Misunderstanding and Punishing the Character of Children as a Root of Victimization

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace Originally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the "Roots of Victimization" A few days ago, I pointed out that the girls who survived incarceration at Hephzibah House (HH) suffered both trauma/torture and spiritual abuse, and upon leaving, they struggle with unique problems including trauma reenactment, revictimization, and an inability to self-protect. Though some of this relates directly to the debilitation of the self created by the harsh conditions at HH, the roots of these related deficits are created in … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Praised By Men Before Feminism?

by Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin from Visionary Daughters - The History of Womanhood That Feminists Don't Want You to KnowEditor's note: What history books have these two been studying because nowhere in any of the history I've read has it said that Susan B. Anthony bestowed any rights upon her fellow women citizens. Ridiculous revisionist history in the fundigelical world. And the Bible gave women property and divorce rights first? Even sillier. This train of thought is appalling, uneducated and misguided. … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Stay and Help Mama, or Go and Help Others?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Modern Women Selfish and Weak?

by Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin from Visionary Daughters - The History of Womanhood That Feminist's Don't Want You To KnowEditor's note: That's some quality blaming and shaming going on in the piece below. They really have an axe to grind in this article with Nancy Pelosi and the Affordable Care Art. At least they aren't babbling on and on about clothing and makeup to honor God I suppose. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Representing Your King?

by Elizabeth Botkin from Visionary Daughters - What Every Christian Girl Can Learn From KateEditor's note: Almost two years of radio silence from the Botkin sisters, save for the occasional paid online seminar. Neither of them married in that time frame and no one really knows why they suddenly went quiet instead of continually flogging their restrictive lifestyle. But in this piece Elizabeth says that Kate Middleton, wife of the future king of England Prince William, represents the crown in how she dresses, that she doesn't dress or style for her own tastes but to bring glory to the British royal house. I doubt that she picks everything she wears with no amount of her own personal taste … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Military Wives Have To Put Up And Shut Up Too?

by Karen Sargent at No Greater Joy - From Our Mailbox, September-October 2015Editor's note: Before we start - full disclosure, I am a former military wife, so I have some familiarity with the life she's describing. Military life is not an easy one for the wives (and husbands) left behind when the active duty spouse is either out in the field or deployed to another country. That being said the letter writer asking for Mr. Pearl's advice is trying to help her military wife friend who's husband has been deployed into a combat zone and when he is home suffers from undiagnosed PTSD. The letter writer isn't so concerned about the PTSD or anything else, just mostly concerned with helping the … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 5 – Mr. Visionary (Butt Kicking Those Lazy Visionaries!)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonpp 80-82Last post, we read a letter from the wife of a Visionary. This Visionary didn't have a job, and the family was living off of charity and the government. Michael told him to pony up and get a job, and then called him a double-dog jerk. Today, we are still talking about lazy Visionaries.Text is in purple … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Upside Down World – LAF Now Claiming Unwed Pregnancies Not Sinful?

by Chad Ashby as quoted by Ladies Against Feminism - Brothers and Sisters, Unwed Pregnancy is Not a SinEditor's note: While I agree with Ashby that there should not be blaming, shaming or condemnation when someone turns up pregnant out of wedlock it's  not been my experience that places like PRCs or even the pages of LAF are very safe places. This is exactly the kind of ridiculous hypocrisy that the world looks down upon in the churches, saying one thing, doing exactly the opposite.  Even the places that treat unwed expectant mothers well tend to turn and blame them the moment the baby is born and the mother attempts to sign up for any social network benefits. You cannot have it both w … [Read more...]

News: Where in the World is Josh Duggar?

While People Magazine and other tabloids are speculating mightily about the type of treatment Josh Duggar may be receiving at Reformers Unanimous in Illinois some rather curious news comes out of that area. No one in Rockford, Illinois has actually spotted Duggar among the other recovering addicts at RU. He hasn't been seen coming or going from the mandatory twice a Sunday services at North Love Baptist Church. Which is odd considering it would be a mandatory part of his recovery process at RU. There has been absolutely no sightings of Josh anywhere in Rockford or RU. … [Read more...]

The Fantasy of Church Culture

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalIn my last post, I mentioned watching the efforts of my ex-fellow elder to pretend he was unaware of my presence. I also mentioned how funny I found them. (I also admitted that I used to find this sort of behaviour deeply painful and hurtful.) So when a friend commented on my Facebook page that it gave her hope that she might also get to that same point of freedom from the pain, it made me stop and think about my response to his performance, and how I have got to this place myself. … [Read more...]