Surviving Complementarianism

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samanthapfield.comOver the past few days, the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood held their annual conference, which was titled “The Beauty of Complementarity” this year. I knew it was happening sometime soon, and yesterday some of the people I follow on Twitter started using the #CBMW16 hashtag, or responding to people who were. If you’d like to read some excellent commentary, I highly suggest looking up @miheekimkort and @BroderickGreer. Yesterday, inspired by others using the #CBMW16 tag, I took the opportunity to voice a concept that I’ll probably be shouting about until complementarianism is dead and buried: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Motherhood is a Battlefield?

by Julie Neils from Ungrind - Warrior MamaEditor's note: Why is everything a spiritual struggle for Quiverfull women?  I raised my children relatively easily without all this inner angst and warrior on a battlefield struggling that many Quiverfull mothers express. Motherhood isn't all roses and champagne but neither is it a battlefield, unless you deliberately make it one. How many generations of mothers have raised children without it being a battlefield? Plus who are all these nasty cruel people saying hateful things to children? … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Keep Adding Rules and Moving the Goalpost?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.This morning as I was websurfing and reading the newest posts as various ministries websites my eye fell upon a post at John Piper's 'Desiring God' website that compares Bible reading preferences to Nathan's annual 4th of July competition hot dog eating contest. I quoted it for tonight's Quoting Quiverfull feature. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: You’re Reading Your Bible Wrong?

by David Mathis from John Piper's Desiring God - Bible Intake is Not a Hot Dog Eating ContestEditor's note: Time to break away from Larry Solomon's sex slave wish fulfillment saga and look at something slightly less disgusting, like someone making up rules about Bible reading, throwing  shade at those that may read it in marathon bursts instead of slowly with meditation on the word. This is another example of dangerous toxic thinking in the world of Quiverfull, this constant moving of the righteousness goal posts, making up new restrictive rules and trying to make others feel guilty. Does it really matter if you read your Bible one word at a time or several thousand? … [Read more...]

Mack Major Warns Christian Women About the Sin of Masturbation

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserAccording to Evangelical author Mack Major, Christian women are masturbating themselves straight to hell. Major writes: Too many Christian women are losing their salvation because they masturbate. Dildos and all of those other sex toys have been used for thousands of years in demonic sex rituals. It’s one of the main ways ancient pagan societies worshiped their demonic gods. Masturbation is a direct path to Satan. There’s nothing normal about it. And shame on any Christian that says so. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – It’s Biblical For Men to Need More Than One Wife?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles – Why Would God Make Men With Polygynous Natures When They Cannot Act Upon Them? (as usual no direct link to this guy – it is the top most piece on his website)Editor's note: Now Larry is proposing polygamy as the solution to many of society's ills. It's amazing how far these good Christian patriarchs will go to justify whatever bad idea they are promoting. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ How to Handle a Video Game Man?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – It’s Biblical For Men to Need More Than One Wife?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles – Why Would God Make Men With Polygynous Natures When They Cannot Act Upon Them? (as usual no direct link to this guy – it is the top most piece on his website)Editor's note: Now Larry is trying to say that's it's way easier for divorced men to remarry than women. Of course he is citing something he heard when he was getting a divorce without statistics to back it up. I suspect that if women are marrying less often than men that there is a different reason for this, like perhaps women really don't want to put up with the ridiculous hijinks of some man and would rather remain unmarried. Larry does not seem to realize that there are much worse fat … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Sex Toys Infested With Demons?

by Mack Major as quoted by Huffington Post - Christian Author Mack Major Says Female Masturbation 'Direct Path To Satan' Editor's note: The pile of sex toy photos at the original link might be NSFW in many places so you have been warned. While the fundamentalist crowd has been saying demons are in almost everything from Halloween candy to movies this is the first time I've seen this claim.Apparently Dominionist Evangelical Republican presidential candidate Ted Cruz is also anti-sex toy too. … [Read more...]

Balancing Hope and Safety in Stage One Recovery

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace and part of her series on healing.All images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission. During the last year in a spiritually abusive Shepherding-Discipleship church, I developed all sorts of allergies, partly because of how my body voiced what I could not through new, more intense illness, and partly because of the general hard toll that trauma took on my immune system. Two physicians recommended that I see a hypnotherapist, but I didn't feel comfortable with the idea. … [Read more...]