Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Mel’s Interjection on Traits of Narcissists

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI hate a few chapters of Debi's book.  The Kingly Man Chapter is one of them.  It's so incredibly toxic.  The whole chapter is essentially an apologia for narcissistic men and an instruction manual for how to be an enabler instead of a wife. To counter-balance some of the toxicity, I read the book "The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists" by Eleanor Payson. This book helped me clarify some of the traits in Michael Pearl that are unhealthy and also recognize Debi as a covert narcissist as well.  I'll be referring back to the book throughout the King Chapter, but also later in the book since I think we can determine some inter … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: What Do Kids Really Need?

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by Kelly Crawford of Ladies Against Feminism and Generation Cedar - You Have Too Many Children to Give Them What They NeedSomewhere along the line, we created an imaginary set of rules about what kids need  for healthy development and if you’ll listen closely, you’ll hear it: “To love my children is to buy them things.” Suffice it to say, if love equals providing material comforts,  American children are the most well-loved children in the world. Ironically, they also suffer the most from narcissism, ingratitude, and a grandiose sense of entitlement. Those are the children we created attempting to “give them what they need.”  We said, essentially, though no parent would admit it, “Let me … [Read more...]

News: Jessa Duggar’s Intended Ben Seewald Hates Catholics?

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According to The Daily Mail and Celebitchy Jessa Duggar's court-er Ben Seewald posted a long anti-Catholic rant on Facebook that mysteriously disappeared about an hour later. Wonder if the Duggars or TLC made him take it down?From Celebitchy - Jessa Duggar's Boyfriend Posts Rant Against Catholics, Then Deletes It … [Read more...]

News: Abusive Christian Cults Sexually Abusing Children Isn’t Just a USA Problem

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from Australia's The Age there's a lengthy article about a church cult operating there known as Friends And Workers. There has been allegations of child sexual abuse by some of the members. One of them was recently convicted of child sexual abuse - Chris Chandler. Chandler is guilty of doing something similar to what IFB pastor Jack Schaap has done: he used his position counseling sexual abuse victims to prey upon them and re-victimize them. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Judge Poor Old Bill Gothard?

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by Nellie from her blog Snatchlings (sic) - A Time for Grief, and Gratefulness I've also been feeling grateful for God's work in my life, through the Institute and afterward. Of course, without the afterward I might not be as grateful. ;) But God routinely uses broken vessels (well, what else does He have to use?). In fact, that's what He's chosen and ordained to work through. Not to minimize Mr. Gothard's sin and hypocrisy one iota, but we are all sinners and hypocrites, and we're lucky God uses any of us to advance His kingdom and glorify Himself. The fact is, God chose to do a lot of good in my life and teach me a lot of things through Mr. Gothard (and the many wise people around him). … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Financial Abuse

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There's a type of spousal abuse that we're not spoken of here at NLQ -  Financial Abuse.What is financial abuse?It's when a partner controls the money of the household so tightly that there isn't any or enough given over to meet the basic needs of the other partner and/or children. By controlling all of the family finances the controlling partner puts the other under their complete control, even if there is no physical or verbal abuse this is also now considered spousal abuse.Huffington Post did a story recently on financial abuse filled with horrifying tales of what some women have had to live through before escaping their controlling partners. … [Read more...]

News: What Does Fundamentalist Evangelical Christianity Look Like in Politics?

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Through the years the Christian Right has tried mightily to advance their culture and rules on the masses in our nation with somewhere mixed effect. Every now and then one of them with extremist views manages to get elected or win a primary. Southern Baptist Pastor Jody Hice just won the GOP primary for a senate seat representing the state of Georgia. He has some scary, not very Christian, Christian views.  … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Priest Part 3

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideIn the next installment on Priestly Men, Debi paints picture of what life for the wife of a Priestly Man is like with a huge interruption by a Visionary Man on a side note. "The key is to know you man.  In what image has God created him?  You, as his help meet, will need to  learn to conform to your man.  God's Word says, in Hebrews 13:8,  "Jesus Christ the same yesterday, today and forever." On the 90's TV show Animanics, there was a reoccurring segment called "The Wheel of Morality".  The characters would pull out a giant game-show wheel, spin it and read a canned moral that printed off. … [Read more...]

Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: The Complicated Process of Exiting Totalist Groups Part 4

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from Spiritual Sounding BoardObstacles that Second Generation Adults like Lourdes Torres-Manteufel must overcome when exiting threatening, high demand situations and groups like Doug Phillips’ Vision Forum “When we leave, we actually don’t have what we need to survive outside.” ~ Jill Mytton … [Read more...]

News: More Rumors on Possible Jill & Derick Dillard Reality Show

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So this doesn't mean it will happen but there's more talk of it. Not sure how reliable a site that misspells one of the subject's names could be. This all almost sounds like something cooked up by the Grandma Duggar publicity machine.From the site Enstaz - Jill Duggar, Derrick Dillard News 2014: Fans Are Urging Couple To Do Their Own Reality Show and Get Pregnant Some of the comments on Duggar's Instagram account include, "I hope TLC follows you like they do @annaduggar and @joshduggar!! We learn so much from all of you! So thankful for your family" as well as, "Please have some kids!! LOL. U guys will have very handsome babies." … [Read more...]


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