Why Can’t Christians Cope With Disagreement?

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalA few weeks ago I wrote a post entitled Why Can't Churches Deal With Disagreement? I was discussing the fact that most of my experience with that particular institution has encompassed an enforced conformity to a single viewpoint (usually that of the leader/s) and a lack of willingness to have the difficult conversations which are needed for real unity to occur.Yesterday, I had an experience which left me wondering (yet again) why it is that individual christians also fail so miserably at this necessary skill. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Have Sex With Your Man So He Doesn’t Cheat?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles - How a Husband Can Enjoy Sex That is Grudgingly Given by His WifeEditor's note: Here BGR says the exact same thing that Michelle Duggar has said both recently and in the past: If a woman isn't giving up sex, the right kind of sex, often enough for her husband he might cheat. Why is it that all the men in this type of fundamentalism are so puny and weak that they cannot control their own bodies and must be sexually catered to instead of, you know, living like most everyone else does and controlling their sexual desires? … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Go-To Marries Command Man

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Ask Your Wife About Foreplay or Technique?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com - How a Husband Can Enjoy Sex That is Grudgingly Give by His WifeEditor's note: This alone may be one of the worst pieces of marital advice given by this man. Of course you should talk about these things if something isn't going right in the bedroom instead of faking that it's wonderful. Eventually the fakee is going to be fed up and explode on the one insisting she fake it. Recipe for disaster like so much marriage advice given in the world of Evangelical Quiverfull. If you are doing it wrong and your wife tells you this you should listen! … [Read more...]

The Fruit of the Spirit

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserBut the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. (Galatians 5:22,23)I spent the first 50 years of my life in the Christian church and I spent 25 years pastoring churches in Ohio, Texas, and Michigan. I have met thousands of Christians in my lifetime. Even now, seven years removed from the last time I attended a Christian church, I continue to meet Christians and interact with them on this blog, through email, and on Facebook. My exposure to the personal lives of hundreds of Christians allows me to draw some … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Force Your Body To Turn On, Or Just Fake That Orgasm?

by Biblical Gender Roles at Biblical Gender Roles.com - How Can a Husband Enjoy Sex That is Grudgingly Given by His Wife?Editor's note: As always we're linking to Dood Obsessed With His Penis through Do Not Link.com. No need to inflate his ego any larger by increasing his Google rankings, which he's crowed about several times in his blog. Okay, this is getting even weirder than usual, first he says that women need to focus on their bodies being ready for sex and follows that by saying she should fake her orgasm if she's not turned on. Translation: he does not care if she enjoys it as long as Mr. Happy gets off. … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet – Part 8 Mr. Steady (You’re Valuable, But Nobody Cares or Notices)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 99-101I've made mention of this earlier, but this section is more pronounced. It seems that Michael has very little respect for a Mr. Steady. Possibly because he views himself as Command/Visionary? I'm not sure, but the more I read in this chapter, the stronger that feeling gets. Let me know if you agree/disagree.Text is in purple … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Michael Pearl Invented ‘Healthy’ Patriarchy?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - The Balanced PatriarchEditor's note: Even as far back as 2009 Michael was throwing shade at Bill Gothard and Doug Phillips over their patriarchal teachings, well before the news that both men are sexual predators emerged. The original article has a longer version of the history of patriarchy and society's problems, but we're picking up the history at the time that the Pearls claim they started practicing it. Lots of blaming others per usual.  … [Read more...]

The Not-So-Ridiculous Reasons People Leave Church

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P FieldEvery once in a while, someone I know on Facebook will share a joke or a meme that makes me grit my teeth because it makes me feel dismissed. Most recently it was this one: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Characteristics of ‘Good’ Patriarchs?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - The Balanced PatriarchEditor's note: So how many of these characteristics listed below have we actually seen at work in the writings of the Pearls? From here it looks like very few, that most of the characteristics pushed in the various writings by the Pearls line up more with the 'Bad' list. … [Read more...]