Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 Disobeying Your Visionary Husband?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy – Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids and Hopeful WivesEditor's note: So taking a job to relieve some of the financial stress will leave you bitter and make you leave your husband? Okay, so the leaving the husband is implied not spoken. Wow, male egos are so fragile in Pearl World. Most telling and disgusting is Michael's advice to have the husband over to your parent's home not only to see the kids but for a conjugal visit. He cannot get off his lazy butt to get a job but you still owe him sex? Later today we will be looking at the advice of Michael's fans about this situation. Their advice isn't any better than his. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Is Faith That Fragile?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.Reading through Debi Pearls's site for her book 'Preparing To Be A Help Meet' and many different quiverful and fundamentalist blogs I have noticed a pattern. People afraid to be around 'non-believers', giving the stated reason of being afraid that their faith will be negatively impacted. What does it say about your faith when it can be so threatened by anyone outside of the custom tailored bubble? Why so weak? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 Disobeying Your Visionary Husband?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids and Hopeful WivesEditor's note: So now you get to exercise your 'maternal instinct' and use good judgment if your husband puts you guys on the streets with no food in your bellies. Seems to me that having the wife use her judgment and maternal instincts earlier, like perhaps when the wolf is at the door but there is an actual door between the family and the world, is a much smarter way to go than to sit by smiling and allowing him to drive the family to the streets. … [Read more...]

Creating Illusions Through Self-Injury When Trapped in Trauma

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission.In addition to self-destructive impulsiveness that can accompany PTSD, the person struggling to regulate their mood can resort to willful physical injury or self-mutilation, one type of addictive behavior that is used as a coping mechanism. Self injury may include a whole variety of behaviors from cutting rituals to hair pulling or interfering with wound healing.People who experience PTSD contend with very difficult and disturbing symptoms of mood and behavior. They often become anxious quite easily because of seemingly innocuous things which … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 Disobeying Your Visionary Husband?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids and Hopeful WivesEditor's note: If this wife left her husband she would likely be eligible for food stamps, housing assistance and other government help to keep the kids from starving and help her find a job. Any man unwilling to support his family is either a) selfish, b) mentally ill, or some combination of the two, not worth sticking around for. Let's see what Michael advises. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Do You Keep From Being Influenced By Non-Christians?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Disobeying Your Visionary Husband?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids and Hopeful WivesEditor's note: First we start with a letter, a letter is always suspicious on the Pearl website but this one might actually not be written by Michael of Debi. Apparently this woman's 'Visionary Man' husband expects the entire family to starve while he looks for a work at home job. Wonder if they've been reduced to eating animal feed yet? This husband not working unless the job is x, y or z seems to be a pretty common theme in Quiverfull. … [Read more...]

What Would America Look Like if it Were Truly… ‘Christian’

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding FundamentalThis season’s political climate and campaign have provoked me to revisit some of my formerly-held beliefs that America, it's foundation, founders and founding documents, is positively, expressly ‘Christian’ in identity and purpose. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Housework is Your Salvation?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - How Do You Save Your Life?Editor's note: Housework is not much fun in reality. But it has to get done or you end up living in an unfilmed episode of 'Hoarders' with a dust bunnies and unwashed plates. That still doesn't make it salvation, no matter how Nancy parses it. Chores do not equal saving your life. … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet – Part 3 Washing of the Word (Is She Serving You With Joy or a Sense of Duty?)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 154-156I realized something just now. I skipped 2 pages of my review last post. The last couple paragraphs of that post actually take place after today's section. Apologies. Hopefully this post will get everything sorted out. Text is in purple … [Read more...]