Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Confused With All These Denominations

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Review Part 1 – “Spanking, Why, When, How” by Roy Lessin

This is a review posted at many different websites including at Amazon for this book on spanking in the Christian home.  One of the reasons I am sharing this is that the Duggar family has linked to several of Roy Lessin's books on child training, like "How to be Parents of Happy and Obedient Children" and stated that they use many of the child rearing tips in the book.Since so many people are in complete denial about what Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar believe in and do when the cameras are not rolling we need to educate them. Particularly since in a mere few weeks TLC will start airing 'Counting On', a series of specials focusing on Jill Duggar Dillard and Jessa Duggar in an attempt for … [Read more...]

Why Baptists Refuse to Believe I was Once a Christian

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser(Editor's note: This is a pretty common reaction to people still Christians in your former life when you leave their church. They immediately love to tell you what you are, what you never were and where you're going because they cannot cope with the reality that you just walked away from the very thing they base their entire lives on. Have you dear readers experienced this? Well you're not alone.)My story poses a real problem for Baptists.  According to Baptist soteriology (doctrines pertaining to salvation), once nonbelievers are saved (born again, becomes a Christian), they can never lose their salvation. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Be a Stay At Home Mother or God Will Punish You?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender - Young ladies - if you pursue a career you may fail the Christian race - linked through Do Not Link Editor's note: There's just so much that is so awful in his long posting on how women must stay home and raise a family that I cannot quote it all here. The bit I'm quoting alludes to something BGR has spoken about in the comments of his site: that his current wife was punished by God with a serious health issue that keeps her from working. In his eyes God is forcing his wife to live her life according to his antiquated ideas. Abusive much? … [Read more...]

Deadly Submission – Why Guys Like Biblical Gender Roles Matter & the Damage They Cause

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeETA Monday 11-23-15 Have to admit I was completely wrong on this one. They have arrested three guys for this murder with no apparent connection to Davey Blackburn. Breaking news from Fox 59~~~~~~~~~We've followed Biblical Gender Roles for about six months now. Gasping in shock at some newer more outrageous statement of his, laughed at some of the things coming out of mouth like that disastrous Alan Combs interview he did. But one thing we have not done here at NLQ is realize how his contemptuous words against women in marriage could have serious influence on unhappy husbands and possibly lead to tragic … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Get Certified to be Porn-Free?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - The ChallengeEditor's note: Fortunately this is the last foray into the disgusting porn minefield that exists in the mind of Mr. Pearl. I am rather surprised that he's not advocating this or that porn web browser blocker service, or pitching one of his daughters under employed husbands to install and monitor accountability software. He's got a huge ad for his 'Science of Addiction' DVD on the page. The last time I witnessed a 'Good Christian Patriarch' rant on this subject in a church I attended he'd had a huge problem with internet porn himself and he was selling his services as an accountability service/software installer. Not surprisingly no one … [Read more...]

The Upper Hand

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsI just have to say I had the best time yesterday!  I and my family went to an auction.  One of our former church’s plants has bought an old building in the town where I teach and they were selling off old (and I mean OLD) doors, windows, cabinets, trim, etc.Now, you have to understand that my husband and I were repurposing long before repurposing was cool.  We live in a 103-year-old prairie-mission style home on an acre in the middle of mid-west farmland.  We completely returned our home to it’s original style (it had been “updated” back in the 70’s) using old trim and doors from the local city hall when they renovated, as well as v … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Sodomy is the New Norm in the Church?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy  - The ChallengeEditor's note: Michael is at it again, making outrageous claims about how the church is now a cess pit when 15 years ago only 1% of the members were hentai-loving. I do not know where he is getting his statistics but that 1% of regular porn consumers is bound to be way way off. I knew guys twenty years ago in the church struggling with serious porn issues, this is not some recent thing that Michael can use to shill his addiction series. And yes, there was child molestation and incest in families, yes, even 'Good Christian' families much earlier than he states too. Too bad "Back to the Future" Delorean time machine isn't real or we … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why All the Risky Behavior?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.For all the careful and sometimes repressive behavior in Quiverfull Evangelical Christianity why do so many do some many risky things. I'm not just talking about the Duggars flying through a derecho storm last week to get Josh home. I'm talking about risking everything under the claim that the angels will keep God's elect from even dashing their foot on a rock. Examples: Vyckie Garrison ignoring all medical advice to nearly lose her life giving birth. Or the long dead lady at my last church that refused all medical treatment for breast cancer because … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – The Computer is a Porn Dispencing Machine?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - The ChallengeEditor's note: Sharing this bit by bit because of the so bizarre nature of Michael's false claims. He stated in a previous piece that porn, incest and infidelity as a problem did not exist in the church twenty years ago. That's what happens when you live in a backwater cocoon wrapped in your own world, you mistake everything else as the same way of life. It's just not that simple no matter what Mr. Pearl says. Why does personal responsibility never seem to exist in Pearl World? … [Read more...]