Post-Cult Trauma Syndrome

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAfter exiting a cult, an individual may experience a period of intense and often conflicting emotions. She or he may feel relief to be out of the group, but also may feel grief over the loss of positive elements in the cult, such as friendships, a sense of belonging or the feeling of personal worth generated by the group's stated ideals or mission. The emotional upheaval of the period is often characterized by "post- cult trauma syndrome": … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Only Make Yourself Attractive While Husband-Hunting?

by Laurel  J. Davis from Whole Magazine - What a God-Fearing Man Really Wants From a WomanEditor's note: This starts off sort of okay with a church survey asking the men what they want in a wife but then takes a severe right-hand turn right into a word salad pile of modesty shaming/blaming liberally dressed in cognitive dissonance. Don't dress in anyway that calls attention to yourself but dress to catch the eye when you are husband hunting seems to be one of the major themes. Funny, the article does not say one thing about the men who were polled requesting that their women dress to these false modesty standards of the author. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 1 – Power of Stinking Thinking

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideOnly two more chapters left! *happy dance*Debi ends the last chapter with an apology for the sad, depressing, scary story that follows because a woman didn't respect her husband.I've found all of her stories so far terrifying or boring so I'm excited about this one. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Patriarchy Means Treating Your Wife Like Fine China?

by Greg Gibson from John Piper's The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood - Building a Marriage Culture | Husbands Honor Your WivesEditor's note: I don't know about anyone else here but I have zero desire to be treated like fine china. Fine china stays in the china cabinet unused and completely out of the loop most of the time. It doesn't have free agency, it's protected in a stifling manner that doesn't allow for any life and it cannot move or be used unless the owner deems it to be. Too delicate to be of any practical use in the day to day. An object. … [Read more...]

News: Naugler Family, Dillard Mission Trip and Jessa Duggar Seewald Wore Pants

Turns out that the the Naugler parents have regained custody of their ten children from the state of Kentucky. No word on how this happened. I would imagine that the family was either found to be properly providing for their children or that the parents, Joe and Nicole, improved the living situation on their land enough to meet state requirements. Suspecting it's probably the later considering a fundraiser for the family brought in over 70K for improvements on their very crude living arrangements. Plus it sounds like from the news stories that Kentucky CPS is still going to be part of this family's life for quite some time. Unless they do what they've done in the past, pick up stakes and … [Read more...]

Repost: Right Wing Family Values and the World’s Greatest Freak Show

by Vyckie Garrison - Founder of No Longer QuiveringEditor's note: Our own SASBN member Bruce Gerencser posted this at his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser this weekend. I was reminded anew what a great piece this was so I'm reposting it here again. This is particularly timely due to the recent troubles of the Duggar family and the reemergence of the Bates family on their own new television show - "Bringing Up Bates" … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 18 – Homeschoolers Embracing The World?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - Jumping Ship Part 3Editor's note: Again Mr. Pearl seems to be completely oblivious to the fact that his advice here is completely at odds with much of his other book "To Train Up A Child" Either he has a severe case of cognitive dissonance or he's merely trying to mess with the minds of his readers. You cannot severely physically discipline your child and deny their emotional and physical needs and then spout this advice and expect to be believed, unless you are in Pearl world. … [Read more...]

“How To Win Over Depression” review: 212 – 241

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTo be honest, if Tim had stopped writing the chapter on how to help your depressed child at page 216, I wouldn’t have a single problem with anything he says in this single, solitary chapter. His first bits of advice are:Give your children a lot of love and affection. Accept them. Avoid anger in the home. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 17 – Homeschoolers Embracing The World?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Jumping Ship Part 3Editor's note: Notice below that Michael Pearl denies much of what he has gone on to teach, Getting kids to realize you care about them, not belittling them, treating them with respect and dignity. Where is the respect and dignity in using a switch on teenagers? Or any child? This entire series and the book that came later was written in 2005, almost as if he was trying to soften his own words in "To Train Up A Child" and gaslight anyone that used his harsh training principles who may have said they didn't work. … [Read more...]

How Abstinence Only Sex Education Led Me Down An Unexpected Path

by Amber Barnhill cross posted with permission from her blog Atheist By Accident.This was posted earlier in the week at Hemant Mehta's Patheos blog The Friendly AtheistWhen talking about my religious past, I often find myself referencing movies. How else are mainstream humans going to relate? Neo waking up in The Matrix. The barely-audible Asian chick in Pitch Perfect. And, in this case, Drew Barrymore‘s role in Never Been Kissed. If you’ve never seen the movie, the title really says it all.Imagine being an almost-24-year-old, intelligent, moderately-attractive-yet-socially-awkward female venturing into the real world for the first time, having never even held hands with a guy an … [Read more...]