Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Relationships Away From Home

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Have Your Babies In Your Teens?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com - Women's Ovaries Don't Agree With FeminismEditor's note: There is simply so much that is awful and typical of the quiverfull tendency to allow daughters to marry early that we're going to be examining this in parts like we do sometimes with the worst of Michael Pearl's writings. Apparently Biblical Gender Roles, like other patriarch-promoting types like Von Ohlman, believe that you should marry off your girls at peak fertility, which means not too long after they start their monthly cycles. He starts off the original article claiming that girls as young as 14 have less problems with pregnancy and childbirth than women starting in … [Read more...]

Covert Operations

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsMy friend quixie over at quixoticfaith posted an excellent video about covert narcissists. I have been told that I shouldn’t call my former pastor a narcissist because he isn’t an overt tyrant as many definitions indicate.  The video you can watch from quixie’s blog post is an excellent description of a “covert” narcissist and aptly describes much of what I observed in my experience with spiritual abuse.  Thank you, Quixie, for your post and video! Perhaps the most important section of the video is at the end when he discusses the effect on the victim.  I have written posts about how my self-confidence, my faith, my physical health, a … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: So Shut Up?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Nagging Doesn't WorkEditor's note: For once I agree with Nancy Campbell --- nagging does not work, it only pisses off the naggee! But, here's a thought that I'm sure has never crossed Nancy's mind, nagging isn't strictly limited to wife nagging her husband. Sometimes it's reversed to the husband nagging the wife, or either the wife or husband nagging the children. Mother in laws nagging the wife. Children nagging parents. Nagging sucks no matter who does it and it usually only reinforces whatever behavior the nagger does not like in the first place. … [Read more...]

News: Why The Duggars Needed A Payment Processor

So it turns out that not only do the Duggars have a new money making scheme since their show on TLC was cancelled but they also need someone to do the online payment processing of credit cards. Hence Duggar Processing LLC and Fivestone Group LLC. Turns out that the Duggars are starting to ask for money from anyone watching their videos on YouTube, at least all the Duggar Studios videos which seem to be an endless procession of kids going to the dentist Josiah Duggar stoned out of his gourd on pain meds while Jim Bob drives him home from having his wisdom teeth removed, lip synching to music or doing other every day things. They have also done a promotion of Bill Gothard's Alert Academy. Josh … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Why Talking About Money Before and During Marriage Is Important

by Tim Fall from his blog Tim's Blog Just One Train Wreck After Another - Marriage, Money, and Making Decisions - how it looks in a marriage of equalsEditor's note: We've had so many weeks and months of bad Christian marriage advice from the Pearls and other ministries I felt like it was time to share better advice. I know I've found in my own life that money discussions must happen and when they don't things really get messy. This is especially important if you are struggling to leave Quiverfull theology and either transform your marriage into that of equals, or you are a former Quiverfull mother struggling to figure out how to pay your bills or deal with a spouse that doesn't believe … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Defining Manhood by Submission?

by unknown and posted by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - I Want A ManEditor's note: Complementarianism in a nutshell. Nancy doubling down on a woman's submission again. This please your husband or else nonsense. … [Read more...]

Men’s Movements

by Emily from The Christian Patriarchal Watchlist For Parents“We must make our wives in to the people God intended them to be.” ~ Angus Buchanhmmm... and what exactly might that be? Please read and see for yourself! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Jeans and Short Hair Enslave Women?

by Reagan Ramm from Reagan Ram.com - Modesty" A Guy's Opinion Part 2Editor's note: I don't think most of the women I know with short hair, myself included, do it to look 'masculine',to be like guys or because we've embraced a feminist message. Mostly women wear pants, jeans, tee shirts and short hair for comfort or expediency. Sometimes the simplest explanation for something is the correct one. It's not some anti-Christian plot no matter how they spin it. Is masculinity so weak and threatened in the church that it cannot survive anyone doing anything even slightly outside the dictates of fundamentalism? … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet – Part 1 In His Image (You Are Responsible For Your Spouse’s Temperament)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 63-64 Today we're starting the sections about the 3 types of men. If you recall, "Created to Be His Help Meet" introduced this topic. It'll be interesting to see how Michael interprets this for his masculine audience. Text is in purple. … [Read more...]


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