In the Midst of It?

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsSpiritual abuse.  Sometimes, even when you know you are being victimized, it’s hard to break away, or walk away, or run away.  If you’ve found yourself here because you know what you are experiencing is spiritual abuse but you are caught and can’t let go, this page is for you. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Working Women Eat More Fast Food?

by Lori Alexander of Always Learning - Career Women Lead to Wasteful LivingEditor's note: By whose standards are working women leading wasteful lives? Quite the contrary, women in the workforce are doing some very important things. There are women doctors, lawyers and in all segments of the working world making things just a little bit better for everyone, including easing the onus financial burden placed on the under educated husbands in evangelical Christianity. Some women aren't  gifted in the areas of hearth and home and that's perfectly fine. Not everyone needs to stay home to find fulfillment and do themselves and their families a disservice when forced into a role they are … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Can I Be Friendly Without Being Flirtatious?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Working Women Eat More Fast Food?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Career Women Lead to Wasteful LivingEditor's note: Wow, this has to be one of the worst pieces yet written by Lori Alexander, shaming, blaming and trying to tell others way to do right down to the tiniest minutia. But then again, it's rumored that Lori has a maid cleaning her house. Everyone would have time to cook if someone else cleaned, working or not. Also, many fast food places now have healthier options, like the salad she describes making at home. We'll be posting more from this disgracefully disrespectful piece in the morning. … [Read more...]

The Good Aspects of ‘Bloom Where You’re Planted’

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from Under Much Grace Platitudes can be helpful when they're used well and when both parties understand what they're meant to communicate. Much like pictures, they can encompass and encapsulate more meaning that just the words in-and-of-themselves. They're verbal shorthand that can sometimes be more direct and concise than long discussions, and they're especially helpful when one party doesn't have a lot of emotional energy to stop and listen to a long explanation. We can all imagine a tenacious flower like a dandelion that grows in a tiny bit of soil that has inadvertently collected in a crack in a sidewalk. Sometimes life requires our tougher nature to … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Homeschooling Only Creates Geniuses?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - How Do You Raise Your Children?Editor's note: Please note that Nancy cites no studies or sources for her assertion that homeschooling is the best way to create a child with a genius IQ. You'd think she'd at least name where she took that information. Oh, right, in the world of quiverfull female cultural enforcers are except from backing up their claims with real facts. … [Read more...]

Redeeming Love: Part 1 – Angel’s Backstory

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comFor this review series I’ve decided to split Redeeming Love into twelve sections, around forty pages each, instead of splitting it up by chapters– since the chapters all have varied lengths. Today’s post covers the prologue and the first chapter, which gives us Angel’s backstory. To make things a little easier for those of you who haven’t read the book at all, or in a while, I’ll give plot summaries at the beginning of each post before digging into the themes and imagery I’d like to discuss. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Pokémon Isn’t Jesus?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - What is Your Consuming Passion?Editor's note: In the Gospel According To Nancy if you are not radical completely sold out Christians 24 hours every single day then your kids will be seduced by the devil that is video games and Pokémon. More fear mongering. Perhaps if people were allowed to exist without constant badgering over things to fear there wouldn't be such a deep need for escapism in odd moments of the day. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Life Outside the Cult is Meaningless?

by Steven Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church - Meaningful vs. Meaningless LifeEditor's note: This is one of the big lies preached from the pulpit in Evangelical Christianity, that what you do only has meaning and purpose if you are a 'saved' Christian. It ignores that there are people that do many meaningful things to help others and don't couch it in religious terms or even believe in God.  They are making a difference in the here and now, not hording up possibly imaginary treasures in another dimension.Life has meaning no matter what you believe. This is the lie that preachers tell their followers to keep them hooked into the cult and afraid. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Let Me Tell You How to Look?

by Steven Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church - Your AppearanceEditor's note: Strangely enough Steve stays away from telling you to cover your bits and that skirts must touch your ankles, instead going right to ugliness, body modification and plastic surgery. That's pretty extreme and it's not like plastic surgery doesn't help correct legitimate conditions such as a deviated nose septum or having growths removed from your face. Anderson is right about one thing, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it is very subjective and personal. Interesting mentions in this piece about losing weight. One has to wonder if he is on his wife to lose weight considering how much she mentions … [Read more...]