Do Leader-Driven Churches Create Passive-Aggressive Christians?

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalIn my adventures online I have noticed how poorly many Christians cope when asked to dialogue with others. In my experience, many simply make their comment and seem to expect it to be accepted without response. If a reply is given, things often go one of two ways: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Silly Female Emotions?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Emotions Are Not DictatorsEditor's note: So this was a few days before Lori wrote her piece complaining about young women blogging, preaching, teaching, writing books and it's pretty easy to see from her words that some retreat she went on triggered that post. I don't envy her because I do clearly remember this entire scrambling to be the alpha in the female CPM pack all too well. It's a frustrating miserable place to live. Being free of that performance bondage is such a better place to be.  … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why the Childish Language?

This is a series we run every Thursday. The questions are things that people who may not know much about the Quiverfull movement or even Fundamentalist or Evangelical Christianity ask about the lifestyle. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life can only shine a light on the toxic nature of this lifestyle choice. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Blogging Is IGNORING Your Family?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning – Blogging and Neglecting Your FamilyEditor's note: Yes, it seems like this is some sort of jealousy/territorial marking of turf Lori's is doing here. About as subtle as a kitty I used to have that peed on all four outer corners of the house daily to let everyone know it was his house. Lori is doing exactly that with this piece. Only SHE and others like her should be allowed to blog. Pretty petty and transparent. … [Read more...]

A Journey of Unlearning

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comCongratulations to Samantha on this new phase of her life attending seminary!This is my first official paper for seminary. It’s for my hermenuetics class, answering the question “Who and what circumstances made me the kind of interpreter of religious texts that I am today?” A lot of this y’all have heard from me before, but I do mention a few concepts I haven’t talked about on the blog before, so if you have questions about anything I say here, feel free to ask– this was written for a man familiar with speech-act theory, after all. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Blogging Is IGNORING Your Family?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Blogging and Neglecting Your FamilyEditor's note: Oh this is just too toxic to completely unpack in one posting, but it's giving off the vibe that Lori thinks only older ladies can or should blog because she's feeling threatened in some way. Huge followings? Books? Touring the country giving speeches? Sounds more like the Green Eyed Monster of envy than any real worry about the unBiblicalness of blogging. What do you think? … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – The Most Important Thing To Know How To Cook?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Spanked For Refusing Sex?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Does the Bible Allow a Husband to Spank His Wife? (top article on his site)Editor's note: I'm amazed that anyone writes to Larry asking for advice because his advice is usually so very creepy and abusive. This is no better. Not once does Larry answer the question of if it is 'right' to divorce a man that physically and emotionally abuses you, and let's be clear here, any man who decides to punish you as if you were a child with physical abuse followed by 'grounding' you from leaving the house IS abusing you. Had to trim the part where the lady says she's so exhausted and burned out by caring for the six children they have had in five years of … [Read more...]

Should There Be Public Forgiveness For Josh Duggar?

Over the past couple of weeks there's been some happenings on Duggar social media with a slant towards redeeming the public image of Josh Duggar after last year's revelations of his various sins. This culminated with this week's posting on the official Duggar social media celebrating the 8th wedding anniversary of Josh and his poor beleaguered wife Anna. This is what the Duggars said about Josh and Anna: … [Read more...]

Cognitive Biases: Part 1 – Falling Off the Ladder of Inference

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman and Under Much Grace used with permission. Well, we don't actually fall off of it. We just don't climb it very gracefully, and don't end up where we'd like. Before diving into additional cognitive biases, let's take a look at how we can put them into perspective by considering the Ladder of Inference. (We named the Hindsight Bias as our first in the CranioRectal Inversion (CRI) that results from falling into their trappings. Honestly, I intended no pun when I wrote that post and created the image!) Think of the Ladder as a section in the toolbox for cultivating safety in recovery from trauma, and … [Read more...]