Quoting Quiverfull: Part 6 – ‘Tomato-Head Children’?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Tomato-Head KidsEditor's note: This is the last little bit of blame momma and it reads like good advice. But knowing how the Pearl children turned out as adults doesn't exactly inspire confidence that any of their advice works. … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet – Part 5 Washing of the Word (Wow! Michael Is Right!)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 157-158Today is a super-short section. It's super short for two reasons: one, because I'm in the middle of a marathon of "Call the Midwives" on Netflix. Two, because I'm dying of shock. Michael makes a good point, and let's it be. He doesn't surround it with toxic nonsense. He doesn't blame the woman. He doesn't name call. He doesn't even boast. Just straight-forward, good advice-albeit centered in scripture. Read on! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 – ‘Tomato-Head Children’?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Tomato-Head KidsEditor's note: Yet again, either Debi or Mikey since we do not know who for sure actually wrote this piece, pins the burden of developing the child's intellect, conversational skills and language abilities on momma talking to the kids. This isn't the way that intelligence is fostered! It takes a variety of life experiences and teaching from a plethora of sources, including the things the Pearls put down earlier, to bring about a person with true intellect. … [Read more...]

Positive Affirmations and Manifesting

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixLife has changed so much for me the last several months. I honestly am still pinching myself. I got myself out of a living situation that was not conducive to healing, as well as a location that was physically not the best for my health. I'm living in Florida now, which has been my dream for quite some time... I'm finally free of the cold NY and PA winters. I'm surrounded by a totally new set of people... no one in my life now knew me before, and no one from my past contacts me now except two sisters. There is a possibility that I can work again in the future, get my career back. My physical health has been coming back to me faster than I im … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – ‘Tomato-Head Children’?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Tomato-Head KidsEditor's note: And here's where things get a little weird and confusing, more weird and confusing than the lack of paragraph formatting at their website. Michael Pearl's name is on this article as the author but in the second paragraph it suddenly switches to Debi Pearl's perspective as she talks about something Michael observed and said about a boy.Also, does it strike anyone that the Pearl's usage of the informal 'kid' instead of 'child' seems designed as a lessening of that child, a put down? I used to think that adults that insisted that kids were young goats were old-fashioned, not I am not so sure they aren't right. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 2 Chapter 5

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuoted portions of the book are in blueThis chapter is going to be nice and short.  The actual chapter in the book drags on and on, but....well, you'll see.Overarching Themes:Actual lists about how to treat guys like your brother (i.e., what good girls do) and how to encourage guys to pursue a romantic relationship with you (i.e., what bad girls do)There are two lists that I consider "good girl" lists. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – ‘Tomato-Head Children’?

by Michael Pearl from Above Rubies - Tomato-Head KidsEditor's note: It didn't take Michael long to turn this into his usual mother-blaming. Strangely he does not mention how men surfing the internet for hours harms the children, only when the mother does it. And seriously, telling women if they do not talk enough to their children they won't develop 'productive brain cells'? Fear-mongering at it's finest~ … [Read more...]

Christian Fundamentalism and Superstition

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comEditor's note: We very briefly touched on the subject of coloring books and mandalas in Quoting Quiverfull last month. Samantha takes a longer look at that same blogger's quote and parses it for the rest of us.[note: there is some swearing in today’s post]When Handsome and I first began dating, one of the hurdles we had to overcome was the different way we were raised. He had a fairly normal, healthy evangelical upbringing. His childhood was unmarred by any of the things that affected me, and when I tried to explain some of what I’d experienced he was bewildered. To him, my descriptions of my church and college were … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 ‘Tomato-Head Children’?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Tomato-Head KidsEditor's note: After all the 'Girls are Apples' memes we posted last month I cannot even begin to describe how disturbing I find the whole women and children as consumable objects thinking going on in some Christian circles. Sure, children do need lots of good positive interaction with their parents, but letting them have toys, music, television time and video games isn't going to warp or rot their minds. … [Read more...]

Reasons Why People Resist Recovery From Trauma

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman at Under Much Grace and used with permission In a nutshell, there are a few primary reasons why a person might resist recovery from trauma, though this list certainly isn't exhaustive. I believe that the list itself attests to the need for the love and support of others who have your best interests at heart. They can give you information, feedback, and a broader perspective when you need them most.None of these reasons should be seen as “bad,” for they are a part of what we encounter. As human beings, we face these challenges, and we do so in predictable ways.  There can be comfort in that idea, t … [Read more...]