Quoting Quiverfull: God Created Your Sinful Desires?

by Mark Watson as republished at No Greater Joy - Confidence When Facing TemptationEditor's note: This is one of those letters that the Pearls purport to get from others praising them for helping them overcome all sorts of stuff. This letter was accompanied with an article written in a rambling style about how the author had struggled with 'lust', but without the usual Pearl-dose of blaming and shaming that goes on in the likely-fake letters they publish. This is another toxic meme in quiverfull and fundamentalist beliefs, that God created you in such a way that you will constantly be tempted to sin. Their version of God always comes across like some sick and cruel bastard. Who would … [Read more...]

My History in the Conservative Quiverfull Home Schooling Movement: An Introduction to the Gender and Authority Series

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the Shepherd(Editor's note: This series was originally posted in 2011 and is written from the perspective of a woman that is still a Christian.)Dear friends,I've been posting articles and web links for my series on Gender & Authority this past week, and just compiled them all into the July edition of my Hope Chest e-magazine which is sent to about 950 families around the world. This is the introduction I gave to those who don't know me, and I thought it would serve well as an introduction to the blog series, too... … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Give In To What Your Husbant Wants All The Time?

by Stephane Singletary from Purposeful and Meaningful - What To Do When You Are Married To An Unbelieving HusbandEditor's note: What?!? So not only are you supposed to endlessly submit to a guy that isn't living the same way you are but now you're supposed to also go along with him and have no opinions or disagreements on day to day life? It sounds almost as though what's being advocated is worshiping your husband and turning him into the center of a cult of two people, him as the sacred leader/idol and you, the only worshiper/servant. This is not how emotionally healthy marriages function no matter what this woman says. This is not how respect between spouses works. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How To Get Busy For The Lord?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, OKrational and the best possible solution, in other words … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Submit To Your Husband To Win Him To Jesus?

by Stephane Singletary of Purposeful and Meaningful - What To Do When You Are Married To An Unbelieving HusbandEditor's note: This is another one of those incredibly toxic beliefs in Evangelical Quiverfull, 'Submit enough in the right way and your husband will be changed enough to treat you the way you long to be treated.' It never works, it just creates an environment for weak men to become even weaker and to abuse their wives mentally, emotionally, financially and physically. … [Read more...]

Please Vote ‘No’ For Theocracy, Ted Cruz and Kevin Swanson’s God

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyIt’s blizzarding here in Boston today and I’m stuck at home, in a house creaking with snowy wind gusts, with this lovely view, watching YouTube videos while eating leftover king cake. My boyfriend is barely awake because Bostonians seem to love sleeping in on snow days. But I’ve been up for hours, finding myself wondering whether a breakfast beer would be appropriate around 9. Now considering back home in New Orleans it is Lundi Gras and beer or a bloody Mary would be totally expected, here it just doesn’t seem like it meshes with the environment. Boston is a place where people get nighttime trashed (“holding your liquor” not see … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Silly Silly Non-Believers Ruining World For Lack of Wisdom?

by Colin Campbell from Meat For Men - His Heightened Senses 15bEditor's note: I guess Colin is not 'Feeling the Bern' if any of his recent posts are any indication. What he is feeling is all political, discussing the various candidates and how they line up with his views. Much of it is centered around abortion, mostly his insistence that there be no abortion exceptions made in cases or rape or incest. According to him every child conceived must be born. He's mentioning names and candidates, promoting some, excoriating others, from his charitable ministry platform against the IRS rules on political jockeying. Here he's blaming poor judgment for many things wrong in the USA and is saying … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 1 What Saith The Scriptures? (Yes, It’s THOSE Scriptures)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 143-145Today we're discussing the Bible verses that back up what Michael teaches. Honestly, I'm not too excited about this section. Once, my husband's ex-coworker (and ex-best friend, now), and I had a disagreement. I had a problem with my husband going to his house for a game day with a whole bunch of guys. I had a lot of reasons (I was mentally unstable at that point, the wives were literally expected to serve the men, the men smoked cigars and drank alcohol) that I emailed to him as kind of a rationale why it upset me when my husband went. In lieu of a reply to my points, he sent EVERY single Bible verse that talks about … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Taking Every Thought Captive?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Take Them CaptiveEditor's note: If I were to write a list of the more toxic ideas in Evangelical Christianity this one would be top of the list. In Quiverfull you are never allowed to feel your own emotions or think anything even slightly critical or counter to any idea presented as the truth. Can it be helpful to organize your thoughts or focus on other things when your thoughts go into some dark spaces? Yes, but the world of Quiverfull takes it all too far into suppressing your thoughts and feelings to the detriment of your own emotional health. Yes, Nancy, you CAN help others when you are experiencing negative thoughts or emotions. You aren't … [Read more...]

A Brief Visit to ‘The War Room’ – (Shut Up and Get in the Closet)

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace Does anyone remember old Doug Phillips' San Antonio Independent Christian Film Festival, back before the demise of Vision Forum? Well, Vision Forum may have dissolved but its acolytes didn't. It seems that they continue to produce sappy, schmaltzy films which seem wholesome and virtuous. Those of us who are familiar with the religion and the lifestyle quickly recognize that the films like Fireproof and Courageous aren't just sugar and schmaltz. … [Read more...]