Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Will My Wife Ever Love Me Again?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: If You Don’t Give Things Away You Don’t Really Trust God?

by anonymous as reposted by Lori Alexander of Always Learning - Keeping a Home Beautiful on a Small BudgetEditor's note: Most of this article is the typical 'blah-blah-blah' female cult enforcer idea that no matter how broke you are that you aren't Godly or righteous unless you keep your home spotless and attractive to others. On a budget of course. How many different female cultural enforcers have we heard this nonsense from? How does it square up with the words of Jesus to Mary and Martha? I have done the every six months reorganize and donate for years now but still do not consider it anything to do with faith or God. Is it 'spiritual' or practical? … [Read more...]

Godly Gertrude and the Harding University Dress Code

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserThis graphic perfectly illustrates the puritanical culture found in many Evangelical churches. Women are considered lust magnets, sure to attract weak, pathetic Christian men who have little control over their sexual desires. Starting with primary school age, females are taught to never, ever expose any of the sexual parts of their bodies–breasts, cleavage, bare shoulders, legs, and ass. In other words, girls and women are expected to dress similar to burka-wearing Muslims. The only difference is the head covering. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Getting Married is an Accomplishment?

by Vaughn Ohlman from Let Them Marry - The Accomplishment of Miss PuffingtonEditor's note: Vaughn is speaking of a Huffington Post writer who is talking about her own engagement and marriage as something to celebrate but not an actual accomplishment. For the record her name is not 'Miss Puffington' Your thoughts? Accomplishment or just usual life stage? … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated Part 3 Chapter 4

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the book are in blueThis section gets weird. So...very....weird.Overarching Themes:To get ready for marriage, sisters should practice being helpmeets to their brothers.As always, the Botkins include a section that disavows that sisters should be helpmeets to their brothers. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 Disobeying Your Visionary Husband?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy – Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids and Hopeful WivesEditor's note: And now we look at a few comments on Michael's starts out good advice before going nuclear toxic. Yes, many commenters stroked his ego, but a surprising number claimed to have been in the same exact situation. Sickeningly enough there were a number of commenters that accused the original letter writer of being a whiner who is throwing a pity party. So much for the love of Jesus I guess. … [Read more...]

This is Your Brain on Fundamentalism

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comI grew up in Christian fundamentalism, and now I’m a progressive Christian. Surprisingly, at least to me, that particular path is an unusual one, although probably not rare. Speaking from personal observation, it seems like the more usual route out of Christian fundamentalism isn’t liberal Christianity, but atheism.Unfortunately, it seems like there’s a lot of atheists out there who gave up on their religion, but didn’t give up fundamentalism. A little while … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 Disobeying Your Visionary Husband?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy – Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids and Hopeful WivesEditor's note: So taking a job to relieve some of the financial stress will leave you bitter and make you leave your husband? Okay, so the leaving the husband is implied not spoken. Wow, male egos are so fragile in Pearl World. Most telling and disgusting is Michael's advice to have the husband over to your parent's home not only to see the kids but for a conjugal visit. He cannot get off his lazy butt to get a job but you still owe him sex? Later today we will be looking at the advice of Michael's fans about this situation. Their advice isn't any better than his. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Is Faith That Fragile?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.Reading through Debi Pearls's site for her book 'Preparing To Be A Help Meet' and many different quiverful and fundamentalist blogs I have noticed a pattern. People afraid to be around 'non-believers', giving the stated reason of being afraid that their faith will be negatively impacted. What does it say about your faith when it can be so threatened by anyone outside of the custom tailored bubble? Why so weak? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 Disobeying Your Visionary Husband?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids and Hopeful WivesEditor's note: So now you get to exercise your 'maternal instinct' and use good judgment if your husband puts you guys on the streets with no food in your bellies. Seems to me that having the wife use her judgment and maternal instincts earlier, like perhaps when the wolf is at the door but there is an actual door between the family and the world, is a much smarter way to go than to sit by smiling and allowing him to drive the family to the streets. … [Read more...]