Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Is It Right To Show Admiration?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 – Don’t Judge Your Husband Ever?

by Michael and Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy magazine – Marriage Good WillEditor's note: Well at least Michael says the non-gender 'spouses' when talking about contempt. Why would you marry someone you feel mainly contempt for in the first place? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Make the Best of all Situations?

by Vyckie Garrison at Raw Story - Duggar Cult Survivor Wants You to Meet the Powerful Women Who Make Other Women's Lives a Living HellEditor's note: Interrupting the nauseating screed by the Pearls on why women should always be cheerful to their menfolks to bring you this -- a recounting of poor Serene Campbell Allison's winter with no plumbing or heating. This is the reality for many women in Quiverfull when the house is filled with more children that can be supported on a Quiverfull male's likely labor-related small income. … [Read more...]

Living Without Inspiration: The Bible and Me

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comWhen I was attending Pensacola Christian College, one of the guest speakers that came in for the mandatory four-day-a-week chapel service castigated Christians for not respecting the Bible enough. He compared us to Muslims in order to illustrate how we were failing, explaining that Muslims handle the Qur’an with extreme care, propriety, and piousness. Depending on the interpretation, only those who are formally purified can touch the mus-haf (the printed Qur’an in the original Arabic), and it’s commonly taught that it should always be kept in a safe, clean place. The chapel speaker accused us of being negligent in our rever … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Don’t Judge Your Husband Ever?

by Michael and Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy magazine - Marriage Good WillEditor's note: Why is it that all men in Pearl World are completely incapable of doing simple things like remembering what drawer is the sock drawer and turning on the hot water faucet in the tub? This is just not right and clearly NOT the responsibility of the wife to make sure her weak little man-baby is spoon fed so he doesn't have to take responsibility for his own care. Disputing Michael's observation that a man forgetting where his socks are stored is a 'normal man habit' It's the hallmark of a disrespectful guy who has no business being married! Ugh! Is he a husband or a six foot tall toddler that shaves? … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 1 Washing of the Word (The Heavenly Climax of Spirit!)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom MormonTrigger warning: Michael talks about sex and the church. May cause nausea!p 151-154Today we are starting the chapter called Washing of the Word. Supposedly Michael is going to explain how men are to sanctify their wife. Of course, the purpose of sanctification is to turn the wife into the ideal help meet. And by that, I mean turn the wife into what the man wants. Let's begin, shall we? Also in this section is a rare treat. We are blessed an honored to get a genuine sermon in the midst of all this teaching. Or, in other words, Michael talks on and on and on about how wonderful marriage is. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Don’t Judge Your Husband Ever?

by Michael and Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy magazine - Marriage Good WillEditor's  note: Now Michael is busting out some samples of how men/women should handle each other to promote 'Good will' between them. They sound hokey, fake and condescending to you really have to treat your spouse like a thin-skinned child to have a good marriage? … [Read more...]

News: It’s Official – Duggar Family Returns to Television

Breaking News: According to US Weekly the Duggar's are officially returning to television. It's not a rumor by a tabloid, folks, it's happening! From the article: Onward and upward! After costarring on TLC's 19 Kids and Counting, Jill and Jessa Duggar have landed their own series Jill and Jessa: Counting On, premiering on the cable channel on Tuesday, March 15, Us Weekly has learned exclusively. … [Read more...]

Trauma: Where it Begins and Where it Can End

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman used with permission from Under Much Grace.Every few months, I read an online discussion that argues that when a person gets out of a traumatic relationship (especially a religious one), there are no guidelines on how to recover. While on one hand, that's true – because we all recover on our on timetable and in our own ways – trauma symptoms that cause problems in your life beyond about six months following the event aren't healthy.Unfortunately, though we may be reasonably healthy, the dynamics of a high demand relationship, religion, or group take a toll on us and cause us to loose the hea … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Don’t Judge Your Husband Ever?

by Michael and Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy magazine - Marriage Good WillEditor's note: More crap about accepting those men folks for their toilet seat lid, tracking dirt on the rug, but at least they finally citing someone and their research - Dr. John Gottman of the University of Washington.  While Gottman has done a number of studies on marital stability I highly doubt his answer to stable marriages was the wife putting up and shutting up with a big grin. It looks like the Pearls may have lifted almost word for word at least one sentence from an online bio of Gottman for this piece too. … [Read more...]