Quoting Quiverfull: Flirting and Teasing are the Secret to Keeping Marriages Alive?

by Shoshanna Pearl Easling from No Greater Joy magazine - How Do You Keep Marriage Alive?Editor's note: Shoshanna is answering a reader's question in this bit. While none of the things she's saying are necessarily bad advice I find it revealing and interesting that there's nothing on that list involving communication or discussion or being truthful and real with each other. It sounds more like a list to seduce someone else. What do you think? … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated Part 3 Chapter 8

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the book in blue textFamily dynamics leak into personal writings.  In this section, Anna Sofia and/or Elizabeth demonstrate a very basic persuasion technique used by a wide variety of groups including cults.  This technique is really most effective when used in a person-to-person interaction; a written version of it is underwhelming, but serves as good practice to identify and undermine the technique.Overarching Theme:Obey your parents and life will be great!  Disobey and life will be horrible! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Who Needs Textbooks and Boring Lessons?

by Karen Sargent from No Greater Joy Magazine - From KarenEditor's note: We're continuing on from Michael Pearl's anti-traditional edumakashun marathon in this month's No Greater Joy magazine. Here Karen is pretty much doubling down on Pearl's stated non-teaching of teenagers before college. Mel wrote an excellent take down of Karen's words last week - Response to 'Karen' From No Greater Joy Magazine … [Read more...]

I Lost My God Innocence

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open Ground“You HAVE changed!” a friend from my old Christian circles said to me three years ago, when I first came back from South East Asia, alone and frightened.We were outside a popular late-night burger joint in my home state. When pressed, I had spoken my opinion about evangelical hot button. Apparently my friend had heard that I had changed from somebody who read my blog, but when I said the wrong words, she now believed it for herself- I had turned into a liberal. Horrid. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: You Must Be Feminine or Else?

by Abigail Dodds from John Piper's Desiring God - The Beauty of WomanhoodEditor's note: So working outside of the home robs us of our beauty and femininity? Also, why does working and not staying home with our children equal disrespecting our uteruses? No one accuses stay at home fathers of disrespecting their gonads. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Different Calling?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Courtship is ‘Safer’ Than Dating?

by Rowina Seidler as quoted by Ladies Against Feminism from Ruby in the Rough - Courtship vs BoyfriendsEditor's note: No where in this article does the author come out and give that hoary old untrue Christian trope about giving away pieces of your heart, but it's a close thing. Sounds like her idea of courtship does not involve developing feelings or attraction to a guy, it sounds more like an extended job interview. … [Read more...]

Recognizing Pervasive, Poisonous Power in Marriage

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch The Shepherd “There are two kinds of power. One kills the spirit. The other nourishes the spirit. The first is Power Over. The other is Personal Power. Power Over shows up as control and dominance. Personal Power shows up as mutuality and co-creation. Mutuality is a way of being with a person which promotes the growth and well-being of one's self and the other person by means of clear communication and empathetic understanding. Co-creation is a consciously shared participation in life which helps one reach one's goals.” … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Men Must Be Forced into Men’s Roles in the Church?

by Jason Allen from The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood - 5 Key Ways to Cultivating Biblical Manhood in Your ChurchEditor's note: This all boils down to 'we are penis possessors so we MUST rule' I think it's going to take more than these proposals to make men take more active roles in church leadership. That's without even considering the idea of complementarism. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 2 Chapter 8

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the book in blue textToday, dear readers, you get a special treat!First - no covert incest!Second, to help you better visualize what the actual book is like, I've included a quote that is a fairly standard page of uninterrupted Botkin language.  Technically, I should have included the entirety of the first paragraph, but decided to spare you some pointless emotional babbling along with minor slams against the girls who ask Anna Sofia and Elizabeth for advice so we could start at the main point of this section. … [Read more...]