All Complementarian Sex is Rape

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comYes, I’m leading with that because I might as well– it’s what the naysayers will swear up and down I’m arguing for in this post anyway, and I’ve already made my peace with it. Several men from inside my own progressive Christian camp have already tried to misrepresent my argument this way, and I know that it’s what the complementarians will start screaming if they even read it. So, I’m Andrea Dworkin-ing it up and owning it. My argument has already been labeled “unproductive” and “pointless” (by “feminist” men– are you surprised? I’m not), but I believe that what I’m about to lay out for you is critically important. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Emotions Make Women Lazy?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - 7 Steps to Dealing With a Lazy WifeEditor's note: Now Larry is claiming you set a bad example for the children when you let mom slack. Also his comparison of a mother making the kids clean their rooms while she has a sinkful of dirty dishes and a pile of dirty clothes isn't necessarily an awful thing. It takes, what, five minutes to load the dishwasher and about that long to load the washer. It's like comparing apples and oranges. What Larry doesn't seem to get is that there might be a good legitimate reason why the dishes and clothes are stacked up that has nothing to do with laziness. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Control the Length of Women’s Hair?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.One of the things that seemed to be a given in Quiverfull - Evangelical - Fundamentalism communities is that either you as a woman wear your hair according to the dictates of your husband or even your church. We know why that is in those churches. It's because of 1 Corinthians 11:15 - … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Emotions Make Women Lazy?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - 7 Steps to Dealing With a Lazy WifeEditor's note: I know, I know... Larry's words are toxic and vomit-inducing but there's just so much so wrong that I'm quoting more than I usually would with Larry.  Notice too that his words in this piece dovetail with the thought and words of Michael Pearl in Aletha's latest review of 'Created To Need A Help Meet' … [Read more...]

Five Things Home School Moms Should Know About Abusive Marriages

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the Shepherd When our family started the homeschooling journey about 25 years ago, I envisioned my comrades in the movement as the ideal examples of healthy marriage and parenting. I have learned much along the way about educating and nurturing my own ten children, and I am seeing this legacy continue with my six grandchildren. However, as the years have gone by, I have had to lay aside my cute little rose-colored glasses and acknowledge that there can also be a dark side. Abuse, whether it is against a child or a spouse, is a tragic reality in far too many homeschooling families. Because I write frequently on the topics of domestic … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Emotions Make Women Lazy?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - 7 Steps to Deal With a Lazy WifeEditor's note: Larry has some typical slurs against women, like how with labor-saving devices women have it so much easier than in the old pre-electricity days. Plus in his eyes not only does a man have a right to discipline his wife for not doing what he wants, he has a responsibility. … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Touching Before Marriage?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Emotions Make Women Lazy?

 by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - 7 Steps to Dealing With a Lazy WifeEditor's note: Hoo boy, this is one of the worst things I've seen in a long time. Someone sends Larry an email complaining that their wife is a lazy rarely-cooking slob and had decided to do something about it after reading through the 'manosphere'. He doesn't say how many children they have or if his wife is in good health or address any of the long list of things that could impact her ability to keep house and cook. Larry responds with the usual tripe. … [Read more...]

Psychological Socialism – Manipulating by Equalizing Blame

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the ShepherdWhat is “psychological socialism”?  I’m so glad you asked!  It’s a term I coined a few years ago as rough concept after reading a friend's Facebook status (more on that later). Since then, I’ve done a lot of research on abusive and unhealthy interpersonal dynamics.  What I’ve read about and heard from others is enough to make my hair stand on end, but it gave me a lot of material to finally write this article! … [Read more...]