Shackled Girl: Part 10 – More Open Questions and Remaining Concerns?

by PropinquaEditor’s note: A continuation of questions not yet resolved in the case of alleged abuse in Toledo. Answers might be revealed during the trial of Timothy and Esten Ciboro. Meanwhile, the public needs to understand abuse better: how to prevent it, identify it, and stop it, and how to help survivors. “Did I ever harm my children ever? No. Did I ever mistreat them? Depends what you call… the mistreating like they’re saying on the news, no.” —Timothy Ciboro (8:43 in raw video) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – You’re Just Making Up Excuses to Avoid Church?

by Steven Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church - Deal Breakers Versus Excuses for Not Going to ChurchEditor's note: Anderson's childish measures for if a church is a good one part 2. Nothing there are all about if it's a good fit for your family and you, or if the church offers the things that matter to you. Nothing about if the church screens their childrens workers or what they will teach in children's Sunday School. It's all about KJV, tracts, pestering folks to salvation and don't bug the minister. Nice. Another GospelSalvation by works in any form is another automatic deal breaker. Always check the plan of salvation on the church website before visiting to make sure they … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Are Many Fundamentalist Churches Cults?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.We have to talk about the 'C' word today: Cults. Is it possible for a Christian church to morph into a cult? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – You’re Just Making Up Excuses to Avoid Church?

by Steven Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church - Deal Breakers Versus Excuses for Not Going to Church Editor's note: Anderson has been a Chatty Cathy on his blog in the last few weeks after years of sporadic updates. He's written some very mild subjects like church unity and budgeting combined with some pretty horrible pieces about the Pope, Jim Jones and the tragic fire bombing in New Orleans  at the Upstairs Lounge. There has been some crazy thrown in like eating sugar is Godly. He keeps referencing how you should never criticize a pastor. I wonder why? Could it be all the public reviews of his church online causing this denial? It's hard to argue with reviews that start off with 'The … [Read more...]

The High Priests of the IFB Using Judaic Texts to ‘Lord It Over’ their Sheep, RCC Style

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Redeeming Dinah Blog commentary concerning on No Longer Quivering in response to Gothard and Williams Draw their Cultic Hatred of Dinah   from the Hebrew Midrash[Blog Host Commentary noted in brackets] and “unique” formatting added to help convey the concepts as clearly as possible. ~ ~ ~ … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: It’s Not Child Abuse Unless I Say So?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Attack on Traditional Child TrainingEditor's note: Just because you were spanked does not make it right. Lori uses in the full piece the fact that she, her husband and Mr. Pearl were spanked as justification for continuing to hit in the face of overwhelming research that proves it's the exact opposite of what they claim. It does harm. It is abuse. It is banned many places for legitimate reasons. Which makes me thankful she's no longer in the classroom and possibly wielding a wooden paddle. Hitting a child is never right, most people discipline their children by having consequences for behavior that aren't abusive, not yelling. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Piercings?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Praise All Men?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Let's Bash Men and Put Them in Their Place!Editor's note: The graphic that Ms. Alexander used in this piece just gives me pause because it's so highly triggering, a fist coming right at the camera. Very inappropriate even for the subject of 'male bashing'. The other problem is that she's not really addressed the issue of how the original author she's complaining about didn't actually male bash so much as apologize for his specific sins against women and for the general sins of misogyny in Christianity. Yes Lori does hate women. She makes that clear in all her writings. That is the real disgusting thing here. … [Read more...]

Elie Wiesel Would Have Been Disappointed in You

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsI haven’t posted in awhile.  But the death of Elie Wiesel brought to mind this quote the spirit of which has always been at the forefront of my thoughts on my experience with spiritual abuse.“We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” – Elie Wiesel … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Boyfriend is Supposed to Lead You to Christ?

by Raegan Thornhill from Delighted in Him - Wait for the Man Who Preaches You the GospelEditor's note: The purity and courtship crowd come up with some of the most confining rules for friendships and relationships. We see how well this works out when you look at the large number of unmarried daughters like the Botkin girls and look at the fact that Christians have higher divorce rates than non-believers. Why not base your relationship on mutual interests, love and attraction and not worry so much about if you are being lead to Christ? … [Read more...]