Chronic Pain and a Football Game

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Sharing this because it is a perfect illustration of something most of us struggle with post-fundamentalism - boundaries, physical, emotional and spiritual. Many of us come out without healthy concepts of what good boundaries look like, still stuck in 'Good Christian' mode where there are no boundaries. Bruce is working on defining his boundaries, just as I am and so many others post-leaving. How are you doing on this important issue? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Cure Jealousy by Teaching Your Wife That Polygamy is Godly?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - How To Train Your Wife Not To Be JealousEditor's note: When Hillary Clinton recently called her opponent's supporters a 'basket of deplorables' she accidentally left out Larry. In fact, I think he might actually be worse than the nastier Trump supporters because he's pushing polygamy as a solution for jealousy in your wife. Clearly he's not read any of the FLDS walk-away memoirs detailing the jealousy and competition in their marriages between the wives that creates a hostile poisonous environment for everyone in the family. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Opinions on Christian Music?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Do Not Share Your Thoughts With Your Wife?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - How to Train Your Wife Not to be JealousEditor's note: Toxic marriage advice from Larry. Don't share your thoughts, don't allow her to pressure you to spent time with her. Seriously dude, the only thing this advice is growing is frustration and contempt on the part of the wife. You want a divorce? Follow Larry's advice. … [Read more...]

The Duggers Attend Marriage Retreat

Over on Reddit yesterday a man posted a 'Ask Me Anything' thread after having spent the weekend at the same marriage retreat that Jim Bob, Michelle, Josh, Anna and other assorted Duggars attended. He had a lot of interesting things to say about the experience: … [Read more...]

Part 2 – Falling Off the Ladder of Inference

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission. Please see Part I HERE for the Introduction to the Ladder of Inference and CranioRectal Inversion (CRI) #2      … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: There is GOOD Jealousy?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - How to Train Your Wife Not to be JealousEditor's note: There is just so much toxic and bad ideas packed into Larry's screed about jealous wives that this just barely touches the surface. Will unpack the rest of his word salad in the next few posts. Jealousy can be a problem in marriage and mature people are usually not filled with jealousy, envy or resentment. This ends up being a post on how to force your wife to accept the idea of polygamy being 'Biblical'. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: God Wants You to Provide Sex, Cleaning and Cooking?

by Steven Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church from two different nearly identical posts - The Wife's Role as a Helper and Letting Your Wife Stay HomeEditor's note: Anderson's push after being banned from countries and being deported? Double down on the wives much do everything and stay home traditional gender roles. They must joyfully put out the sex too! … [Read more...]

How Did Carol Ann Get to Louisiana? – Is Justice Delayed Justice At All For Carol Ann Cole?

by Suzanne TitkemeyerWhen we left off last week we'd looked at the places that Carol Ann either sent mail from or that people had seen her at, ruling out a few places that she might have been for lack of any solid evidence.Someone put together something that I did not understand the significance of in my original research, that the Brownwood Reception Center where Carol Ann wrote her Michigan family from is also called the Ron Jackson State Juvenile Correction Facility. Why is that important? Because it's named for the retired director of the Texas Youth Commission Ron Jackson. … [Read more...]

Good Christian Sex by Bromleigh McCleneghan

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samanthapfield.comWhen I first crack open the spine of a book like Good Christian Sex, the first place I turn to is the bibliography. When I got this book about a month ago I glanced over the materials she referenced, and at first was a little wary. There were a lot of pop culture references, a blog post I’ve occasionally been frustrated with, a smattering of male theologians, and a feminist author who makes a case for abstinence that I thoroughly disagree with. Looking over the table of contents made me feel a touch cautious, as well: there’s a chapter on vulnerability and another on fidelity, two concepts I’ve seen go completely sideways in C … [Read more...]