If It Was So Bad, Why Did You Stay?

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsOnce in a while, I get this question. It’s not so different from years ago when I asked my mother the same thing.My father died of colon cancer when I was three years old. My mother rarely spoke of him except to say that his death was the best thing that could have happened to us – his four children. Back in those days, you didn’t challenge or question adults, so I would listen to her comment and wonder what she meant. Was it because he was so ill or so maimed by his disease (he lost most of his intestines and wore a colostomy bag) that it would have been difficult for us? That was my assumption.Then, when I was about twenty yea … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Pampering Your Child is Not Love?

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by J.C. Ryle from his book Training Children: It Starts With Love as quoted by Kelly Crawford of Generation CedarEditor's note: Why is it that every time some Quiverfull cultural enforcer or speaker starts talking of training children that they immediately demonize the child, such as Voddie Baucham did yesterday in R.L. Stollar's 'The Child as Viper'? There's no room for simply loving your children, participating in life with your children without a constant subcontext of evil, no room for the freedom to make mistakes or learning opportunities, or those moments when you lovingly indulge your child because you love them and want to show that. It's all beat the evil out or deny that child … [Read more...]

Things That Matter!

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI'm not sure why it got to me yesterday.After all the times I've had elder J's wife walk past me at school or at the shops in the past two years... all the times she's refused to acknowledge I even exist... all the times she's suddenly been fascinated with the thin air in the opposite direction from where I was...despite all the times I've begged J and his wife to talk through our issues... … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Judgmental Father?

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by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - My Father and My JudgeEditor's note: Nancy has been writing on the fear of the Lord for a week or so now. This bit concerns how we need to fear God as well as love him like a father. Isn't fearing your father one of the hallmarks of a dysfunctional relationship? … [Read more...]

March For Life Day & The Duggar’s Growing Political Activism: This Is Why They Are Dangerous For Our Country

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by Suzanne TitkemeyerNo March For Life Day would be complete without TLC's Duggar family making an appearance. I don't know if they are in Washington D.C. today marching on the National Mall, but it wouldn't surprise me one bit. But they attended and participated in a big way with a March For Life event on Saturday in Little Rock, Arkansas. They blogged about it on their website and produced a video as well. … [Read more...]

The Child as Viper: How Voddie Baucham’s Theology of Children Promotes Abuse

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by R.L. Stollar - Community Coordinator for Homeschoolers Anonymous. Cross posted from Homeschoolers AnonymousEditor's note: A very long read but worthwhile. The more this type of harmful theology is exposed to the general public it creates a much smaller chance that someone else will be taken in by it. Note: the following piece is a long-form article. If you prefer to download and print the article for more convenient reading, you can view and download the article as a PDF here. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Ready For Anything?

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by Zsuzsanna Anderson, wife of Steven L Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church on her blog Are They All Yours? - Oh My, My, Where To Start?Editor's note: Ever since reposting the warning to Steven L. Anderson that claims Israelis are coming to perform vivisection on Zsuzsanna and the children I've been sort of worried, combing through the news reports of homicides in Tempe, hoping their names do not pop up. So far, so good. While I dislike intensely their theology I would never wish anything horrible upon even this family.Then this morning I ran across this posting in Zsuzsanna's blog where she's irately answering a comment critical of her and she had this to say back in 2010 … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 6 Cinderella

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideWe are at the last section of the Leah/David courtship where Leah shares her post-marital advice. Post-marriage thoughts: No Regrets Do you know how nice it is when we look through family photo albums at Christmas to never see David with another girl? No. I assume Leah means with another girlfriend, but either way, seeing a photo of your husband with an ex shouldn't be traumatic. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Don’t Leave Abusive Husband Ever?

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by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Abusive HusbandEditor's note: Today Michael adds his thoughts on abuse and leaving. Not any better than his wife's unfortunately. Trigger warning: This might make you sick to your stomach. Don't say I didn't warn you.  This type of advice is harmful to implement in an abusive marriage and is likely to encourage additional abuse. … [Read more...]

Dear Unmarried Woman: Are You An Appetizer or Dessert?

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserJust when I think I’ve heard all there is to hear from Evangelicals about sex, purity, and the like, someone will write or say something that I have not heard before. In other words, not all the nuts have fallen from the tree.Recently, Bethany Jett, a thirty-something married Evangelical woman who writes on girly topics from a godly perspective, wrote a blog article about two reasons why a woman should save herself for marriage. Here’s what Jett had to say: … [Read more...]


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