The Cold Never Bothered Me Anyway

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsJust as in “Frozen,” my “shame” was in being “found out.”Not that I was really hiding anything.  Because if what happened to me – the condemnation, ostracism, shunning – if all of that was appropriate, then why would it need to be hidden?  The simple fact that I was told from the beginning that I was not to talk about it smacks of “what we are doing here is NOT appropriate.” … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 Lori Alexander is the Most Modest Ever?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - The Harm in Worldly FineryEditor's note: While Lori isn't speaking about the sin of yoga pants this seems very hypocritical from the few photos she has of herself posted online. While not arrayed in a ton of gold, pearls or designer goods she looks very well dressed. According to this below you should take care to look plain, making it sound like if you do not adorn yourself in cast offs too humble even for Goodwill then you are sinning. Oh the slippery slope of judging the modest of others merely opens it up for others to judge you. Best to wear what's suitable that you like and not worry about the modest of others for them. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Do Quiverfull People Vote Against Their Own Benefit?

This is a series we run every Thursday. The questions are things that people who may not know much about the Quiverfull movement or even Fundamentalist or Evangelical Christianity ask about the lifestyle. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life can only shine a light on the toxic nature of this lifestyle choice. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Bible Only Godly Entertainment?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Do You Have Godly Conversations?Editor's note: Lori is still quoting Charles Spurgeon, insisting that reading your Bible and laying in the sun are two of the few Godly ways to find entertainment. What is interesting about this entire piece that I've quoted over the course of days in December and now in January is that it seems most of the things Spurgeon is talking about and Lori is seizing upon are things that are 100% opposite of what she does on her blog. There is some heavy duty cognitive dissonance going on here! … [Read more...]

Bonding and Bondage in Abusive Relationships

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the ShepherdIn case you're wondering why you can't "just get over it" from a painfully abusive or damaging or destructive relationship: Trauma bonding makes any relationship harder to end, harder to heal, harder to find freedom from through forgiveness, than the loss of a true love. The neural pathways burned into a brain in trauma bonding are laid down in powerful fear/anxiety hormonal rushes leaving even comparatively good memories with the person colored with the stains of those traumatic events. The loss of anyone we have loved -- whether they have treated us very well indeed or in a deplorable manner -- is something that will heal … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Only Loving Words and Actions?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Do You Have Godly Conversations?Editor's note: Lori is quoting Charles Spurgeon again and stretching his words on loving kind words to mean you must win your husband and others over by treating your husband lovingly all the time. How do you parse something to go from 'Love one another' - a simple and clear instruction to 'Make everyone around you believers by how you treat your husband'? Treating your spouse lovingly is a good idea, but not by thinking this is going to convert everyone around you. Besides, we've seen what her ideas of loving are and they aren't good. … [Read more...]

Answering Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Questions To Ask Your Future Husband

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Confusing Communion With Passover?

by Zsuzanna Anderson from Are They All Yours?? - Q & A Answers Part OneEditor's note: While I don't care personally how often Faithful Word Baptist church or any other church celebrates communion or if they get communion and Passover confused this does illustrate an important point. If you find yourself in a faith community that tries to tell you that one thing is clearly another, or denigrates/down plays something that is important in the Bible please know you've arrived in a dangerous place and RUN! … [Read more...]

Distinguishing Doctrine From Behavior

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceI recently pointed out the connection between the Great Commission “Bible-based cult” and Vision Forum through the person of Geoffrey Botkin. The Great Commission group (GC, GCM, GCI, GCAC, etc.) has been classified as a variant group that follows of the shepherding/discipleship/submission doctrine, terms with which many Christians still remain unfamiliar. For the benefit of all, I would like to define these terms in the next few blog posts. Botkin, former Administriative Assistant and business partner of the founder of a very cultic … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Accidental Birth Control is a Sin?

by Zsuzanna Anderson of Are They All Yours?? - Q & A Answers Part OneEditor's note: Interesting that even using a substance that might shut down your reproductive system even temporarily is a sin. The question makes you wonder if the original questioner is backhandedly groping around for a 'non-sinful' way to shut down her fertility. Wonder if the Campbell daughters, or their mother Nancy Campbell, promoter of all Quiverfull, realize that they are pushing a natural birth control. … [Read more...]