The Famous Ones

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsThere are big names out there in the spiritual abuse world.  Big name perpetrators.  Big name authors of blogs and books and Twitter feeds.  Big names whose social media accounts explode regularly over big names.  Big names getting the word out about big names who have committed outrageous acts of abuse.  And, of course, any time those outrageous acts are committed with any hint of ties to churchianity, we recognize them as not just sexual or domestic or physical abuse, but as spiritual abuse. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Long Engagements Product Impure People?

by Adam Gregorian at Minthegap.com - How Long Should I Be Engaged?Editor's note: You remember this guy? He's the one that had the website Is This Modest? where he had loads of photos of scantily clad teenagers with a lot of tut-tutting over their immodestly in a very creepy and inappropriate way? He's still blogging but at Minthegap.com now. The great irony of his blogging, besides claiming that long engagements lead to sexual sins are what has happened to his Is This Modest.com site. It's been hacked and taken over by radical Islamists.  Which is way funnier and ironic than anything else that could have been done with his site. … [Read more...]

David Bowie and Catholic Apologists Covering For Child Molester Priests

by Suzanne TitkemeyerMonday was a rough day in this household, and it wasn't because I was out of pain pills, or stuck changing cat litter boxes. It started first thing in the morning when I logged onto my computer and saw the news that artist David Bowie had died after an 18 month long struggle with cancer. I struggled with sadness the entire day, fighting back tears every time I logged onto Facebook and saw the tributes to this greatly influential artist flooding the internet.While I liked his music I wasn't the biggest Bowie fan. I must preferred the music of Queen and Mott the Hoople during the mid 70s. But David had recorded with both of those bands, even giving Mott the Hoople … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Do I Tell Him?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: If You Want Your Man to Find You Attractive You Have to ‘Earn’ it?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles – What if I Don’t Have an Hour Glass Figure as always safely linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: Here we get to the last part of this entire body shaming screed of Larry's, his take on weight and marriage. He thinks it's perfectly fine for men to gain weight after they've married, but insists that women do not gain weight if possible because they have to 'earn' their husband's love, acceptance and attraction. What a punitive punishing thought! Starting to sound like a set up to justify bringing another wife in and practicing polygamy. … [Read more...]

Evangelical Preachers and the Elijah Syndrome

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserMany evangelical preachers have what I call the Elijah syndrome. In First Kings chapter 18, we find the story of the prophet Elijah doing battle with the 450 false prophets of Baal. According to the Bible, Elijah decided to prove to Israel that Jehovah was the true and living God. Elijah did this by building an altar, placing a slaughtered bullock on the stone edifice, and calling fire down from heaven to consume the bullock. This all-consuming fire was so hot that it melted the altar’s rocks. According to modern science, melting rock into molten lava requires a heat of 1,000 to 2,400 degrees Fahrenheit. Ce … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Overweight? Just Accept the Tiny Pool of Losers Left to Choose From?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles – What if I Don’t Have an Hour Glass Figure as always safely linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: Yes, there will be more from this posting of Larry's. There are so many toxic ideas to unpack that it's going to take three days or so. In this bit Larry says girls that aren't thin either have to be grateful for the few guys available to them or lose the weight.  With more blaming and shaming over size thrown on top. Next up why a woman gaining weight in a marriage is wrong, but it's not wrong for a man. Guessing that perhaps Larry doesn't have the rippled and sculpted body of David Beckham either.  Why is the expectation of looking good always o … [Read more...]

HA & NLQ: What Are We After We Leave?

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyI have a concern about stuff I’m seeing and not seeing in the survivor community, and I think the time has come to address it, and talk about creating individualized post-fundamentalist roadmaps to ensure you’re not accidentally following new leaders in directions that don’t truly work for you.  So here goes: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Hate Men That Only Like ‘Perfect’ Women?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles – What if I Don’t Have an Hour Glass Figure as always safely linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: Larry finally goes into full on fat shaming in this bit. If he was so repulsed by this woman's body why on earth did he keep going out with her? No sparks? Stop the thing after the first date. Don't drag out the torture on yourself and heighten the expectations of the other person. … [Read more...]

Purging My Taliban Ways

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding FundamentalI was strolling down the aisles at Sam’s Wholesale Club one day about a year or so after leaving the church, and in the book aisle I noticed a book written by a woman from Afghanistan. It was obvious from the cover that she was a Muslim living under Taliban rule. I picked it up and began looking it over as I do with any book that piques my curiosity. I turned it over to read the back cover and was instantly captivated by what I saw. There written, was a list of rules imposed and strictly enforced on women under Taliban rule. … [Read more...]


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