What are you Doing? – Chapter 17 – Sakal Wants to be a Yenta!

by Suzanne TitkemeyerWe're circling the drain now, racing down the pages of this book by Vaughn Ohlman on getting your young teens paired off in possibly sex trafficked common law marriages to the kids of other patriarchs - 'What are you Doing?'I know what I'd like to be doing and it's not reading this or writing about it. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quivering: Making a Secular Holiday All About You?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Don't Hide Your Light Under a BushelEditor's note: This is one of those incredibly sticky-wicket problems of Christianity. Do you participate in a cultural event that your church says is 'evil' or do you stay inside and refuse to join in, or do you find a third way and do it in a way that allows you to not feel as guilty? Handling out tracts or bible verses happens, but seems rather unloving from here. How did your old high demand faith group handle things like Halloween? Did you hand out tracts, health food or just not participate or did your church hold a 'Harvest' party on the holiday? Our church uses it as a community outreach with … [Read more...]

Betraying Jesus

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalWhen I was a young woman I fell in love with a man who didn't know how to love anyone but himself. (The number of 'relationships' he's chewed through before, since... and even while we were married, bears out this reality.)But I was young and trusting. I believed his lies. I married him. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: The No Spanking Movement is Part of the New World Order?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Spank and Save a ChildEditor's note: This was written in the wake of allegations that Pearl's book 'To Train Up A Child' was found in the homes of several families that abused their children to death, Hana Grace Williams and Lydia Shatz. It's breathtakingly convoluted conspiracy theory that Mr. Pearl has worked out to justify his worldview instead of being open to examine the possibility that he might have contributed to the death of children. Nothing like being deceived and filled with martrybating. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why is the Wife Blamed When a Man Cheats?

This is a series we run every Thursday. The questions are things that people who may not know much about the Quiverfull movement or even Fundamentalist or Evangelical Christianity ask about the lifestyle. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life can only shine a light on the toxic nature of this lifestyle choice. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull – Protect Your Husband From Seducers?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Fighting the Women Seducers!Editor's note: The unquoted first part of this is Lori carrying on about the book and movie 'Eat, Pray, Love' and it's author. How the entire book/movie/author is a seducer and marriage breaker. Yes, I saw the movie but never bothered with the book because a lot of the movie struck me as vapid, but I have friends that loved it, finding it deep and meaningful. Apparently my vapid is Lori's seductive. Everyone views things differently and that's okay, unless you are stuck in fundamentalism. … [Read more...]

Chronic Pain and a Football Game

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Sharing this because it is a perfect illustration of something most of us struggle with post-fundamentalism - boundaries, physical, emotional and spiritual. Many of us come out without healthy concepts of what good boundaries look like, still stuck in 'Good Christian' mode where there are no boundaries. Bruce is working on defining his boundaries, just as I am and so many others post-leaving. How are you doing on this important issue? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Cure Jealousy by Teaching Your Wife That Polygamy is Godly?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - How To Train Your Wife Not To Be JealousEditor's note: When Hillary Clinton recently called her opponent's supporters a 'basket of deplorables' she accidentally left out Larry. In fact, I think he might actually be worse than the nastier Trump supporters because he's pushing polygamy as a solution for jealousy in your wife. Clearly he's not read any of the FLDS walk-away memoirs detailing the jealousy and competition in their marriages between the wives that creates a hostile poisonous environment for everyone in the family. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Opinions on Christian Music?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Do Not Share Your Thoughts With Your Wife?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - How to Train Your Wife Not to be JealousEditor's note: Toxic marriage advice from Larry. Don't share your thoughts, don't allow her to pressure you to spent time with her. Seriously dude, the only thing this advice is growing is frustration and contempt on the part of the wife. You want a divorce? Follow Larry's advice. … [Read more...]