Quoting Quiverfull: Begging For Money to Child Horde?

by Adeye Salem from her blog of the same name - Begging For Money or Saving a Life?Editor's note: Ever the fundraiser, first for adoptions, then for her embryo snowflake adoptions and later for an orphan's home in South Africa that turned out to be a pipe dream Adeye is upset that most people out in the world do not approve of child hording via overseas adoptions paid for by other people's money. I leave you with this. What do you think? Are they saving lives, hording special needs kids or inflating their own vanity here? … [Read more...]

Fly Away From Dream Squashers For Safety and Stability

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceWhen preparing to write this post, I kept thinking about a scene on Everybody Loves Raymond where one of the characters named Robert says something quite true about what he calls “dream squashers.” Deborah, his sister-in-law, discusses returning to her career while the rest of the family focuses on the negative aspects of the idea. I identify with how Robert recounts his childhood dreams as he encourages Deborah to “strap a rocket on her back” so she can fly away from the naysayers – the dream squashers. It helps me make light of things, but the statement that he makes is very valid. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Do Not Be Too Godly Around Your Husband?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Does Your Godliness Turn Off Your Husband?Editor's note: Does this not sound like Lori is doing her best to imitate Debi Pearl? We have seen that she does clearly promote the Pearl agenda many times, but this piece was in response to one by Tim Challies instead of Debi Pearl. Instead of encouraging women it just points out yet again that most of the men in the CPM are a bunch of weak whiny wimps whose fragile egos can be dented by the simplest of things. Who wants someone that insecure and needing to be constantly coddled as a partner? Sounds like way too much like work. … [Read more...]

Questioning the Pearls – How Can I Instill a Sense of Self Worth in My Verbally Abused Child?

For well over a year we’ve been running a second Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we’ve run through many of the questions on their site it’s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Mighty Warrior Queens?

by Jen McBride from Old Paths - What Does Virtuous Really Mean?Editor's note: This is from the introduction to McBride's book 'Queen of the Home'. Skipped a great deal of this because it was Nancy Campbell-like parsing of word meanings in the original Hebrew and very pedantic boring. All of this begs the question of why do women in the CPM have to constantly come up with inflated claims about what a stay at home mother is instead of just accepting that sahm have existed going very far back and no one before this particular bunch ever added all these meanings to what they are doing? … [Read more...]

Information About Spiritual Abuse

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsThis page is dedicated to helping the reader understand how to recognize spiritual abuse.SurveyOften, books, websites, and other information regarding spiritual abuse focus on cult situations or blatantly abusive issues such as sexual abuse in the church.  But, the well-kept secret is that spiritual abuse is much more pervasive than that.  Perhaps the best definition of spiritual abuse is found in the book, The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen: “The individual is left bearing a weight of guilt, judgment or condemnation, and confusion about their worth and standing as a Christian.” … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Do Not Be Nice?

found at Ladies Against Feminism by Erika Schanzenbach from Highland Ministries - Don't Be Too NiceEditor's note: Wow, someone urging Christian fundamentalist women to be even more judgmental and hectoring. And they wonder why people are running away from churches in droves, about the rise of the Dones, yet they keep preaching hate and intolerance. … [Read more...]

What are you Doing? – Chapter 14 Sakal Just Wants Everyone to Marry Now so He Can Imagine the Wedding Night

by Suzanne TitkemeyerOkay, let's dive right in today instead of silly shilly-shallying around cracking bad jokes.When we last left the book Pater (Pat) Terrifille and know it all dirty minded park lurker Sakal Davidson were walking and discussing in the most disgusting ways the reasons why horny young boys must marry immediately. Seriously, by the time I got to the end of the chapter reading on Facebook Live Sunday night I was starting to gag from the tequila I had to swill so much because of all the squishy sexual references. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Chastity Belts?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Is it Wrong For My Christian Husband to Make Me Wear a Chastity Belt? - not linking directly but this is the top article on Biblical Gender Roles.com if you must read.Editor's note This quoted piece is not written by Larry but by a woman writing to him for advice on the Biblicalness of  chastity belts. In the unquoted bits Larry comes out that he considers chastity belts a sin and no woman should wear on, no matter how much she may want to wear it. He goes on to say masturbation is no sin either. Has anyone heard anything else about the wearing of chastity belts in the CPM? … [Read more...]

News: Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar Adopt Number Twenty

In Touch Weekly has been running a story for a couple of days about Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar adopting a child. It seems to be at least a bit more true than their recent claims that the couple was separated and headed for a divorce. At least there are court documents that can verify the news. … [Read more...]