Created To Need A Help Meet – Part 4 Washing of the Word (Share My Yoke By Doing What I Say!)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 156-157We are still talking about Michael's idea that wives need sanctification and cleansing. Why? Because Christ and the Church is the same as husband and wife! Because...Bible? Oh, and I hope you're ready to really dive into the Bible, because this section is chock full of scripture. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Change Your Mindset or Lose Your Husband?

by Alexis Rowe at No Greater Joy Magazine - Managing vs. LeadershipEditor's note: Another version of 'Control your emotions or else' fear-mongering that so many in the Quiverfull movement labor under. It always revolves around be cheerful or lose your family and/or salvation. What a sad scary way to live your life. … [Read more...]

Girls Interrupted: First Act

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding FundamentalHow many times have we heard it?“Women are the cause of most of the problems in the church.”Women have been the brunt of such jabs-however jokingly, by preachers from their pulpit perches-so frequently and for so long- that they just laugh right along. But backhanded levity aside, most preachers didn't really mean it as a joke…. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Better Start Fearing?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Are We Willing?Editor's note: One thing you can count on is that Nancy pushes the fear and guilt button repeatedly in most of her posts. It's all about how you cannot possibly be doing things right. Where's all the joy and happiness she keeps saying that is everywhere in Quiverfull? All I'm seeing is some world class fear mongering. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated – The Boys Interlude #1

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideDirect quotes from the book are in blueLike "Preparing to Be a Helpmeet" by Debi Pearl, "It's Not That Complicated" includes random side notes from young men.  Honestly, I have no idea why these are included except to pad the length of the book.  There are 14 guys who are quoted.  Five of them are the Botkin Brothers.  Of the five Botkin Brothers, only Ben uses his actual name.  Rather than try to fit the boy quotes into the chapters, I'm going to insert chunks of them every so often. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: You Are Not Holy Enough?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - What's Your Norm?Editor's note: One of Nancy's most constant themes is 'You are not doing it right!' She tries to invoke guilt, fear and panic among her followers by pretending no one but her is Godly enough. It is not a very emotionally healthy thing to walk around in a constant state of fear and guilt. … [Read more...]

Why ‘Safe Spaces’ Aren’t Very Safe

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeLast night as I did a quick look-see at the comments on No Longer Quivering before I turned in for the night I read several comments by Let Them Marry Vaughn Ohlman referencing a 'Safe Space'.'Safe Space' – one of the most overused, fluidly defined, buzz words that keeps popping up in survivor and recovery groups as well as in conservative circles, some churches and online. … [Read more...]

The Rhythm of the Trauma Trap: Intrusion and Constriction

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceImages by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace Several authors identify post-traumatic stress by three cardinal signs. The cluster of symptoms is described as hyperarousal. Intrusion becomes the cause which produces these symptoms, and constriction results as the response to the pressure of both. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Big Fancy New Houses Are ‘Ungodly’?

by anonymous as quoted by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Keeping a Home Beautiful on a Small BudgetEditor's note: Now this piece about keeping a super clean and beautiful house is starting to sound like jealous sour grapes instead of 'Godly' advice. Don't know about anyone else but a tub the size of a swimming pool sounds super attractive to me right at this moment. Is this a case of someone denied nice things for so long that they have to denigrate whatever it is that they cannot have? … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Will My Wife Ever Love Me Again?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]