Christian Kindness as Gaslighting

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comI think that at this point it’s pretty obvious I’m a “liberal” or “progressive” Christian. I’m still not entirely sure what those terms might mean (does anybody?), but I’m excluded from a variety of Christian spaces because of my beliefs. Sometimes I think that’s weird, considering I still affirm the ancient creeds of the Christian faith so I feel that when it comes down to the brass tacks of it all there’s more we can agree on than stuff we’ve can’t, but I’m learning not to let it bother me. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Be a REAL Lady?

by Elizabeth Elliot as quoted by A Lovely Calling - Being a LadyEditor's note: The absolutely hysterical thing about this particular quote is that the blogger quoting this narrow shaming/blaming quote on lady-likeness is violating most of it in a very silly looking selfie photograph at the original posting. No one can dictate what are and are not the 'right' characteristics for a woman to possess. Every single woman is different, no matter what Quiverfull female enforcers try to say! … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Not Just Admit Struggles?

This is a series we run every Thursday. The questions are things that people who may not know much about the Quiverfull movement or even Fundamentalist or Evangelical Christianity ask about the lifestyle. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life can only shine a light on the toxic nature of this lifestyle choice. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Relationship Goals Should Not Be About Fun?

by Lisa Hallahan of A Lovely Calling - 10 Real "Relationship Goals" Everyone Should HaveEditor's note: Here they go again, telling everyone what everyone should do. That's  like life is a perfect pair of pants for everyone instead of a poorly designed one size fits all pair that sags on some and splits the seams on others. There are no absolutes except in vodka. What's wrong with dating someone you get on well with, someone that is a close friend? Nothing. You know what does suck the life out of a relationship and almost ensures an unhappy marriage? Being quickly shackled to someone you aren't friends with and barely know because you 'must' get married. … [Read more...]

News: More Advertisers Flee TLC and the Duggars

Not too surprisingly last week's premiere of The Learning Channel Duggar family show 'Counting On' has ended with more advertising either pulling their advertising from the show. Some ad buyers had made the decision not only to stop their ads from appearing on the show, but on the network altogether. … [Read more...]

Understanding Risk: Learning to Move Towards Safety

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace I once heard a lecture about fostering critical thought that aimed at defining risk and the information that we have when we must make choices. Some choices are easier than others, depending on what may happen if we make the wrong choice, and if we've exited a high demand group, we are likely brutal perfectionists. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Shallow Puddles or Deep Wells?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Shallow PuddlesEditor's note: While lately quoting from Nancy Campbell seems to be like pumping from a shallow puddle this is one of the few more lengthy posts that is not a graphic with scripture on it. Nancy seems to be saying that you have to give up the things/activities of this world and concentrate on God. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Old is Too Old?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Are Stay at Home Mothers More Likely to be Depressed?

by Tonya Dixon from Never Too Many Flowers - The Struggle for Significance: When Being a Mom Doesn't Feel Like Enough in God's Kingdom WorkEditor's note: This mother is one of the QF moms that hordes children via adoption whose blog I read to chart the hording of special needs children. Since she's not been able to adopt more in the last few years she's turned to 'orphan hosting' and is awaiting final approval to do foster care in her area. While I applaud anyone brave enough to do foster care because it's not easy and there is a huge pressing need for foster parents in most communities, I have to wonder if this is just part of another scheme to adopt more children. Child Hording via … [Read more...]

How Evangelicals Turn Everything Into Sins Against God

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser(Editor's note: Sharing this because it dovetails so nicely with today's Quoting Quiverfull of Bill Gothard adding 'sin' to eyes and eyelids. This type of thinking is the sort of thing that can lead to developing eating disorders!)Warning! Snark Ahead! … [Read more...]