Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 3 – The Wedding


by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideToday, we get to meet Yetta, the bride that Debi was so impressed by.  She's been married for two weeks at the time of the interview. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Egalitarians Serving God of Self?


by Johnathan Leeman of 9Marks - Complementarianism & the Local Church: Editor's NoteEditor's note: Magnificent Straw Man construction by this man. He doesn't come right out and say that being an eglitarian is rooted in selfishness, but he dances around it with Christianese. Evangelical gobblety-gook. … [Read more...]

Silly Duggar News Round Up – Jim Bob Duggar: Hype Man

Image from Suzanne Titkemeyer

Yesterday while cruising the 'net I came upon this turn of Jim Bob Duggar's as a Rap-styled 'Hype Man' in a clip from a church fundraiser in Ohio that features Christian comedian Anita Renfroe. Renfroe is occasionally a commentator on "Good Morning America" In the clip below Renfroe raps about the woes of motherhood in a song titled "Mutha'hood" and has Jim Bob Duggar help her out as her 'hype man'. While Anita is no Lil' Wayne or even Toby Mac she does a credible job and Jim Bob is pretty comical as her sidekick. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Easier Having Lots of Kids?


by Chaunie Brusie from Babble (how fitting!) - 10 Things Moms of Many Want You to KnowEditor's note: So this isn't exactly from a fundamentalist quiverfull momma perspective, more from someone not part of the religious constant child bearing world that wants to think having four children is the same as the nineteen kids in the Duggar family and feels like she's getting some pushback from the world for having four kids. But the idea that many hands make for much lighter work is one straight out of Quiverfull and a patent falsehood. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Making Women Bitter About Submitting?


by Paul Washer from I'll Be - Recovering Biblical WomanhoodEditor's note: At least the clearly CPM author seems to understand that how the man behaves affects the wife's ability to submit. But it is still a poisonous idea, the whole idea that one is dominant and the other submissive, it creates and drives a lot of misery for everyone involved. … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? – Recovery From Economic or Financial Abuse


by Laura Shin from Forbes magazine - 'I'll Take Care of the Bills': The Slippery Slope Into Financial AbuseThe entire article is worth a read but we are quoting the bit on how to recover from Economic or Financial Abuse: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Two Percent?


by John Piper from his Facebook accountEditor's note: Pastor John doesn't mention what percentage of your time you should be giving God to prove in his eyes that you are a 'Good Christian'(TM), but I can imagine it's a staggeringly high unrealistic number. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: All Feminists Hate Women?


by Paul Washer from I'll Be - Recovering Biblical WomanhoodEditor's note: This is one of the big lies in Quiverfull Evangelicalism - that feminists want all women to be men. Nope, they want all women to have a choice in how they live their lives, not be forced into gender-prescribed roles against their will. But the very religious finds the idea of free agency for women to be too threatening to their masculinity. What weak grasps they must hold on their own masculinity to be so threatened by women's choices. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Physical & Emotional Attraction?


Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

I Have No Roots

Image from Wide Open Ground

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundWhen I left my fundamentalist upbringing behind, I left it all, all my roots, all my friends, all the things that connected me to the past.They say people need roots, but I have none.When I’m lonely, I have no where to turn, except to people of the moment. When people talk of old family Christmas traditions, I have none, or nearly none.When its Christmas break, I don’t fly to my parents because there is no Christmas there. When the semester ends, I go camping, not to visit old friends. When I’m lonely, I write in a foreign language on my FB. … [Read more...]