Quoting Quiverfull: Be Zealous Over Your Home & Kids?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Are You Eaten Up?Editor's note: More of Nancy's 'control your emotions to be ever cheerful and keep your home and children zealously. Or the verbal beatings will continue. Nancy's messages really break down into a few simple ideas. 1 - Never have negative thoughts or emotions. 2 - Keep your home and family perfectly at all times. 3 - Be happy and/or zealous in your role as a mother/housekeeper. 4 - You are not doing it as perfectly as I am. Who really needs this type of mind-screw? … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Do Fundamentalist Quiverfull Christians Think They Are Being Threatened In Every Interaction With The World?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.While reading through the piles of horrific questions and bad advice over at the message board for Debi Pearl's book "Preparing To Be A Help Meet" I kept seeing one of the commenters posting links again and again to her blog. She also kept insisting that all these random happenings were the world, or the devil, or evil trying to impact the Christian and change their morals in the most subtle way. Went to her blog and read this, which led to today's question. Misspellings and grammar-mangling left as the original author posted. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Look At Her Sinning Face During Sex?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com - How a Husband Can Enjoy Sex That is Grudgingly Given by His WifeEditor's note: This is possibly the worst part of the entire article, worse than insisting that husbands will cheat without sex, worse than saying 'fake it' and much worse than refusing to talk about sexual performance and likes. This ignores all consent and is pretty much straight up rape. Hounding someone into agreeing to sex against their own desires is a type of rape, or at least verges on it. BGR doesn't see it that way, he's just interested in his own selfish sexual pleasure. … [Read more...]

Why Can’t Christians Cope With Disagreement?

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalA few weeks ago I wrote a post entitled Why Can't Churches Deal With Disagreement? I was discussing the fact that most of my experience with that particular institution has encompassed an enforced conformity to a single viewpoint (usually that of the leader/s) and a lack of willingness to have the difficult conversations which are needed for real unity to occur.Yesterday, I had an experience which left me wondering (yet again) why it is that individual christians also fail so miserably at this necessary skill. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Have Sex With Your Man So He Doesn’t Cheat?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles - How a Husband Can Enjoy Sex That is Grudgingly Given by His WifeEditor's note: Here BGR says the exact same thing that Michelle Duggar has said both recently and in the past: If a woman isn't giving up sex, the right kind of sex, often enough for her husband he might cheat. Why is it that all the men in this type of fundamentalism are so puny and weak that they cannot control their own bodies and must be sexually catered to instead of, you know, living like most everyone else does and controlling their sexual desires? … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Go-To Marries Command Man

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Ask Your Wife About Foreplay or Technique?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com - How a Husband Can Enjoy Sex That is Grudgingly Give by His WifeEditor's note: This alone may be one of the worst pieces of marital advice given by this man. Of course you should talk about these things if something isn't going right in the bedroom instead of faking that it's wonderful. Eventually the fakee is going to be fed up and explode on the one insisting she fake it. Recipe for disaster like so much marriage advice given in the world of Evangelical Quiverfull. If you are doing it wrong and your wife tells you this you should listen! … [Read more...]

The Fruit of the Spirit

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserBut the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. (Galatians 5:22,23)I spent the first 50 years of my life in the Christian church and I spent 25 years pastoring churches in Ohio, Texas, and Michigan. I have met thousands of Christians in my lifetime. Even now, seven years removed from the last time I attended a Christian church, I continue to meet Christians and interact with them on this blog, through email, and on Facebook. My exposure to the personal lives of hundreds of Christians allows me to draw some … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Force Your Body To Turn On, Or Just Fake That Orgasm?

by Biblical Gender Roles at Biblical Gender Roles.com - How Can a Husband Enjoy Sex That is Grudgingly Given by His Wife?Editor's note: As always we're linking to Dood Obsessed With His Penis through Do Not Link.com. No need to inflate his ego any larger by increasing his Google rankings, which he's crowed about several times in his blog. Okay, this is getting even weirder than usual, first he says that women need to focus on their bodies being ready for sex and follows that by saying she should fake her orgasm if she's not turned on. Translation: he does not care if she enjoys it as long as Mr. Happy gets off. … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet – Part 8 Mr. Steady (You’re Valuable, But Nobody Cares or Notices)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 99-101I've made mention of this earlier, but this section is more pronounced. It seems that Michael has very little respect for a Mr. Steady. Possibly because he views himself as Command/Visionary? I'm not sure, but the more I read in this chapter, the stronger that feeling gets. Let me know if you agree/disagree.Text is in purple … [Read more...]