This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.One thing is for certain, in our real life circles of acquaintances at the old Quiverfull churches and in Quiverfull families online people make risky, not good for their children, their families, their finances, their health, and their emotional well being all the time and justify it by claiming that it's something that God called them to do. I'm talking about when it looks to the outside world that they're doing exactly … [Read more...]
NLQ Question of the Week: Why Do Quiverfull Families Do Awful Things To Their Families and Claim God Told Them To Do It?
by Stephane Singletary from Purposeful and Meaningful - What To Do When You Are Married To An Unbelieving HusbandEditor's note: What?!? So not only are you supposed to endlessly submit to a guy that isn't living the same way you are but now you're supposed to also go along with him and have no opinions or disagreements on day to day life? It sounds almost as though what's being advocated is worshiping your husband and turning him into the center of a cult of two people, him as the sacred leader/idol and you, the only worshiper/servant. This is not how emotionally healthy marriages function no matter what this woman says. This is not how respect between spouses works. … [Read more...]
Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, OKrational and the best possible solution, in other words … [Read more...]
by Stephane Singletary of Purposeful and Meaningful - What To Do When You Are Married To An Unbelieving HusbandEditor's note: This is another one of those incredibly toxic beliefs in Evangelical Quiverfull, 'Submit enough in the right way and your husband will be changed enough to treat you the way you long to be treated.' It never works, it just creates an environment for weak men to become even weaker and to abuse their wives mentally, emotionally, financially and physically. … [Read more...]
by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyIt’s blizzarding here in Boston today and I’m stuck at home, in a house creaking with snowy wind gusts, with this lovely view, watching YouTube videos while eating leftover king cake. My boyfriend is barely awake because Bostonians seem to love sleeping in on snow days. But I’ve been up for hours, finding myself wondering whether a breakfast beer would be appropriate around 9. Now considering back home in New Orleans it is Lundi Gras and beer or a bloody Mary would be totally expected, here it just doesn’t seem like it meshes with the environment. Boston is a place where people get nighttime trashed (“holding your liquor” not see … [Read more...]
by Colin Campbell from Meat For Men - His Heightened Senses 15bEditor's note: I guess Colin is not 'Feeling the Bern' if any of his recent posts are any indication. What he is feeling is all political, discussing the various candidates and how they line up with his views. Much of it is centered around abortion, mostly his insistence that there be no abortion exceptions made in cases or rape or incest. According to him every child conceived must be born. He's mentioning names and candidates, promoting some, excoriating others, from his charitable ministry platform against the IRS rules on political jockeying. Here he's blaming poor judgment for many things wrong in the USA and is saying … [Read more...]
by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Take Them CaptiveEditor's note: If I were to write a list of the more toxic ideas in Evangelical Christianity this one would be top of the list. In Quiverfull you are never allowed to feel your own emotions or think anything even slightly critical or counter to any idea presented as the truth. Can it be helpful to organize your thoughts or focus on other things when your thoughts go into some dark spaces? Yes, but the world of Quiverfull takes it all too far into suppressing your thoughts and feelings to the detriment of your own emotional health. Yes, Nancy, you CAN help others when you are experiencing negative thoughts or emotions. You aren't … [Read more...]