What are you Doing? Chapter 11 Fathers Just Wanna Choose

by Suzanne TitkemeyerI'm starting to really dread Fridays. Reading this book is sucking away all joy on my Friday. I find myself putting this off as long as possible when scheduling posts for NLQ because this book is so poorly written and edited with heavy handed clubbing of the reader with the same points. Sort of like being clubbed by Bam-Bam on crack. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Are Justice and Judgement the Same?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine - God Defines a Good Person: Three Needful ThingsEditor's note: While it's good that Mr. Pearl is honest when he's selling something, being just or doing something justly or with justice is not the same thing as judging someone or something. It seems like Debi is confusing wisdom with judgement here. Judgement seems to be a harsher thing. We all have seen how harshly this ministry loves to judge those that are different from them. What do you think? … [Read more...]

I Did it All for Jesus: My Life of Self Denial

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserI spent the first fifty years of my life in the Christian church. Baptized a Lutheran and later making a public profession of faith in a Baptist church at the age of fifteen, I had been a part of the Christian church most of my life. I preached my first sermon at the age of fifteen, attended an Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) college as a young man, and pastored churches for twenty-five years in Ohio, Texas, and Michigan. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Love Your Home Too Much?

by Lori Alexander of Always Learning - Treasuring Your Home More Than ChristEditor's note: This post strikes me as interesting because it runs counter to what Nancy Campbell and other female cultural enforcers have said about making sure your home was beautiful and welcoming so that it honors God and makes your family content. The reality of it is that there is no one right or wrong way to have your home, or even clean it or landscape it. It's all a matter of personal taste, not a reflection of your faith. While the points Lori makes aren't bad ones, it still does not mean this is what everyone else must do. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Does Quiverfull Lead to Chronic Illness in Women?

This is a series we run every Thursday. The questions are things that people who may not know much about the Quiverfull movement or even Fundamentalist or Evangelical Christianity ask about the lifestyle. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life can only shine a light on the toxic nature of this lifestyle choice. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Martyrbating Over Your Haters?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - How You Can Love Those Who Hurt YouEditor's note: Here's a thought - it's way easier to simply not take offense when your husband is a thoughtless jerk or just immediately call him on it and move on. Or someone says something unkind to you or something else happens that you want to make all about you. Don't take offense. Realize it might just be a bad moment for that other person, or some other factor you have no knowledge of that has nothing to do with you! That is way more 'loving' than thinking about how those that hurt you are going to be punished or have already lost. … [Read more...]

Does the Church Know What Love Really Is?

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living Liminal "If You are struggling with any area of [this] information it is your problem, not ours. If you feel a breakdown in trust and relationship it is your issue not ours. If you don't seem to be able to give a righteous response to what you believe was said and done then go and seek counsel. You have been ministered to, you have been included, you have been loved." [Emphasis added] … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Shut Up About Your Bad Marriage Because God is Using it to ‘Refine’ You?

by John Piper of Desiring God and The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood as lifted and reposted by Lori Alexander's blog Always Learning - The Cost of Covenant Keeping LoveEditor's note: Wow, talk about dangerous tripe, this entire piece, including the parts I did not quote for brevity's sake. There's even a section where it says you can never consider divorce, ever ever, that you must erase the word from your mind. What this 'stay married' post does not take into account are the many marriages that are abusive, either physically or mentally, the marriages that flounder because there is no earthly way for either partner to meet the needs of the family and a myriad of other awful … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Stay At Home Daughters?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Parsing Nancy Campbell – What Does This Mean?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Are You a Well-Digger?Editor's note: Posting this because it's so unclear and word-salad-y. Is Nancy trying to say that you must pray more, read your Bible more, try to press into God more? Her meaning isn't very clear here and it's one of the few recent posts at her 'Women's Encouragement' that is not just a memed photograph or an announcement about a baby shower/bridal shower or asking for prayer for an ill grandchild. … [Read more...]