Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Man Ought To Find A Woman?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Fathers Own Daughters?

by Sarah Faith Schlissel from Chalcedon and - Daddy's Girl: Courtship and a Father's RightsEditor's note: This is piece is too lengthy, creepy, wrong and toxic to unpack in one short quoting so this is split into pieces. What do you think? Do daddys own their daughters even without the mess that is courtship? … [Read more...]

How They Hook You – Spotting Logical Fallacies and Propaganda Techniques

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much More Grace Spotting Logical Fallacies and Propaganda TechniquesThe techniques of thought reform as defined by Robert Lifton are based upon a series of logical leaps and informal logical fallacies. Knowing the basics of commonly used fallacies and propaganda techniques can help reduce the likelyhood of manipulation. Like a good batter … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Train a Child Out of Shyness?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Train, Train, Train Your ChildrenEditor's note: This is in response to a reader writing to complain about her child she calls 'high strung' and 'very dramatic'. She tells a story of the child spilling water on her clothing and oh so selfishly demanding to change clothing right then. Sounds reasonable to me. Wet clothing are uncomfortable and sometimes chafing. Would not an adult go change their clothing if it was uncomfortable wet? I know she says it was a 'tiny' amount of water, but she never says how 'tiny' that is. But being inflexible and treating reasonable requests as spoiled behavior is it really much farther to the rod both the … [Read more...]

Helping the Least of These

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: In light of the recent hateful words of Steven Anderson about why he does not help the poor through his church I decided to ask NLQ SASBN member Bruce Gerencser how he and his Independent Fundamentalist Baptist church handled people asking for charity. He answers. It's a great counter balance to the hate and scorn flung by Anderson. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Kick Out Sinning Adult Children?

by Colin Campbell of Meat For Men - Part 12 Signs of a Turned HeartEditor's note: How do you 'admonish' someone' in a spirit of meekness'? Every time I've seen this type of admonishment it's been rife with blaming, shaming, pride, authoritative behavior and other attitudes not meek at all. What do you think? Is it ever right to toss a teenager out over things they do that you do not believe in? … [Read more...]

You’re Not Broken

by Eliza Do Lots from her blog I Run on CaffeineFor long periods in my life, I’ve felt broken. Broken by things that have happened to me, by the things that other people have done, and said, to me. About me. I’ve felt that I’m shattered into pieces, and don’t know how to carry on, and I’ve felt lost, and alone, and afraid.In those times, where I’ve felt that I’m simply the dust that once made up a person, with no idea how to put myself back together, I’ve wished for someone or something to walk into my life and sweep me back together into some semblance of a whole.I’ve sought out a fix, a solution, a magic Fairy Godmother or dashing Prince Charming, to take over and tell me, or s … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Christianity Ended Effeminate Men?

by Tim Bayly from the Bayly Blog - On the Occasion of Michael Ferris Leaving HSLDAEditor's note: This pile of nonsensical word salad without dressing has too many bizarre parts to just pick one. I think that Bayly might be grappling around trying to say that the country is going to h-e-double hockey sticks in that decorated hand basket. Of course, I could be wrong, but the leap of Ferris from HSLDA to another organization is his proof. Snipped off the part at the end where Bayly is picking his pastor school as the solution to these evils. … [Read more...]

Redeeming Love – Part 4 – These Boots Are Made For Walking

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P. Field.comPlot Summary:Angel continues (physically) healing. Michael takes her to see a sunrise. Later, they have sex for the first time. She tries to leave, but gets lost and has to return to Michael’s farm. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Sex Gives You Cooties?

by Steven Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church - Flee FornicationEditor's note: Has anyone ever heard of picking up non-STD infections from lots of sex with others? News to me. Plus the whole 'Why by the cow when you can get the milk for free' is one of the most insulting cliches that reduces women to sex objects/animals. Also, is rampant fornication more of a problem in the church than out in the real world? The way that Vaughn Ohlman, Steven Anderson and others carry on about the subject makes you think that the Quiverfull world is one short step away from a Roman orgy scene out of Caligula. Circle, circle, dot, dot, dot I'm glad I got my cootie shot. … [Read more...]