Daring Greatly

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“Daring Greatly” by Brene Brown.  I am reading this book because it’s kind of a prerequisite for a workshop that my husband and I are going to attend in a couple of weeks called “The Daring Way” and it is based on the work of Brene Brown.I’m fascinated by this book.It’s a book about living vulnerably. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Perverted Porno Freaks Don’t Need Prayer?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - More of SodomEditor's note: When we left Michael he was detailing why confession and therapy does not work for addictions according to him. We continue on. Comparing someone struggling with addictions to a baboon cannot be healthy. If only it was as simple as he thinks it is. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Are Complex Problems Always Met With ‘Turn to Jesus’?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Perverted Porno Freaks Don’t Need Prayer?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - More of SodomEditor's note: Another of those Pearl letters. This one allows Michael to show off what he really thinks about people who struggle with addictions or even possible mental illness driving self-medication. It's all so simple and non-loving in Pearl world. I don't know what the ultimate answer is for those with these types of struggles, but I know it likely involves more kindness, compassion and legitimate treatment than anything in their world. … [Read more...]

The Sounds of Fundamentalism: OMG! This Man is Looking at Porn by Dawn Hawkins

From Bruce Gerencser's blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Initially I wasn't planning on using any of Bruce's excellent series on the more ridiculous sermons and lectures given in service of fundamentalism. Most of them don't really fit with what we do here. That is until I saw this, a clearly faked story by a prominent national Christian (Mormon) leader against pornography. It reads like a Pearl letter, there's simply no way with the whole squished in like sardines in a can nature of modern air travel that she could have been viewing this man's porn without resorting to either standing above him or squeezed down and pressing her hot little eyeball in the tiny slit … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Mothering For Eternity?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Look Beyond TodayEditor's note: As time goes on Nancy's messages on the effect of motherhood on all of history become ever more hysterical and filled with hyperbole. Is her influence slipping so much among her small sphere that she must increase her messages to a fevered frenzied fake pitch? … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Feeling Harassed by Love?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Suffering Makes You More Holy?

by Anonymous from Sow With Vision - Sowing While Suffering | Bitter WatersEditor's note: This is another one of those toxic reoccurring themes in Quiverfull: that suffering is somehow redemptive. Right after they tell you that your illness is punishment from God from unconfessed sin or generational curse. Or perhaps you weren't using the right essential oils or you drank too much soda. While there's only a little blaming for the suffering in this piece the thought that suffering and serious affliction somehow makes one more holy and closer to God is just as toxic and wrong. … [Read more...]

Shackled Girl: Part 3 – Prepared Statement by Alleged Abuser

by PropinquaEditor’s note: For a year, a home-schooling Christian man named Timothy Ciboro allegedly disciplined his ex-girlfriend’s daughter by shackling her to a basement post. The girl, 13, escaped in mid-May. Timothy Ciboro, 53, and his son Esten, 27, were arrested in Toledo, charged with kidnapping and torture. The girl’s mother is now also jailed, but on unrelated warrants. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Never Show Your Husband Negative Emotions!?

by Lori Alexander of Always Learning - Reactions Define YouEditor's note: For some reason Lori Alexander has taken to promoting the toxic books written by Michael and Debi Pearl. Is she trying to glom onto Debi's female cultural enforcer power? Here she's promoting 'Created To Be A Help Meet' and promoting the very toxic idea of never having negative emotions, reactions or words to your husband's possible hi-jinks and foibles. That is a very emotionally unhealthy way to live and just leads to a nervous breakdown later. Text quoted from Debi's book below is in red. … [Read more...]