Open Thread – Easter Holidays

Open thread - Discuss whatever you'd like.Easter Question: How has Holy Week and Easter changed for you? Did you believe in your old faith community that chocolate bunnies and Easter baskets were sinful? Or did you celebrate Easter like everyone else? Celebrating in a special way this year? … [Read more...]

Trusting a Therapist in Stage One of Healing

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission My husband and I once took in a few feral kittens. He says that it took three years before they would let him touch them. I saw this meme today and thought of the good therapists and the not so good ones that I've seen. It is no easy job to develop trust with a feral cat, and in many ways, I think that traumatized people have much in common with them.  We have forgotten how to trust, and we need someone with great patience to help us remember and learn if we ever knew how to have healthy trust to being with. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Has Sports Killed Church?

by Leslie from Growing 4 Life - The New ChurchEditor's note: While she might have a point about sports being worshiped in America this is no new thing and it's seriously doubtful it is the main reason people aren't going to church much any more. The NFL has had Sunday games for decades now. It has more to do with the leagues of people eager to abuse others or put them down with their tongues, the lack of relevance to their lives, and so many other things that nothing to do with sports at all. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 2 The Boys

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the book in blue text.Quick refresher before we hit the boys.  According to the Botkin Sisters, girls should:Treat all young guys as they would treat their brother...kind of. Don't flirt, joke, tease, or have deeply personal conversations with boys. Be more reserved around guys than girls. Realize guys are imperfect and treat them with understanding and charity. Have "family friends" rather than individual guy friends.Here are the guys: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Any Other Man’s Attention Wrecks Your Marriage?

by Becky Thompson of – Beware of Quicksand: How One Stranger’s Comment Changed My Marriage ForeverEditor's note: This last bit makes me feel sad for the author. Marriage shouldn't be a battlefield that you're constantly having to toil at to make work. If it's that much work and stress it's not much of a marriage there to revive. Sometimes a kind comment has nothing to do with attempting to turn your heart towards anyone, it's a small thing done by someone that sees you're having some sort of issue that day, or senses you need a little bit of a lift to get through your day. … [Read more...]

Review: “Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife” by Ruth Tucker

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog SamanthaPField.comI heard about Ruth Tucker’s Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife: My Story of Finding Hope after Domestic Violence mid-afternoon on Monday, after I’d finished my review of Radical and was browsing the Twitters. Zondervan has been promoting her book with the question “is complementarianism connected to domestic abuse?” which has spurred some conversation among the people I follow. And by “conversation,” I mean a lot of us saying “duh. Yes.” … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Any Other Man’s Attention Wrecks Your Marriage?

by Becky Thompson of - Beware of Quicksand: How One Stranger's Comment Changed My Marriage ForeverEditor's note: We continue on in the tale of extra-Biblicalness that claims any man looking at you or commenting or interacting with you might lead to him falling penis-first into your vagina. Again, are Evangelical Christian marriages so weak that you cannot ever risk friendship or any friendly interaction with the opposite sex? Why is it so impossible to think that some nice man realized she was having a very bad day and said something kind to her? … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Are Some Sins Unforgivable – Duggar Family Edition?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.This question comes directly out of the various tabloid reports of Josh Duggar returning home from Reformers Unanimous. Why is the sin of molesting little girls ruled to be forgivable yet infidelity and pornography aren't? To me this seems backwards, it seems like molesting children would be the bigger sin. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Any Other Man’s Attention Wrecks Your Marriage?

by Becky Thompson of - Beware of Quicksand: How One Stranger's Comment Changed My Marriage ForeverEditor's note: I don't know of Ms. Thompson is officially Quiverfull but this is a prime example of toxic thinking about interacting with the opposite sex that is pervasive throughout Quiverfull, Evangelical and Fundamentalist Christianity. Apparently their marriages are as weak and anemic as their faith. It all starts when she calls her husband at work when he's in the middle of a BIG PROJECT! … [Read more...]

How Fundamentalist Christianity Affected My View of Money and Material Things

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's  note: Be sure to look at the accompanying photos at Bruce's site. Eye opening.These and other verses were the guiding principles of my life for many years: Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. Matthew 16:24Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: For where your treasure is, there … [Read more...]