Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 2 Washing of the Word (Your Calling Begins With Sanctifying Your Wife)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 153-154Today we are continuing Michael's extended-and extended-sermon on what he dubs "washing of the word". I interpret this to mean "Telling your wife what to fix to make her what you want", but I'm a cynic. Let's see what Michael has for us today!Text is in purple … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Evangelical Complimentarianism is Run Amok?

by Janie B. Cheaney at World magazine and as quoted by Ladies Against Feminism - Upside-Down HeadshipEditor's note: Let the records show that once in a century or two the ladies at LAF don't immediately go for the sickest most dysfunctional take on all things purported to be Biblical. But starting with the victim-blaming sort of almost cancels out the good in this bit on how men aren't supposed to be petty tyrants because Bible. The original author finished up the piece by also bemoaning the fact that many of these women walk away from faith when they walk away from Mr. Petty Tyrant. … [Read more...]

Vyckie Garrison Upcoming Speaking Tour April 2016

Upcoming appearances of NLQ founded Vyckie Garrison in North and South Carolina:April 13th - Charlotte Atheists & Agnostics April 15th - Humanists & Freethinkers of Cape Fear April 16th - Mrytle Beach Humanists & Freethinkers April 17th - Secular Humanists of the Lowcountry in Charleston … [Read more...]

Before Treatment: Unknowingly Trapped in Trauma

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman used with permission from Under Much Grace A previous post noted that problems like a sense of helplessness, shame, guilt, problems with trust, issues with boundaries, and bad dynamics send us into counseling to find help so that we can better manage our lives. In many respects, all people experience these kinds of feelings and struggles, but those who suffered trauma need more help. The nature of the pain we face seems far more complicated than a list of a few traits and patterns. How can things be so simple or at least so simply summarized? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Not Enough Zeal For Jesus and Everyone Goes to Hell?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Going...Going...GONEEditor's  note: More fear-mongering that you're not doing enough or doing it right enough to go to heaven. She uses the story of the ten girls with the oil lamps waiting for the bridegroom to drive home her notion that once saved is just not enough. Keep striving to be the bestest best or miss the boat. Not sure that's very Biblical. Not only do you have to be topper most uber Christian you have to make sure everyone else in your family is too. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 3 Chapter 3

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuoted parts of the book in blueIn this book, the term "statism" or "statist" receives a lot of play.  The problem is that I could not figure out what the Botkins actually meant by either term.According to Wikipedia, statism is the involvement of the government in economic or social policy in some form.  This roughly corresponded with what I remember hazily from some poli-sci discussions held in college.   This sort of explained why the Botkins seemed to conflate any Marxist governmental system with statism, but there seemed to be something else missing. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Nancy Campbell’s Liberian Adoption Update?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Big Loving HeartsEditor's note: So this does not exactly answer the question as to what happened to Nancy's adoptees, or the ones that her her Serene Allison had disappear. But it seems that they are fundraising for one of the few adoptions that worked out. Likely they are also doing this to silence those of us who've been clamoring for years now to know where the adopted Liberians are. For more on the adoption mess involving the Campbell family please read this article by NLQ friend Kathryn Joyce. Where are the rest of the orphans? … [Read more...]

Bill Gothard’s Abuse is Not a Surprise

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundIf you follow developments in homeschool leadership, you likely know that prominent homeschool leader Bill Gothard is alleged to have sexually groomed and molested dozens of young women during his leadership career in homeschool and other fundamentalist Christian circles, beginning in the 1970s and continuing until he stepped down from leadership a couple years ago. You likely also know that a handful of graduates from his leadership programme, IBLB, are suing Gothard, and subsequently the entire IBLP leadership board for turning a blind-eye to Gothard’s crimes. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Do Not Report Child Sexual Abuse to Authorities?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater joy - Twelve Year Old MolesterEditor's note: A mother writes in about the molestation of her friend's child by another child and Michael says do not report this to law enforcement? He seems to be completely unaware that their pastor is a mandatory reporter under the law and that if the offender is doing this because she may have been molested in the past that by involving the law she might be able to receive treatment from a qualified childrens therapist to help her move past her problems. How is covering all this up helpful to anyone? … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Teaching or Giving Friendly Advice?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]