Quoting Quiverfull: Selfish Worldliness and Fatherhood?

by Colin Campbell from Meat For Men - Signs of a Turned Heart ContinuedEditor's note: Colin seems to believe that any deviation from the 'Good Christian Family' strawman that he and Nancy have constructed is pure selfishness. In the world of Quiverfull it's somehow a moral failure if the family's finance require mother to work as well as father instead of the reality of life for most folks. … [Read more...]

The Psychological Cost of Dying to Self and Deflecting the Praise of Others

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: This seems to be a common problem with people coming out of high demand religious groups in general. Once you get the idea into your head that you are lowly and worthless except in your relationship to God it's hard to take any praise of men.While I have been able to shake off much of the psychological damage done to me by my Evangelical upbringing, Bible college training, and the 25 years I spent in the ministry, several pernicious, frustrating problems remain — my inability to see myself as someone capable of doing good things and my inability to accept the praise of others. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Giving Men’s Rights Activists What They Demand – Sex?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Giving Men a Voice on Being Starved For SexEditor's note: As many of you have noticed before most of the men who post on Lori Alexander's blog are clearly MRA guys. She just made an entire post up of their whining about not receiving all the sex they want upon demand and she ended her post by ordering all women to have as much sex as a husband wants. The type of men she's 'giving a voice' to are the most reprehensible and childish types. Make sure you read through the manifold copious complaints in her original posting.And, no Lori, sex is not primarily about having sex! Men do not only marry to have a handy-dandy available upon demand … [Read more...]

Questioning the Pearls – Too Hard on Others?

For well over a year we’ve been running a second Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we’ve run through many of the questions on their site it’s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Purposely Lie to Your Husband?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - A Tale of the Breakup of a MarriageEditor's note: This is Lori's response to a story circulating the internet right now that might or might not be true - It Backfires When He Writes Demanding Divorce. Pretty sure the story itself is a colorful fiction, but it does point out one thing, staying in a miserable marriage is just a bad idea. Either you start communicating and try to fix some of the issues or you move on. No one, not Lori or anyone else, can or should make the choice for you. The problem is not this woman's response to the things her husband did. But there is a big problem when you try to coddle a man, or give him a participation … [Read more...]

Re-writing Bad Advice Part 1

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comEditor's note: Samantha is doing that wonderful thing of looking at the super -toxic advice given out in Quiverfull-Evangelical circles and rewriting it. First in the series.Among my favorite things in the world are advice columns. I read Dear Abby every week growing up, and as an adult I discovered advice columns like Captain Awkward and Dear Prudence— which is written by Mallory Ortberg, … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 6 – Fathers Own Daughters?

by Sarah Faith Schlissel from Chalcedon and BibleTopics.com – Daddy’s Girl: Courtship and a Father’s RightsEditor's note: That transference of 'ownership' is mentioned here along with being that fathers own daughters that daughters have no free agency to have any romantic relationships with a man not chosen by her father. … [Read more...]

The Power of the Transformed Wife: Part 2 – Grin and Bear It Silently

by Suzanne TitkemeyerWe're back in chapter 8 'Win Him Without a Word' word salad and Lori says this: Remember, the real fight is not with your husband. Ah yes, that old scapegoat from behaving with personal responsibility - Satan. I'm sure he's out there causing tsunamis and earthquakes, far too busy to make your Mr. Right fail penis first into a strange vagina. Satan gets blamed for a lot of things in this culture that we ourselves willingly do. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 – Fathers Own Daughters?

by Sarah Faith Schlissel from Chalcedon and BibleTopics.com – Daddy’s Girl: Courtship and a Father’s RightsEditor's note: More twisted flip-flopping on fathers own daughters theme. This time she claims that a woman cannot make a vow and have it be binding on its own because her vows belong to Daddy. … [Read more...]

Sincere Tyranny

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental “Of all tyrannies, a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It would be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies.  … [Read more...]