Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Thoughts on Shalom’s Article?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: No Fun in Mothering Leads to Happiness?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Happiness is the By-Product of a Life Well-LivedEditor's note: Oh good gravy! Nowhere in this piece, not even in the unquoted bits is there really anything that really proves or addresses Lori's title that happiness comes by how you live. True that if you're fulfilled by being your most authentic genuine self you can have great happiness. But this kvetching about doing the right thing every time with your children leads to happiness, not having fun with them, isn't necessarily true. How many times at NLQ have we seen or read about frustrated joy-less parents controlling every aspect of their children's lives or suffering martyr-like through … [Read more...]

Craniorectal Inversions That Misjudge the Book by its Cover

by Cindy Kunsman cross  posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace used with permission Just a reminder that the purpose of this discussion aims at stimulating thought and self awareness as tools to help those in recovery from trauma learn how to make safer choices. To make the discussion more jocular, we've defined Cognitive Biases as “CranioRectal Inversions” (CRI). … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Wife Complaining is Being Emotional?

by Bezaleel Cummings from No Greater Joy Magazine - Wisdom That Works: Three Essential Relationship RulesEditor's note: Don't know if we should be amused or offended by relationship advice from a guy who has only been married 18 months now. Get back to me when it's been 18 years and I'll take what he is saying more seriously. That's still the honeymoon phase, very likely there's nothing that has gone wrong between this young couple yet. But this idea he is promoting, that women are all emotional is a toxic dangerous one. And on the flip side, if you are upset with your spouse over something please learn how to discuss it rationally without being the all emotional little women these … [Read more...]

Treatment: Is Justice Delayed Justice At All For Carol Ann Cole?

by Suzanne TitkemeyerThis week on several of the Facebook groups dedicated to finding out who killed Bossier Doe Carol Ann Cole a photo was posted of what looks like it could possibly be Carol Ann. She was posing with three other teenagers, the rest with their faces blurred out to protect their identity. The photo is purported to have been taken at a PDAP -Palmer Drug Abuse Program in Austin, Texas while she was there. Take a look for yourself. The girl that might be Carol Ann is circled in black: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Parental Anger is Because You Failed to Discipline Properly and Quickly?

by Kelsie Steele from No Greater Joy Magazine - You Don't Have to YellEditor's note: This isn't necessarily bad advice taken at face value. But knowing that to the Pearls and their followers 'Discipline' is code for 'Spanking the living daylights out of them' puts it into an entirely different context. … [Read more...]

Shackled Girl: Part 13 – Will Alleged Rapist Question Child Victim in Court?

by PropinquaEditor’s note: Toledo media, why don’t you ask about the limbo in which the three children from the Ciboro household are stuck, and the potential trauma they face in court? The legal shenanigans of the Ciboro men do not bode well for a speedy, orderly trial. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Stay Silent Even if You Know More?

by Sarah's Daughter from the Sarah's Daughter Blog - Competing WivesEditor's note: This is a really bad idea we've seen floated many times in the Quiverfull movement. Let the man take on any task he pleases and even if you have a PhD in that particular task you as the wife are never to open your mouth. Which is so wrong. Everyone has different talents and it really is wisdom if you have the person in the marriage that is talented in a certain area do that task. Offering help or suggestions is not being critical either! There's no element of competition in doing what you are talented at. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 7 The Boys

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuoted material from the book will be in blue text.For people who have been reading along with Botkin Sisters through this series what I will say next will surprise no one. The Botkin Sisters  manage to find guys who are willing to talk about how girls should talk to each other about guys when no guys are around. Let that sink in for a minute. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Everything You Do Reflects On Your Husband?

by Sarah's Daughter at Sarah's Daughter Blog - Competing WivesEditor's note: So now we're not only supposed to control how we come across to others so they'll think well of us, but also so that no one will think less of our husbands? Interesting that she cites no Bible verses that support this idea.onsn … [Read more...]