The Good Aspects of ‘Bloom Where You’re Planted’

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from Under Much Grace Platitudes can be helpful when they're used well and when both parties understand what they're meant to communicate. Much like pictures, they can encompass and encapsulate more meaning that just the words in-and-of-themselves. They're verbal shorthand that can sometimes be more direct and concise than long discussions, and they're especially helpful when one party doesn't have a lot of emotional energy to stop and listen to a long explanation. We can all imagine a tenacious flower like a dandelion that grows in a tiny bit of soil that has inadvertently collected in a crack in a sidewalk. Sometimes life requires our tougher nature to … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Homeschooling Only Creates Geniuses?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - How Do You Raise Your Children?Editor's note: Please note that Nancy cites no studies or sources for her assertion that homeschooling is the best way to create a child with a genius IQ. You'd think she'd at least name where she took that information. Oh, right, in the world of quiverfull female cultural enforcers are except from backing up their claims with real facts. … [Read more...]

Redeeming Love: Part 1 – Angel’s Backstory

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comFor this review series I’ve decided to split Redeeming Love into twelve sections, around forty pages each, instead of splitting it up by chapters– since the chapters all have varied lengths. Today’s post covers the prologue and the first chapter, which gives us Angel’s backstory. To make things a little easier for those of you who haven’t read the book at all, or in a while, I’ll give plot summaries at the beginning of each post before digging into the themes and imagery I’d like to discuss. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Pokémon Isn’t Jesus?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - What is Your Consuming Passion?Editor's note: In the Gospel According To Nancy if you are not radical completely sold out Christians 24 hours every single day then your kids will be seduced by the devil that is video games and Pokémon. More fear mongering. Perhaps if people were allowed to exist without constant badgering over things to fear there wouldn't be such a deep need for escapism in odd moments of the day. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Life Outside the Cult is Meaningless?

by Steven Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church - Meaningful vs. Meaningless LifeEditor's note: This is one of the big lies preached from the pulpit in Evangelical Christianity, that what you do only has meaning and purpose if you are a 'saved' Christian. It ignores that there are people that do many meaningful things to help others and don't couch it in religious terms or even believe in God.  They are making a difference in the here and now, not hording up possibly imaginary treasures in another dimension.Life has meaning no matter what you believe. This is the lie that preachers tell their followers to keep them hooked into the cult and afraid. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Let Me Tell You How to Look?

by Steven Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church - Your AppearanceEditor's note: Strangely enough Steve stays away from telling you to cover your bits and that skirts must touch your ankles, instead going right to ugliness, body modification and plastic surgery. That's pretty extreme and it's not like plastic surgery doesn't help correct legitimate conditions such as a deviated nose septum or having growths removed from your face. Anderson is right about one thing, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it is very subjective and personal. Interesting mentions in this piece about losing weight. One has to wonder if he is on his wife to lose weight considering how much she mentions … [Read more...]

Safety, Ambiguity, Expectation and Balance

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceThis is part of a series Cindy Kunsman has been writing on recovery from spiritual abuse and trauma. All images by Cindy Kunsman of Under Much Grace and used with permission. As a child, in an effort to comfort me, an elderly woman at my church would encourage me to read what the Apostle Paul wrote to the Church at Philippi. Basically, he says that he learned how to be contented with whatever situation he faced. One of the primary ways of coping with bad situations, according to what he wrote, involves thinking about good things as opposed to dwelling on the bad ones. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: What’s the Difference Between Staring and Creepy Gawking?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Rachel Maddow Offended at Bill Clinton For Calling Hillary a 'Girl'Editor's note: You really need to go to Larry's site and read this opinion piece in full glorious disgusting detail. He starts out talking about how it's okay for Bill Clinton to call his wife a girl before moving on to taking a shot at Rachel Maddow for her sexuality and then somehow morphing this piece into claiming that men ogling women and getting erections is perfectly reasonable and normal. How you get from commenting on Rachel Maddow's take on the comments of a presidential candidate spouse to defending his erection yet again is such a non sequitur. … [Read more...]

Questioning The Pearls: Help! He Wants Me to Go to College!

For well over a year we’ve been running a second Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we’ve run through many of the questions on their site it’s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Crying and Staring Are the Same Thing?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Rachel Maddow Offended at Bill Clinton For Calling Hillary a 'Girl'Editor's note: There is just so much awful and wrong with this opinion piece on Rachel Maddow taking offense at what Bill Clinton said, and it is not so much what it is that Rachel or Bill said. It's the ideas that Larry is coming up with, that women naturally cry exactly the same way that men stare like vile creeps at anyone they are sexually attracted to. Not all women cry, just like not all men are creeps who stare and get hard ons. Just Larry, his pals and assorted weirdos. … [Read more...]