Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 5 – Grabbers, Hidden Flowers and Princesses

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideWell, the rest of the chapter is incoherent, mean-spirited and generally rude. In other words, classic Pearl wisdom. Generally, men like their girls to be informed and ready to give an opinion when asked. I agree with the major exception that women don't need to wait to be asked for an opinion. Don't ever let anyone silence you. Don't be a dingbat spending all your time on clothes and hair. That is shallow and temporal. Some men like their ladies well dressed and sharp, but that wears old in a few years. The mixed message on looks continues. So, look good, but don't spend time on looking good. (How does that work?) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Why Guys Like Steven Anderson Are Dangerous?

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This is from a recent Huffington Post article about the various doings and sayings of Faithful Word Baptist Church in Arizona that is pastored by Steven L. Anderson. The same guy that said last week that AIDS could be wiped out in America by Christmas if all the gays in this country were put to death between now and Christmas.Meet the Pastor Who Told Me He Hoped I Got Brain Cancer and Died by Michelangelo Signorile  … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your God-Ordained Destiny

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by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - God-OrdainedSo not having children is defying God and gumming up His plans? Another Nancy Campbell guilt-fear cocktail for mothers. … [Read more...]

Leaving Before You Are Ready

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixHow easy is it to leave a cult? For me personally, the answer is "not very." I pay close attention to the stories of those who have left a religious cult. I admit I am a little envious of the females who made their escape from their family's cult by marrying a man who whisked them away from it all. I wish I had that ticket available back then. It wasn't available to me because I was terrified of men. I was especially afraid of Christian men because of the religious Christian monster my father was. And I was also scared of the so called secular, worldly men because linking up with them meant my life would be cursed with demons attacking me, an … [Read more...]

Day 10 of 21 Days of Healing: WWJS?

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsPlease remember to remind yourself of the truth of who God says you are. Some days will be harder than others, but in the end, as you change your thoughts from the judgmental, demeaning messages of abuse to the unconditional love of God, you will find healing for your heart.Let’s work on that a little deeper today.Day 10: What would Jesus Say? … [Read more...]

The Smoke and Ash of Melting Memories

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace What are your earliest memories like?I remember some events as what seem like still photographs from when I was very young – like the yellow diaper service pail on the front porch with an embossed stork on it, though the pigment in the pattern had faded. I remember my mother sitting beside my white crib, reading different books to me. Though I could not have had a visit with him after I was three years old, I remember my orthopedist. He had jet black hair and wore a smock like doctors wore in black and white movies. I remember really liking him, but I don't remember talking to him or why I saw him. I remember my grand geek fas … [Read more...]

Duggar Kama Sutra

Paul Rudnick over at the New Yorker wrote a very funny piece about if the Duggar's wrote a sex manual what it would look like. Especially in light of the fact that no hand holding is allowed in courtship, and side hugs only.One of the funnier bits? … [Read more...]

Gaslighting Heated Up

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsYou can read Part 1 here.In my last post, I had just touched my toe to the cess pool of gaslighting and how it had impacted my experience with spiritual abuse. But then a comment on that post prodded me to delve a bit deeper into the practice of gaslighting. It wasn’t long before long-dormant memories were being stirred as I read, listened, and learned more and more about how gaslighters operate and how their behavior impacts their victims. … [Read more...]

Day 9 of 21 Days of Healing: No Strings Attached

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that you may have life, and have it more abundantly.” John 10:10I hope you focus on this verse today because if you have suffered spiritual abuse, you have encountered a thief intent on stealing, killing, and destroying you. So cling to the life that Jesus gives – abundant life!And that’s what today’s post is about, too. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Is Porn a Marriage Deal-Breaker?

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by John Piper from Scott Brown Online - Is My Boyfriend's Porn a Marriage Deal-Breaker?Does Piper have a point or is he totally out there making wrong assumptions? … [Read more...]


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