Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – This is the Damage Female Cultural Enforcers do in Quiverfull

by an anonymous letter writer to Ladies Against Feminism’s Lori Alexander on her personal blog Always Learning – Taking Responsibility For Her Own UnhappinessEditor's note: Here's the final bit. I personally find it disturbing that she's sometimes praying for her husband 'through gritted teeth'. To me that indicates that nothing has actually really changed in her marriage, only in her own mind by denial of needs and emotions and forced cheerfulness. We all know how that works out in the long run. … [Read more...]

Learning to Say ‘No’

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserI was the type of pastor who could never say no. Over the course of 25 years in the ministry, numerous pastors extended invitations to me to preach at their churches. I never said no, even when doing so would cause economic hardship. Church members knew that they could always count on me to say yes to whatever they needed me to do, even if it was an inconvenience for me or my family. If someone needed a loan, I always gave it to them, even when I knew it was unlikely they would pay me back. Need someone to watch your six kids? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – This is the Damage Female Cultural Enforcers do in Quiverfull

by an anonymous letter writer to Ladies Against Feminism's Lori Alexander on her personal blog Always Learning - Taking Responsibility For Her Own UnhappinessEditor's note: Shout out to Debi Pearl in this bit. While what the letter writer is describing in her marriage sounds good, like they've managed to get back on track in a healthier way. Especially good is her responding in a better way to her husband's chronic health condition. What she's not said, only hinted at, it's because she is submitting to her husband to an unhealthy degree and suppressing her own emotions and needs. Typical Quiverfull, fix the marriage by pretending everything is perfect once you start doing 'Biblical … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Meek and Quiet Spirit?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – This is the Damage Female Cultural Enforcers do in Quiverfull

by an anonymous letter writer to Ladies Against Feminism's Lori Alexander's blog Always Learning - Taking Responsibility For Her Own UnhappinessEditor's note: This is one of those letters that makes me so sad. It's because the letter-writer is actually swallowing the toxic advice of one of Quiverfull's prominent cultural enforcers. This idea that women are entirely 100% responsible for their own happiness is one I've personally struggled with and seems to be a theme echoed in many of the life stories of our writers. This last week I wrote in my blog about this issue. Here's the thing, we all are responsible for how we deal with our own unhappiness, just not in the way that Lori and … [Read more...]

Answering Quiverfull – Rehoming Adoptees

by Suzanne TitkemeyerThere is something rather disturbing posted up on No Greater Joy Mom Adeye Salem's blog. Actually, it is a bit more than disturbing, it might be dangerous and illegal in some states. Adeye is advertising another family's adopted eight year old Ethiopian boy to anyone that wants him, like an inconvenient puppy that chews on master's slippers and piddles on the rug. Just like someone advertising a box of kittens to the first come first serve crowd, with about as much thought and consideration as giving away a pet. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Fundamentalist Sex Ed?

by Steven Brooks from No Greater Joy - Burning CoalsEditor's note: Sharing this because it's one of the rare times that someone in that world tries to teach/scare one of their children about the dangers of sex. Is it appropriate in your opinion to use passages of the Bible to try and frighten a child into sexual purity? Would it not have been better to also give some knowledge about sex along with this warning? … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 4 Chapter 6

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from the book are in blue textLast section in Chapter Six!  Yay!Overarching Themes:You've probably become afraid of dressing attractively since you read the section on modesty. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Beat Your Lying Liar Child?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – The Selfishness of a Tender HeartEditor's note: Notice that the words spanking or a little switching never appeared anywhere in this piece. Only the Pearl euphemisms that mean the same thing - training and discipline. I suspect that he rarely uses the correct words for his type of toxic discipline because of some of his followers like the Schatzs and the Williams. Protect the brand and revenue stream above all else no matter what their advice is doing to the children of their followers. … [Read more...]

Fundraising For Baptist Teen Home Recovery Event

NLQ author and SASBN member Cindy Kunsman is holding a recovery session for survivors of the IFB Teen Homes. Many of the ladies that have been hurt by these IFB homes are still suffering from the abuse done to them as children and could greatly benefit from this event. Sadly many cannot afford to go. Cindy is running a fundraiser to assure than any of them that wants to come to this event can afford to go. Here are Cindy's words about this fundraiser. … [Read more...]