NLQ Question of the Week: Why is Every Marital Problem the Wives Responsibility?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.This very afternoon the photo below of Anna Duggar and her cheating husband Josh Duggar appeared on my Facebook feed with that horrible quote on it - "If your husband runs astray, it is no one's fault but your own. I wasn't capable of being the wife I needed to be for Josh. Looking back on it now, I think it made us both stronger. It made us who we are today, enriching our commitment to one another' - Anna Renee Duggar. Did Anna Duggar actually speak those words on a recent "Counting On" special or post it on social media? I don't know. There's no … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: No Gays in Church or Families?

by Franklin Graham from James Dobson's radio show Focus on the Family- Franklin Graham Warns Christians to Keep Gays Away From Their Children and ChurchesEditor's note: With same sex marital unions being the law of the land I'd hoped that the hysteria in the church against gays would have eased some by now. Sadly homophobia is still alive and well among prominent Christian Evangelical leaders … [Read more...]

Part 3 – Self-Regulation? What? How?: Adventures in Ambiguity

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceEditor's note: Cindy has oodles of very cute cat and kitten graphics at her site to illustrate her points. You should take a look at them on her site!)How can I possibly know anything about emotional self-regulation? I was faced and am often still faced with the quandary of growing up without it, not really knowing that I lacked it, and then trying to figure out how to develop it. And though trauma therapy helped me make great strides to develop it, I still have my days...The process works out differently for everyone, and some people have less difficulty than others.  This represents what I experienced in my journey … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Motherhood Only Career That Matters Eternally?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - The Highest CareerEditor's note: Nancy pushes her main message yet again. What is it about women having choices, even simple choices like if you go to school or work outside of the home, that these people find so threatening? Isn't having a mother who feels fulfilled and happy better than having a mother who's resentful and upset all the time because she's doing something she doesn't want to do? … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – He’s Nice, But Should That Be A Determining Point?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Use Biblical Principles To Run Your Home Or Have Chaos?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - One Law (thanks to Bruce Gerencser for sharing this bit on Facebook)Editor's note: This bit by Nancy is about making others follow your rules in your house and then awkwardly proclaiming this is how God's rules work too. Oddly I think that God would probably be way more relaxed about you jumping on the beds than Nancy would ever be. … [Read more...]

Is This Your Pastor?

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsHere is another interesting article on Covert Narcissism – specifically in the pastorate.  As I read the indicators, I was again nodding my head in agreement.Link to pdfThe bullet point list in the article talks about “one-upping you in conversation.”  I hadn’t thought much about this until I saw this point, but, yes, that happened in my very limited conversations with the pastor. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Husband Doesn’t Love You Anymore Until You Give Him Your Whole Body?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Why Doesn't My Husband Love Me Anymore? and as usual linked through Do Not Link to keep Larry's overweening ego in check. Red highlighting and bolding from the original by Larry.Editor's note: This long post of Larry's is a rationalization as to why guys like him don't hold hands, or shower you with flowers and compliments or treat you the same way after they marry you. Larry is chock full of wretchedly vile advice that you could do to get a little better treatment again, without putting any onus or responsibility on the husband. … [Read more...]

Beware of Church Planting Networks

by Emily Nielson Jones of Christian Patriarchal Watch List For Parents "For every 1 church plant by a mainline denomination, there are 9 church plants by an evangelical group, and most evangelical denominations were more open to women's leadership 100 years ago than they are today - for example, Evangelical Free, Baptist General Conference, Assemblies of God, various Holiness denominations, and the Wesleyan church.” ~ Dave Olson, Church Planter, Evangelical Covenant Church (which has a gender-balanced leadership) http://www.christianitytoday.com/gifted-for-leadership/2009/april/final-church-barrier-for-women-church-planter.html … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: What the Heck is ‘Nuisance Lust’?

by Doug Wilson of Blog and Mablog - Pastor Doug Wilson on Rape, Submission, Feminists and BoobsEditor's note: There is just so much completely wrong in Wilson's entire article, starting with the title. Why not use the word 'breasts' instead of the casual word 'boobs'? The way he speaks about women that do not line up with his ideas on good women, like 'herpes on heels' or 'pop up twinkie' is merely denigrating and disgusting, something no pastor or man should say. Seems to me that the entire articles main thrust is to put down women for not conforming to his personal standards. … [Read more...]


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