Quoting Quiverfull: Lying is A-Okay Biblical?

by InsanityBytes22 (one of Biblical Gender Roles many honeybadgers: ie one of the female commenters that pops up in his comments approving of every female-hating idea he posts) at her blog Insanity Bytes 2 -It's Okay to Fake it (Do Not Link linked)Editor's note: I will agree with her that good manners should happen, but if you've contemplated smothering your husband in the middle of the night perhaps being mannerly is not what needs to happen. Perhaps you should consider why you're feeling homicidal towards your spouse and work through that, or leave for his safety. Covering your feel with mouthing polite words merely wallpapers over dangerous volcanic feelings. Get help. … [Read more...]

News: ABC’s ’20/20′ Tonight Will Feature Story On Justin Harris Rehomed Adoption

Remember the stories on Arkansas Representative we've featured here involving his rehomed adoptive daughters being sexually molested by their new adoptive father? The Harris', hard core Evangelical Christians that claimed that the children were possessed so they locked the girls into their rooms? We have covered the various and sundry sleazy doings of Justin Harris extensively here.  … [Read more...]

Law & Order: SVU Duggar Family Edition

This week the trailer dropped for the upcoming episode of NBC's hit show "Law & Order Special Victims Unit" with the storyline inspired by the the Duggar Family. It involves a storyline about a famous reality television Quiverfull family named the Bakers who number 13 - a 'Bakers Dozen' Everything that's been publicly released so far shows that the main story is that the 13 year old Baker daughter turns up pregnant. … [Read more...]

Finding the Strength to Give Yourself Permission to Leave

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog Every Breaking WaveI remember the last two years before I walked away from my old church. Every Saturday night or early Sunday morning I would have a nightmare involving church. They always involved church. It might be something like the pastor calling me out for some imagined sin from the pulpit and he and I fighting in the sanctuary. One time I dreamed that my home was filled with an abundance, a crazy wild abundance of things, like opening the bread box to have three fresh loaves leaping out instead of one, or opening the silverware drawer and finding set after set of silver in the drawer. That dream was terrifying because I was … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Be Zealous Over Your Home & Kids?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Are You Eaten Up?Editor's note: More of Nancy's 'control your emotions to be ever cheerful and keep your home and children zealously. Or the verbal beatings will continue. Nancy's messages really break down into a few simple ideas. 1 - Never have negative thoughts or emotions. 2 - Keep your home and family perfectly at all times. 3 - Be happy and/or zealous in your role as a mother/housekeeper. 4 - You are not doing it as perfectly as I am. Who really needs this type of mind-screw? … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Do Fundamentalist Quiverfull Christians Think They Are Being Threatened In Every Interaction With The World?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.While reading through the piles of horrific questions and bad advice over at the message board for Debi Pearl's book "Preparing To Be A Help Meet" I kept seeing one of the commenters posting links again and again to her blog. She also kept insisting that all these random happenings were the world, or the devil, or evil trying to impact the Christian and change their morals in the most subtle way. Went to her blog and read this, which led to today's question. Misspellings and grammar-mangling left as the original author posted. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Look At Her Sinning Face During Sex?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com - How a Husband Can Enjoy Sex That is Grudgingly Given by His WifeEditor's note: This is possibly the worst part of the entire article, worse than insisting that husbands will cheat without sex, worse than saying 'fake it' and much worse than refusing to talk about sexual performance and likes. This ignores all consent and is pretty much straight up rape. Hounding someone into agreeing to sex against their own desires is a type of rape, or at least verges on it. BGR doesn't see it that way, he's just interested in his own selfish sexual pleasure. … [Read more...]

Why Can’t Christians Cope With Disagreement?

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalA few weeks ago I wrote a post entitled Why Can't Churches Deal With Disagreement? I was discussing the fact that most of my experience with that particular institution has encompassed an enforced conformity to a single viewpoint (usually that of the leader/s) and a lack of willingness to have the difficult conversations which are needed for real unity to occur.Yesterday, I had an experience which left me wondering (yet again) why it is that individual christians also fail so miserably at this necessary skill. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Have Sex With Your Man So He Doesn’t Cheat?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles - How a Husband Can Enjoy Sex That is Grudgingly Given by His WifeEditor's note: Here BGR says the exact same thing that Michelle Duggar has said both recently and in the past: If a woman isn't giving up sex, the right kind of sex, often enough for her husband he might cheat. Why is it that all the men in this type of fundamentalism are so puny and weak that they cannot control their own bodies and must be sexually catered to instead of, you know, living like most everyone else does and controlling their sexual desires? … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Go-To Marries Command Man

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]