Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – I’m Ready to Date But Don’t Know Where to Begin?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – I Can’t Control Her So Should I Dump Her?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy magazine Should the Relationship Move Forward?Editor's note: And so Michael answers yesterday's 'letter'  Here's what I do not get about either the letter or Michael Pearl's reply to it -- who's to say that her parents allowing these kids to hang out at their home aren't doing the will of God by showing hospitality? How does he know that his female friend isn't witnessing to these young men? Funny how everything is always assumed to be bad in Pearl World. … [Read more...]

Part 2 – Churches That Abuse, Why Good People Do Bad Things and Why Bad People Do Bad Things

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserIn the first part of this post I dealt with Churches That Abuse: Why Bad people do Bad things. I wrote: Churches attract all kinds of people with varying motivations for being a part of a particular religion. I spent fifty years in the Independent Baptist/Non-Denominational/Evangelical church. When it comes … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – I Can’t Control Her So Should I Dump Her?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy magazine - Should the Relationship Move Forward?Editor's note: Starting with another Pearl letter. Can you guess how Michael is going to answer this one? After years of quoting Mr. Pearl I can say that he is very predictable. Real letter or another Pearl invention? … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 3 Chapter 2

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids's just 1.5 pages.  I can do this.  I can do this.Overarching Theme: Women can cause one man to act totally different! See how David responded to Abigail and Bathsheba. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Spanking ‘Strong-Willed’ Children?

by Jessica Smartt of Smartter Every Day - Your Kids Want You to Discipline ThemEditor's note: While I would agree with her that you must reward good behavior and discourage bad behavior that's as far as it goes. Physical punishment - spanking - should have no place in in emotionally healthy homes no matter what an ancient book by James Dobson says. It only teaches a child that those who are bigger and stronger can inflict violence upon them, that violence is a legitimate way to settle things. There are so much better parenting options out there, such as the Love and Logic series, that do not involve beating your precious child! … [Read more...]

The Young Turks’ Commentary: Use the Quiver to Burst the High Demand Bubble

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace used with permission Here's another twist on the Apple Meme Theme resulting from Vyckie Garrison's recent Raw Story article and Cenk Uygur's commentary on it (see video below).Most Christians have likely heard the words from Psalm 127 which were borrowed to describe the Evangelical Christian “Quiverfull Movement” (QF) and will recognize that compares families to an archer who is prepared for battle: “As arrows in the hand of a mighty man, so are the children of one's youth. Happy is the man whose quiver is full of them.”  … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Fear That Everyone Around Your Children Are Molesters?

by Michael Pearl/'Tommy' in the March/April 2016 No Greater Joy magazine - Tommy's StoryEditor's note: Another handcrafted 'letter' from the Pearl's correspondence that seems to perfectly support his suppositions that you cannot trust anyone around your children; not pastors, not friends, not teachers. What do you think? Is this a real letter or one made up by the Pearls to frighten their audience into not thinking? Michael has some pretty vehement warnings posted all over this piece insisting that kids get permission from their parents before reading. If it's true then I'm immensely sorry for 'Tommy', but it seems a little too pat to be a real letter. If nothing else it shows how … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Ignore Troubling Signs in Children?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.Recently as I've dug through the message board postings for Debi Pearls book 'Preparing To Be A Help Meet' for NLQ's feature Answering 'Preparing To Be A Help Meet' I've come across many very disturbing postings where young ladies are asking about things like being healed of poor vision instead of going to the eye doctor for an examination and glasses. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Should Have No Rights?

by Steven L. Anderson as quoted by Church and State - Conservative Pastor Preaches That Women Should Be Banned From Voting And Confined To Their HomesEditor's note: Just like Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles Steven Anderson wants women to be owned property, owned by their husbands without any say or rights over their own lives. Very complimentarian and fundamentalist, this type of thinking sets up an environment where spousal abuse flourishes. … [Read more...]