. Thompson is officially Quiverfull but this is a prime example of toxic thinking about interacting with the opposite sex that is pervasive throughout Quiverfull, Evangelical and Fundamentalist Christianity. Apparently their marriages are as weak and anemic as their faith. It all starts when she calls her husband at work when he's in the middle of a BIG PROJECT! … [Read more...]

How Fundamentalist Christianity Affected My View of Money and Material Things

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's  note: Be sure to look at the accompanying photos at Bruce's site. Eye opening.These and other verses were the guiding principles of my life for many years: Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. Matthew 16:24Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: For where your treasure is, there … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women’s Personality Quirks Are Sin?

by Andree Seu Peterson from World - When Personality Quirks Become Sinful and as quoted by Ladies Against FeminismEditor's note: One of the hardest to understand things for many outside of the Quiverfull movement is the willingness of women to always take the blame for everything, and allow men a free pass for the same behavior. This is a perfect example for this type of thinking. How can natural 'quirks' that we all have, female and male, be automatically sinful? The author is also advising the 'fake it til you make it' behavior that has wreaked havoc for so many of us. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – I Am Worried About The Guy My Friend Is Interested In

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Two Generations of Narcissistic Children?

by Bruce Frohen from The Imaginative Conservative - The West's War on Children as quoted by Ladies Against FeminismEditor's note: Clearly there is some 'imagination' going on here in this assertion. As per usual while making these alarming statements about how awful, self-centered and toxic modern non-Christian parenting is there are zero legitimate facts, figures or studies cited. … [Read more...]

Deciding to Get Help After Trauma

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman of Under Much Grace and used with permission At some point, for most people, the stress of their trauma alters their lives significantly enough that they reach out for help. It was no light thing for me to seek it myself.  The expense alone can be enough to keep people from seeking assistance … [Read more...]

Answering Quiverfull: Josh Duggar and Second Chances

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog Every Breaking WaveEditor's note: We've tried not to post much about the Duggar family lately because we don't want to add any viewers to their new television show and the idea of making them go away by stopping giving them any publicity is appealing. After reading a few articles on the return of Josh Duggar from his 'rehab' at Reformers Unanimous I started to think about what he faces now and how his family's toxic behavior isn't going to benefit him. Random thoughts on the wrongness of Fundamentalists demonizing those that fail to live up to the standards of the high demand cult. The themes of rebirth, renewal and second chances echoes … [Read more...]