Godly Gertrude and the Harding University Dress Code

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserThis graphic perfectly illustrates the puritanical culture found in many Evangelical churches. Women are considered lust magnets, sure to attract weak, pathetic Christian men who have little control over their sexual desires. Starting with primary school age, females are taught to never, ever expose any of the sexual parts of their bodies–breasts, cleavage, bare shoulders, legs, and ass. In other words, girls and women are expected to dress similar to burka-wearing Muslims. The only difference is the head covering. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Getting Married is an Accomplishment?

by Vaughn Ohlman from Let Them Marry - The Accomplishment of Miss PuffingtonEditor's note: Vaughn is speaking of a Huffington Post writer who is talking about her own engagement and marriage as something to celebrate but not an actual accomplishment. For the record her name is not 'Miss Puffington' Your thoughts? Accomplishment or just usual life stage? … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated Part 3 Chapter 4

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the book are in blueThis section gets weird. So...very....weird.Overarching Themes:To get ready for marriage, sisters should practice being helpmeets to their brothers.As always, the Botkins include a section that disavows that sisters should be helpmeets to their brothers. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 Disobeying Your Visionary Husband?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy – Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids and Hopeful WivesEditor's note: And now we look at a few comments on Michael's starts out good advice before going nuclear toxic. Yes, many commenters stroked his ego, but a surprising number claimed to have been in the same exact situation. Sickeningly enough there were a number of commenters that accused the original letter writer of being a whiner who is throwing a pity party. So much for the love of Jesus I guess. … [Read more...]

This is Your Brain on Fundamentalism

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comI grew up in Christian fundamentalism, and now I’m a progressive Christian. Surprisingly, at least to me, that particular path is an unusual one, although probably not rare. Speaking from personal observation, it seems like the more usual route out of Christian fundamentalism isn’t liberal Christianity, but atheism.Unfortunately, it seems like there’s a lot of atheists out there who gave up on their religion, but didn’t give up fundamentalism. A little while … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 Disobeying Your Visionary Husband?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy – Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids and Hopeful WivesEditor's note: So taking a job to relieve some of the financial stress will leave you bitter and make you leave your husband? Okay, so the leaving the husband is implied not spoken. Wow, male egos are so fragile in Pearl World. Most telling and disgusting is Michael's advice to have the husband over to your parent's home not only to see the kids but for a conjugal visit. He cannot get off his lazy butt to get a job but you still owe him sex? Later today we will be looking at the advice of Michael's fans about this situation. Their advice isn't any better than his. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Is Faith That Fragile?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.Reading through Debi Pearls's site for her book 'Preparing To Be A Help Meet' and many different quiverful and fundamentalist blogs I have noticed a pattern. People afraid to be around 'non-believers', giving the stated reason of being afraid that their faith will be negatively impacted. What does it say about your faith when it can be so threatened by anyone outside of the custom tailored bubble? Why so weak? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 Disobeying Your Visionary Husband?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids and Hopeful WivesEditor's note: So now you get to exercise your 'maternal instinct' and use good judgment if your husband puts you guys on the streets with no food in your bellies. Seems to me that having the wife use her judgment and maternal instincts earlier, like perhaps when the wolf is at the door but there is an actual door between the family and the world, is a much smarter way to go than to sit by smiling and allowing him to drive the family to the streets. … [Read more...]

Creating Illusions Through Self-Injury When Trapped in Trauma

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission.In addition to self-destructive impulsiveness that can accompany PTSD, the person struggling to regulate their mood can resort to willful physical injury or self-mutilation, one type of addictive behavior that is used as a coping mechanism. Self injury may include a whole variety of behaviors from cutting rituals to hair pulling or interfering with wound healing.People who experience PTSD contend with very difficult and disturbing symptoms of mood and behavior. They often become anxious quite easily because of seemingly innocuous things which … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 Disobeying Your Visionary Husband?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids and Hopeful WivesEditor's note: If this wife left her husband she would likely be eligible for food stamps, housing assistance and other government help to keep the kids from starving and help her find a job. Any man unwilling to support his family is either a) selfish, b) mentally ill, or some combination of the two, not worth sticking around for. Let's see what Michael advises. … [Read more...]