Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Lighthearted Versus Silly

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Making Jokes Leads To Infidelity?

by Ben Reaoch from John Piper's Desiring God - Life Is Short, Love Your SpouseEditor's note: While most of the advice on how to avoid having an affair is reasonable and good this little bit about humor is just sort of out there. I'm always amazed at the situations that extreme Christians claim can cause you to fall into sin. If every single thing on this planet causes you to sin then what options do you have? Infidelity is a conscience choice, not some random event that happens to you without your permission. Man up about the reality of it please. … [Read More...]

Screen grab from the Duggar's Facebook page

Reformers Unanimous: Is This Where Josh Duggar Is Getting ‘Treatment’ For His Sex Addiction?

 by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser(Editor's note: It has since been confirmed in the media that Reformers Unanimous is exactly where Josh is receiving his treatment. There is a breakdown of what Josh's days will be like at RU on Page Six - Inside Josh Duggar's rehab facility for sinners.)I originally wrote this article in October 2013. Since it is rumored that Josh Duggar is seeking addiction treatment at Reformers Unanimous (RU) Residential Recovery Center in Rockford, Illinois, I thought readers might be interested in what I have written here. Since I originally wrote this article, RU has changed their website and some of … [Read More...]


News: Northwest Arkansas Newspaper Suing For Copy of Duggar 911 Call

Back in May during the fallout over the child molestation done by Josh Duggar someone reported concerns for one of the children to the local DHS. A social worker tried to visit the home and was denied access to the child in question and the home by Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar. Faced with no other choice in an ugly situation the social worked dialed up 911 and asked for law enforcement help in their investigation. Pretty straightforward situation, right? … [Read More...]


Father’s Day, Undeserved

by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous Circumspection.(Editor's note: Originally posted in 2011. For the record Joe is a wonderful father and a pretty amazing guy. But this piece so clearly illustrates how Quiverfull hurts men and children too.)If I could have been around during the time of the ancient Egyptians, I might have begged them to create a 364 day year, rather than a 365.  In my view, for me anyway, Father’s Day can skip right on by, unnoticed.  I do not deserve it in the least.Before any of my readers boot up some comments that vehemently disagree with the above statement, let me explain.  By the end of this post, you will agree with my premise and run me … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Love Being Home Or Else?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - What Is Your Favorite Place?Editor's note: Again Nancy spends a lot of time making sure that women know they have to have a good attitude, no negative thoughts or emotions or ELSE! She makes no allowance for those fundamentalist homes where there are 19 children in a two bedroom home under 1500 square feet or if there are serious issues with housing everyone safely or in a pleasant way. It's all shut and smile even if you live in a ramshackle hovel. … [Read More...]


Created To Be A Help Meet: Part 4 Mr. Visionary (A Letter From The Wife Of A Visionary)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonpp 78-80Last post was chock-full of ways and reasons for a man to mold his wife into what he wants. I was expecting more of the same today, but was (cautiously) pleasantly surprised. Today, we get to talk about the Visionaries that aren't successful.Text is in purple … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Catching A Vision?

Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Have You Caught The Vision?Editor's note: Not much to say about this except that this is typical Nancy Campbell female cultural enforcer. Be happy about what you are doing and remember it has eternal consequences. Or the emotional beatings will continue. … [Read More...]


Vyckie Garrison in People Magazine

Just a quick reminder that No Longer Quivering founder  Vyckie Garrison was interviewed by People magazine in reference to the dangers of the Quiverfull life style. The issue will be on newsstands nationwide today. A teaser for the article can also be found at - Duggar Scandal  Here's a few quotes by Vyckie from the article: … [Read More...]


Memories of My Own Cognitive Dissonance: Gothard’s Doctrine of Grace as an Example

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from Under Much Grace originally posted in 2010In so many words (!), I’ve already shared what cognitive dissonance felt like after some exit counseling and realizing that not everything I’d believed had been true.I’d like to discuss a bit more about the process that facilitated my acceptance of Gothard’s take on grace (and other ideas introduced at the Institute of Basic Life Principles conference I attended). I only briefly mentioned it in this post. Cognitive dissonance was easy to ignore for me when I first accepted his views, but when I revised my understanding after I left the spiritually abusive system; I had no other option but to let the process … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Children Are Foolish?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - Foolishness or WisdomEditor's note: Here Debi ignores the fact that not properly feeding kids is child abuse, neglect and setting them up for a lifetime of struggling with eating disorders. She thinks it teaches children to be deceitful, which is considered so much worse than the fact that the parents are legally abusing and neglecting the child. Parents with obese children get blamed too. Debi lots to throw shade at everyone before reverting to the Pearl cure-all, a whipping with 1/4 plastic plumbing line, the same implement of torture that has played a role in the deaths of Lydia Schatz and Hana Grace Williams.ETA 3:30 pm - Whoever it is that … [Read More...]


NLQ Question of the Week: Why is a Man’s Infidelity Always The Wife’s Fault?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.One of the sadder things that has happened after Josh Duggar's infidelity was exposed is the number of Christians expressing the idea that a wife is always responsible when the husband has sex with someone else during their marriage. It's an idea that has been mentioned even in the mainstream media, that poor heartbroken betrayed Anna Duggar is going to be blaming herself and it's likely the entire family will blame her. Like she doesn't have enough trauma and pain in her life this unBiblical theology point is going to add to that. It's already … [Read More...]