Quoting Quiverfull: Making the Bed is a Sacrifice?

by Greg Smiley from Focus on the Family - Make Your Bed, Change Your MarriageEditor's note: This made me shake my head and wonder why evangelicalism/fundamentalist Christianity has to make every single tiny freaking thing IMPORTANT and make rules for it! The entire bulk of this article was that Smiley's wife liked a made bed and he likes it left unmade. Until the Lord convicted him that he had to SACRIFICE his desires for a messy bed to his wife's desire for a made bed. People, life just isn't that complex or rule-bound. Do whatever works for you and stop trying to make everything a theological metaphor or add rules. Do you really think Jesus cares that you and your wife have different … [Read more...]

Part 2 – The Story

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental  THE CHURCH WE BECAMEPaul and I began to be much more attracted to the teachings of ‘old-fashioned’ preachers and evangelists who seemed to be having great success in raising ‘Godly’, obedient, adoring children.  We frequented camp meetings where these preachers and evangelists could be heard.  They were loud, passionate and charismatic pulpiteers who knew how to deliver powerful sermons and lure audiences to surrender.  … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Never Sue Another Believer?

by Steven Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church - Handling Legal Disputes Between ChristiansEditor's note: First Anderson writes about not criticizing your pastor, or church, or gossiping, followed by writing about all the reasons not to own a church building and then this, claiming Christians should not sue each other? All of this is making me wonder what is going on behind the closed doors of Faithful Word Baptist Church. Are former members suing? Is it a case of members flooding out and dwindling attendee numbers while the media calls Anderson some very harsh names he's earned, like 'homophobic' and 'racist'? Just like turning on the light makes cockroaches scurry away perhaps the … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why do Neglectful Parents Get a Pass in Evangelical Quiverfull?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.This week Zsuzsanna Anderson wrote a piece called Fatal Forgetfulness about not judging, punishing or reviling those parents that somehow manage to leave their children in cars with the windows rolled up. This has started to be a tragic trend throughout the nation every time the temperatures climb to higher levels. Here's what she said: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Primary Identity is as a Mother?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Your IdentityEditor's note: Nancy is at it again, claiming that our only God-given role in this world is as a walking uteri. Anything else is 'denying our identity'. I don't think any of this is as simple as Nancy tries to claim. Most of us wear a large variety of different roles through our days and the scope of our lives. Some of those roles might be motherhood, but not all of them. Her words even ignore the roles that righteous women in the Bible fulfilled, like Lydia of the purple cloth, or the women who traveled with and supported the ministry of Jesus, or even the unnamed Proverbs 31 woman who was buying and selling in the marketplace. Why … [Read more...]

Is Jinger Duggar Pregnant?

This comes from a gossip site - The Hollywood Gossip - and involves a blind item from another gossip site so please take all of this with a boulder of salt the size of Gibraltar. But if it's true, if, it might explain some of the more puzzling things about the Jinger Duggar and Jeremy Vuolo courtship.Here's what THG said: … [Read more...]


by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's MusingsEditor's Note: Written from the perspective of someone that has managed to keep their faith after being through spiritual abuse.I was talking tonight with a friend of mine about ridiculous things that have happened to us at the hands of pastors and elders and whatnot from “Christian” churches.I don’t think that a lot of what happens in churches and between clergy and congregants is necessarily something that Jesus would condone and I don’t think He would be pleased with a large chunk of it. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: You Harm Your Kids When You Complain About Motherhood?

by Rebecca Brandt of Mom's Mustard Seeds - Stop Saying Being a Mom is HardEditor's note: Another want-to-be female cultural enforcer claiming that we have to be joyous and happy all the time or bad things will happen. Bad things, along with good things,  happen no matter what you do, think, project, feel, or experience. This is the number one toxic thing in Quiverfull - completely deny your emotions, shut up and smile. Being positive in your day to day attitudes isn't a bad thing, but to insist everyone do it to the extreme degree is emotionally unhealthy. The way we think impacts our hearts. TRULY! If we get up every morning dreading the day, we will not live the day in a way that … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Nursing Degree or Not?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Courtship Questions?

by Stacy McDonald from Your Sacred Calling - Courtship Questions for Potential SuitorsEditor's note: If the parents of someone you are interested in dating/courting ever ask you any of these questions my advice to you is to either RUN or ask them why they want to know. I've listed belong the most wtf questions from the very l-o-n-g list of courtship questions Stacy published. Click on the above link to see all the questions. These are all really none of the parents business at all, not even if you are engaged to be married. None of this is any of their business! But it does amply illustrate the complete lack of healthy emotional boundaries in Quiverfull. … [Read more...]