Why It Matters: Picking The Lock of Christian Patriarchy

March 8, 2013 By 7 Comments
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by Mattie Chapman Yesterday the Feminisms Fest was all about why we’re feminists. Today’s question is: why does it matter? I read Emily Joy Allison’s post this morning about how feminism matters to her because of her younger sisters, and chuckled, because she basically

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Quoting Quiverfull: Childish Homeschooler Syndrome Part 2

March 8, 2013 By 5 Comments
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by Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin at Visionary Daughters Is growing up in a Christian home an advantage to us, or a disadvantage? We pointed out in our last article that children from Christian homes are beneficiaries of many advantages. The danger is when we let

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CTBHHM: The Jezebel Type

March 7, 2013 By 5 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 19-20 Debi starts Chapter 1, “God’s Gift,” with her signature act: A letter she received from a reader. This letter provides an excellent illustration of why women are drawn to Debi’s advice. Dear Mike and Debi, I want to thank

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Quoting Quiverfull: Childish Homeschooler Syndrome Part 1

March 7, 2013 By 5 Comments
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Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin at Visionary Daughters – “Childish Homeschooler Syndrome Part 1″ It’s been exciting to watch the homeschool “movement” grow up. The firstfruits of this effort are adults now, and we have a sizable

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Homeschool or Public School – What’s Worse?

March 6, 2013 By 11 Comments
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by Becoming Worldly I was talking with a homeschooled friend the other day who was raised fairly similar to how I was, with a more structured and less impoverished environment, and we were sharing stories. This and a few other things got me thinking. We both went on to higher education, got our masters degrees. [...]

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