Hustling For Jesus: Christian Home-Based Businesses

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserSuzanne, who blogs at Every Breaking Wave, had this to say about her experiences with home-based Evangelical Christian businesses: One of the things that the ladies kept trying to pound in my head during those early days, besides telling me that I should use “To Train Up A Child” to discipline my very ill child, was that if I was going to be a good Christian submissive wife I was going to have to not work outside of the home. Which was foreign to me, I’d always had some sort of job outside of the home, even if it was part time, and mostly tried to work at a time when Jim could take care of the kids so that … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Your Advice Got Me Shunned?

by an unnamed Amish lady writing to Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - From Our Mailbox A 'Saved' Amish LadyEditor's note: This is the rest of the letter that Michael responded to with only scriptures and zero compassion. Another prime example of how following the Jesus the Pearls preach can really have bad real life consequences with some shaming for depression and mental illness that the Evangelical world loves to do. What would you advise this lady to do? Besides run far far away from any Pearl-related theology. … [Read More...]

What are you Doing? Chapter 9 – Everyone Just Wants to Smush Genitalia Together?

by Suzanne TitkemeyerWelcome back my friends, to the book that never ends, we're so glad you're not having to read the book.We're back at the Picnic Table of Confession in the park tucked in between what looks like blocks of some big housing project like Cabrini Green in Chicago or the old demolished Poe Homes in Baltimore and on the other side an endless wave of two story single family tract homes stretching off to infinity. A hopeless looking landscape to me. Which fits this chapter.   … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1- Your Advice Got Me Shunned?

by an unnamed Amish lady writing to Michael Pearl at No Greater Joy - From Our Mailbox A 'Saved' Amish LadyEditor's note: For once this might actually be one of the rare real letters to the Pearls. Kind of breaks my heart because after all of this in this part and the piece we're posting in the morning Michael Pearl's only advice were those scriptures that talk about rejoicing when you are rejected for following Jesus and that Jesus came to set brother against brother. No practical advice, no empathy, no understanding, just a pile of scriptures that basically say "Well what did you expect?" This is what toxic faith looks like. … [Read More...]

For New-Found Victims

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsEditor's note: Ellen is speaking directly to new readers at her blog, but the same words apply here as well. Welcome to new readers here who've been spiritually abused, victimized by religion and are discovering that they are not the only ones.Welcome.Perhaps you found this blog because are just realizing that what you or someone you know is experiencing is “just not right.”  There are many websites and blogs that have information on spiritual abuse.  Some are very comprehensive and detailed … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Say No to Anything Not Home, Husband and Children?

by June Fuentes of A Wise Woman Builds Her Home - Cultivating a Rich Christian HomeEditor's note: While I will agree that super busyness is not a good thing for most folks, it has nothing to do with if you should be staying home submitting to your husband and homeschooling your children. Busyness is sometimes an excuse to avoid facing up to the real tough issues of life for many women and men. It's a bellwether mark of pressure, guilt and legalism in many Quiverfull churches that leadership puts on followers. … [Read More...]

NLQ Question of the Week: You Must Raise Exceptional Alpha Children to Take Over The World?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.If you take a look at tonight's Quoting Quiverfull you'll see another female cultural enforcer who is insisting that good Christian Quiverfull mothers must raise powerful Christian children into adults that will take over the world for … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Raising ‘World Changers’, Not Children?

by Unknown at A Wise Woman Builds Her Home - Reclaiming the Lost Vision of MotherhoodEditor's note: Another female cultural enforcer competing for alpha status on her claims that motherhood is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING EVER!!!!!!..... While it is fun to think that every child you raise has the potential to be the most awesome of all time who will impact history, the reality is that 99.99% of people just aren't going to turn out to be that. And that is okay. The world needs everyone, from those in humble positions through exalted. This idea of raising superior people who will take over the world for Christ that flourishes in Evangelicalism and in Quiverfull is a ridiculous one in light of … [Read More...]

My Healing Continues

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalIn recent years, I've become accustomed to certain people pretending that I don't exist. If I won't shut up and go away or roll over and play dead, the only option left, apparently, is for them to refuse to acknowledge my existence.There was a time when it used to upset me. Eventually, I got to a place where it mostly amused me. … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Moments of Frustration are ‘Temper Tantrums’?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - His Wife Had a Temper TantrumEditor's note: I don't know what's worse about this piece, the nasty abusive-looking graphic she uses of a woman with a raised fist, or the idea later in the unquoted bits of this piece that having a bad moment of frustration that boils out like this is somehow the same as a temper tantrum a child might throw. That graphic, I cannot get over it, feels abusive. Her advice that you should just put up with any old behavior from your husband without saying a word is equally toxic. In a good marriage there is room for disagreement and discussion and even grace for very bad moments when you lose it like this. … [Read More...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Question For Married Ladies

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Girls Should Be Meek, Mild and QUIET!?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Terrible Advice For GirlsEditor's note: Lori is reacting to a screen shot going around Facebook from Instagram that I have posted below. The advice given is pretty decent because it advises girls to have healthy boundaries, to say no when the situation warrants it, to get messy, dirty, loud, and to have some fun in this life. All the things that clearly would make Lori Alexander and all the other good female cultural enforcers lose their freaking minds. Cannot have girls speaking their minds, laughing loudly or wearing their hair as they please now can we? … [Read More...]


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