Quoting Quiverfull: Does This Man Really Exist?

by Colin Campbell from Meat For Men - The Qualities of FatherhoodEditor's note: Nancy's husband Colin is now writing down the qualities a father  should have, which happen to be the exact same qualities listed in the Bible for leaders. Do guys like this really exist in complementarianism communities? … [Read more...]

Desire for and Illusions of Safety in Recovery

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace used with permission.The previous post listed many factors that increase our vulnerability to people who are not safe for us, but what is probably more difficult is that subconscious impulse to gravitate to people who are unsafe. This comes from a complicated mix of many things, most of which are based on feeling in addition to our lack of good experience with healthy people who could have modeled better relationship skills for us. We end up figuring much of this out through trial and error. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Large Families Passed Over?

by Adeye Salem from No Greater Joy Mom - The Silent HurtEditor's note: Adeye goes on to list their hurts. She seems to think that they are owed a place at the table. Perhaps they would be if some Christians behaved like the guy they claim to follow. But she seems to not understand that if you make the choices that they've made, personal choices, that the world does not necessarily owe them anything. Adeye closes with some good ideas that could make any family struggling just a little bit easier. What she does not seem to get is that isolation is a common very toxic thread running through almost all Quiverfull families and churches. It's not unique to special needs families.  … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 3 Chapter 6

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the book in blue textChapter 5 went really fast.  Chapter 6 feels like it will never end.Overarching Themes:Modesty in women starts with denying your own skills.... "The subject of modesty has already been covered from head to toe by other, much wiser authors, so we'll keep this short." (pg. 102) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Large Families Passed Over?

by Adeye Salem from No Greater Joy Mom - The Silent HurtEditor's note: This is something I've seen in churches, even quiverfull ones, where families with large numbers of children, special needs or not, aren't invited to events or social happenings. While it's bound to be hurtful is it realistic to expect every event or place to make special accommodations for a large quiverfull family if it means inconveniencing the majority of people there? Thoughts on this? … [Read more...]

News: Duggar’s New Show ‘Counting On’ Rumored to be on the Verge of Cancellation?

There have been a pile of Duggar rumors in the last few weeks, rumors of Jill Duggar Dillard possible pregnancy in Ziki-riddled Central America, of Anna Duggar's possible pregnancy, of Anna and Josh's return to one another, the desperation of Jim Bob and Michelle to shoot down all those divorce rumors and that TLC and the Duggars faked the recent episode of their new show featuring Jinger buying and flipping a car. Whew, busy few weeks in Duggar news. … [Read more...]

The Loneliness of Those That Leave Church

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserFrom your earliest recollection you remember the church.You remember the preacher, the piano player, the deacons, and your Sunday School teacher.You remember the youth group and all the fun activities.You remember getting saved and baptized.You remember being in church every time the doors were open. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Fake It Till You Make It?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Make It HappenEditor's note: This theme of emotional denial and faking your joy until it turns real is the real toxic message in the Quiverfull world. It's also one of the most heavily promoted ones by Nancy. Makes one wonder how enraged and sad she must be behind that fake grin and odd voice of hers. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Really Loving Your Husband or Slavery?

by Nancy Campbell and her readers at Above Rubies - How Can I Love My Husband?Editor's  note: This list is like so many things in Quiverfull, not necessarily bad advice, just leavened with enough toxic to render much of it poisonous.  What is the obsession with running your husband's bath? I am reminded of the time I spent the night at the nearest all suites hotel to Ken Ham's Answers in Genesis Creationism museum. That morning in the breakfast area filled with 'Good Christians' wearing their museum t-shirts I witnessed one woman slavishly waiting on her husband and sons, hand and foot. As the man and boys remained seated at a table she rushed around and fixed their plates from the b … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Biblical Engagement?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]