by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's MusingsEditor's Note: Written from the perspective of someone that has managed to keep their faith after being through spiritual abuse.I was talking tonight with a friend of mine about ridiculous things that have happened to us at the hands of pastors and elders and whatnot from “Christian” churches.I don’t think that a lot of what happens in churches and between clergy and congregants is necessarily something that Jesus would condone and I don’t think He would be pleased with a large chunk of it. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: You Harm Your Kids When You Complain About Motherhood?

by Rebecca Brandt of Mom's Mustard Seeds - Stop Saying Being a Mom is HardEditor's note: Another want-to-be female cultural enforcer claiming that we have to be joyous and happy all the time or bad things will happen. Bad things, along with good things,  happen no matter what you do, think, project, feel, or experience. This is the number one toxic thing in Quiverfull - completely deny your emotions, shut up and smile. Being positive in your day to day attitudes isn't a bad thing, but to insist everyone do it to the extreme degree is emotionally unhealthy. The way we think impacts our hearts. TRULY! If we get up every morning dreading the day, we will not live the day in a way that … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Nursing Degree or Not?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Courtship Questions?

by Stacy McDonald from Your Sacred Calling - Courtship Questions for Potential SuitorsEditor's note: If the parents of someone you are interested in dating/courting ever ask you any of these questions my advice to you is to either RUN or ask them why they want to know. I've listed belong the most wtf questions from the very l-o-n-g list of courtship questions Stacy published. Click on the above link to see all the questions. These are all really none of the parents business at all, not even if you are engaged to be married. None of this is any of their business! But it does amply illustrate the complete lack of healthy emotional boundaries in Quiverfull. … [Read more...]

Finding Safety in Myths? Camus as Futility’s Starting Point

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission I am by far a greater fan of Master of the Absurd, Franz Kafka, who laments in his writings about the nature of man and his limitations, but I could not help but think of Albert Camus' essay about The Myth of Sisyphus concerning the subject of futility and expectation. Can his writing help us find some footing in recovery from trauma so that we can build some type of stability? Trauma robs us of our sense of safety, causes us to feel isolated, and it obscures our memories of stability if we truly had any as a starting point. Trauma causes us to realize … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Cheerfulness Wins Over Husbands and Children From Sin?

by Lori Anderson from Always Learning - Cheerful Holiness is the Most Forcible of SermonsEditor's note: Most of the post on Lori's  blog is her copying and pasting the words of Charles Spurgeon, with the exception of the last paragraph of her applying his words to the idea of winning over a 'disobedient husband' and others. Yeah, like controlling your facial expressions and words has ever manipulated anyone into repenting from whatever imaginary 'sins' these folks can think up. Nowhere in the Spurgeon quote does it say that this is how you win over 'disobedient' relatives. She's extrapolating without any evidence again. … [Read more...]

What Hast Thou Wrought: Christians and Trump

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comI’ve read a lot of articles about Donald Trump. If you look at my last “stuff I’ve been into” post, there’s about a half-dozen articles on him that represents the best-of-the-best of my reading on the subject. I’ve got a lot of angry-and/or-panicking friends on social media, so I’m inundated with quite a bit of material that represent a gamut of positions. My friends range from hard right, center-right, center-left, and hard-hard-hard-hard-left, and one of the biggest conversation topics shared among all these groups is this question: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Own No Church Building so You Cannot be Sued?

by Steven Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church - My Thoughts on Church BuildingsEditor's note: This is pretty interesting, the reasoning of Steven Anderson to justify his church being in a strip mall. All of it leads me to wonder if perhaps Anderson has been sued and his church sued at some point in the past. He's right on one thing, when you own nothing there is a far less motive for someone to sue you.Remember a few months ago when Steven Anderson was claiming that his Bitcoin account with BitPay was deleted for him being a homophobe? The source of the information I used about that story and all things Bitcoin Ian DeMartino has his book The Bitcoin Guidebook is available for … [Read more...]

Part 1 – The Story

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental REASONSIn order to add some context to the articles I have written on this blog I want to designate a page to summarize our story from beginning to end.   It is my hope, as it has always been, to expose not only the wrongs that The Preacher was guilty of, but to own the actual wrongs we committed as opposed to what The Preacher has stated publicly using skilled innuendo and out-right public accusations. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Justifying Saying Words That Hurt Others?

by Doug Wilson of Blog and Mablog - Whoa and GiddyupEditor's note: Whenever I see fundamentalists or evangelical cultural enforcers discussing 'speaking the truth' at the same time as 'taming the tongue' I know it's coded language for 'put down and verbally abuse anyone not in our personal cult.' I wish these types would understand just how unkind and hateful they come across when they are 'speaking the truth' to those they don't agree with. The examples he makes here are all positive ones, but we all know what the likely language towards others really is and it isn't that kind. … [Read more...]