NLQ Question of the Week: Why is the Wife Blamed When a Man Cheats?

This is a series we run every Thursday. The questions are things that people who may not know much about the Quiverfull movement or even Fundamentalist or Evangelical Christianity ask about the lifestyle. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life can only shine a light on the toxic nature of this lifestyle choice. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull – Protect Your Husband From Seducers?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Fighting the Women Seducers!Editor's note: The unquoted first part of this is Lori carrying on about the book and movie 'Eat, Pray, Love' and it's author. How the entire book/movie/author is a seducer and marriage breaker. Yes, I saw the movie but never bothered with the book because a lot of the movie struck me as vapid, but I have friends that loved it, finding it deep and meaningful. Apparently my vapid is Lori's seductive. Everyone views things differently and that's okay, unless you are stuck in fundamentalism. … [Read more...]

Chronic Pain and a Football Game

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Sharing this because it is a perfect illustration of something most of us struggle with post-fundamentalism - boundaries, physical, emotional and spiritual. Many of us come out without healthy concepts of what good boundaries look like, still stuck in 'Good Christian' mode where there are no boundaries. Bruce is working on defining his boundaries, just as I am and so many others post-leaving. How are you doing on this important issue? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Cure Jealousy by Teaching Your Wife That Polygamy is Godly?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - How To Train Your Wife Not To Be JealousEditor's note: When Hillary Clinton recently called her opponent's supporters a 'basket of deplorables' she accidentally left out Larry. In fact, I think he might actually be worse than the nastier Trump supporters because he's pushing polygamy as a solution for jealousy in your wife. Clearly he's not read any of the FLDS walk-away memoirs detailing the jealousy and competition in their marriages between the wives that creates a hostile poisonous environment for everyone in the family. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Opinions on Christian Music?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Do Not Share Your Thoughts With Your Wife?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - How to Train Your Wife Not to be JealousEditor's note: Toxic marriage advice from Larry. Don't share your thoughts, don't allow her to pressure you to spent time with her. Seriously dude, the only thing this advice is growing is frustration and contempt on the part of the wife. You want a divorce? Follow Larry's advice. … [Read more...]

The Duggers Attend Marriage Retreat

Over on Reddit yesterday a man posted a 'Ask Me Anything' thread after having spent the weekend at the same marriage retreat that Jim Bob, Michelle, Josh, Anna and other assorted Duggars attended. He had a lot of interesting things to say about the experience: … [Read more...]

Part 2 – Falling Off the Ladder of Inference

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission. Please see Part I HERE for the Introduction to the Ladder of Inference and CranioRectal Inversion (CRI) #2      … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: There is GOOD Jealousy?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - How to Train Your Wife Not to be JealousEditor's note: There is just so much toxic and bad ideas packed into Larry's screed about jealous wives that this just barely touches the surface. Will unpack the rest of his word salad in the next few posts. Jealousy can be a problem in marriage and mature people are usually not filled with jealousy, envy or resentment. This ends up being a post on how to force your wife to accept the idea of polygamy being 'Biblical'. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: God Wants You to Provide Sex, Cleaning and Cooking?

by Steven Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church from two different nearly identical posts - The Wife's Role as a Helper and Letting Your Wife Stay HomeEditor's note: Anderson's push after being banned from countries and being deported? Double down on the wives much do everything and stay home traditional gender roles. They must joyfully put out the sex too! … [Read more...]