Quoting Quiverfull: Overweight? Just Accept the Tiny Pool of Losers Left to Choose From?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles – What if I Don’t Have an Hour Glass Figure as always safely linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: Yes, there will be more from this posting of Larry's. There are so many toxic ideas to unpack that it's going to take three days or so. In this bit Larry says girls that aren't thin either have to be grateful for the few guys available to them or lose the weight.  With more blaming and shaming over size thrown on top. Next up why a woman gaining weight in a marriage is wrong, but it's not wrong for a man. Guessing that perhaps Larry doesn't have the rippled and sculpted body of David Beckham either.  Why is the expectation of looking good always o … [Read more...]

HA & NLQ: What Are We After We Leave?

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyI have a concern about stuff I’m seeing and not seeing in the survivor community, and I think the time has come to address it, and talk about creating individualized post-fundamentalist roadmaps to ensure you’re not accidentally following new leaders in directions that don’t truly work for you.  So here goes: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Hate Men That Only Like ‘Perfect’ Women?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles – What if I Don’t Have an Hour Glass Figure as always safely linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: Larry finally goes into full on fat shaming in this bit. If he was so repulsed by this woman's body why on earth did he keep going out with her? No sparks? Stop the thing after the first date. Don't drag out the torture on yourself and heighten the expectations of the other person. … [Read more...]

Purging My Taliban Ways

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding FundamentalI was strolling down the aisles at Sam’s Wholesale Club one day about a year or so after leaving the church, and in the book aisle I noticed a book written by a woman from Afghanistan. It was obvious from the cover that she was a Muslim living under Taliban rule. I picked it up and began looking it over as I do with any book that piques my curiosity. I turned it over to read the back cover and was instantly captivated by what I saw. There written, was a list of rules imposed and strictly enforced on women under Taliban rule. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Humility Most Attractive Thing in Women?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles - What if I Don't Have an Hour Glass Figure as always safely linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: Now Larry's handing out at advice if you're plain and too skinny. He ends with more fat-shaming. Later in this same article he says he was not attracted to his second wife because she was overweight. Such a very narrow definition of acceptable here. He's mixing toxic ideas with ones that are positive messages. … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet – Part 2 Contrasting The Types (A Tale Of Two Doctors)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 128-130Today we get a lovely little anecdote about how members of various types of men appear in real life. Just a disclaimer, this is Debi's story, through Michael's words, so things get a bit...murky sometimes. Are you ready?Text is in purple … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: It’s Rare For Men to Fall in Love With a Woman’s Personality Only?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles - What if I Don't Have an Hour Glass Figure as always safely linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: Larry pretends that he's merely giving advice to unmarried girls with less than perfect figures on how to find a guy. But mostly this is a fat-shaming and/or body shaming piece. Will be sharing this horrific post in multiple postings. There's just too much toxic sludge here to unpack in one quote. … [Read more...]

We All Need Help Sometimes

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI'm not going to wait until the last day of the year to share that 2015 has been an "Annus horribilis" for me and my family.My sister died suddenly and unexpectedly, and in the midst of that I was attacked for saying how I sick I was of christians who refused to deal with their own crap. (By a man who seems to have a lifetime of unresolved crap.) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Sacrifice It All Or You’re Not Doing It Right?

by Bethany Baird at Girl Defined - Hot Christian Girls Desperately NeededEditor's note: What I want to know is who put her or others in charge of deciding who's hot enough and who's cold, who's living their faith out in the right way? This is just more fear-mongering guilt trip verbiage by another female cultural enforcer trying to force everything in the same mold. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – What Is The Balance Between Friendship and Flirting?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]


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