Quoting Quiverfull: Win Him Back With Good Behavior?

by Lori Alexander of Always Learning - Pervasive and Intrusive PornographyEditor's note: Lori is saying almost word for word something from Vaughn Ohlman's book read last night in an NLQ Facebook video, that a wife must be perfect and perfectly submissively sweet to cause her husband to turn away from whatever 'sin' it is he is committing. … [Read more...]

Bonus Quoting Quiverfull Duggar Edition: Was Jessa Kidding?

From the Sept. 5, 2016 edition of People magazine:Editor's note: This is pretty sad and makes me feel very bad for Jessa Duggar Seewald. Here's what she said about wanting more children after the rough birth of her son Spurgeon. … [Read more...]

Developing Tools to Find Safety in the Face of Uncertainty

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission. In the discussion of building safety in stabilization in recovery from post traumatic stress, we've recently considered the role of acceptance and expectation in that process. We lose perspective because we get more consumed with survival for far too long which interferes with our ability to embrace joy and live optimistically. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Don’t Be Humble Except With God?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine – God Defines a Good Person: Three Needful ThingsEditor's note: Again, with the final of the three virtues Debi is speaking about her advice is the exact opposite of what is generally acknowledged. Opposites day. How on earth can you get this far from the words of Jesus and still think you follow Him? At least Debi didn't try to shame one of her children this time, I guess that's an improvement. … [Read more...]

Questioning the Pearls: What Kinds of Spanking Rods to Use?

For well over a year we’ve been running a second Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we’ve run through many of the questions on their site it’s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Unmerciful Mercy?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine – God Defines a Good Person: Three Needful ThingsEditor's note: Did Debi just call out one of her daughters for being truly merciful? Judgmentalism has nothing to do with real mercy, of course the Pearls would put a nasty disclaimer on freely offering mercy. What theological Twister this type of thinking is. … [Read more...]

Why People Support Abusive Leaders in the Church

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsIn those crushing months after we left our first abusive church (read Part 2 of my story), one of the things I struggled with was, how could the people who knew that abusive behaviors and situations had happened to me as well as others not step up and speak out?  I didn’t ask myself that question after we were tossed out of our second abusive church.  Maybe I just knew that they wouldn’t.  After all, not only had I been through this before, but I have talked to many others and read widely on spiritual abuse, and I am well aware of the way that people rally around abusive church leaders. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Unmerciful Mercies?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine - God Defines a Good Person: Three Needful ThingsEditor's note: Sharing this portion because it's one of the saddest stories I've seen to come out of this ministry that does not involve beating a child. The snipped part before this was Debi defining mercy, mostly in the same ways that everyone regardless of religious affiliation defines it. Then she launches into this tale which sounds very much like what I would expect over at NGJ and other QF enforcer type ministries. This man likely made a lucky escape from their toxic theology. I hope others out there show him the mercy denied here. There is more to the definition of mercy and this tale I … [Read more...]

What are you Doing? Chapter 11 Fathers Just Wanna Choose

by Suzanne TitkemeyerI'm starting to really dread Fridays. Reading this book is sucking away all joy on my Friday. I find myself putting this off as long as possible when scheduling posts for NLQ because this book is so poorly written and edited with heavy handed clubbing of the reader with the same points. Sort of like being clubbed by Bam-Bam on crack. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Are Justice and Judgement the Same?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine - God Defines a Good Person: Three Needful ThingsEditor's note: While it's good that Mr. Pearl is honest when he's selling something, being just or doing something justly or with justice is not the same thing as judging someone or something. It seems like Debi is confusing wisdom with judgement here. Judgement seems to be a harsher thing. We all have seen how harshly this ministry loves to judge those that are different from them. What do you think? … [Read more...]