by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's MusesI went to Bible Study tonight. We were supposed to get into groups and answer this question:As a child, how did you adapt in order to be accepted or in order to fit in?I didn’t answer the question.I fully intended to go home and think about it, but my friend’s 3-year old threw herself at me the second I suggested going home, so I held her, hugged her, and prayed that she would never, ever have the same answer to that question that I have. … [Read More...]
by Lady Lydia in her blog Home Living - Should Christian Ask Their Wives To Go To Work?Editor's note: Another Christian lady that seems to think that the standards practiced in the time of Queen Victoria still apply in today's modern world over a hundred years later. … [Read More...]
by Nora Woodhouse cross posted from her blog A Heart Like MineI started my excursion into fairy tale princesses, and romance stories with a post about why those things still resonated with me. I want to continue with other aspects of those stories that are relevant and real for me as a woman in our culture but specifically the culture I was brought up in with its very heavy influences of patriarchy, gender ideals, and fundamentalist beliefs. Cinderella captures all the classic elements of a fairy tale princess romance and because there is context and parallels between it and my own story I will be using it for illustration and discussion. … [Read More...]
Quoting Quiverfull: Does A Foreign Country’s President Have The ‘Right’ To Deny Religious Foreign Adoptions That Take Advantage Of That Region’s Poverty?
by Rachel Pehl from her blog Break My Heart For What Breaks Yours - D.R.C. (Democratic Republic of Congo) Adoptions - We Need A MiracleEditor's note: A few days ago Astrin Ymris put a link in the comments here concerning a certain Fundigelical adoption blogger who refused to take on any debt for one of those borderline squishy foreign adoptions. Rachel Pehl will not take on debt because it's not 'Biblical' but is willing to beg for the funds to adopt, which should be a huge red flag to any legitimate adoption agency that perhaps finances are not adequate in that family to justify adoption. Here's that bit: … [Read More...]
by Dianne E. Anderson - What Christian Men Don't Understand About BoobsEditor's note: Dianne has a book coming out in little more than a week about the whole Purity Culture - Rape Culture theology endemic to Evangelical Christianity. The book is titled 'Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity' and it is available for preorder now on Anderson's website. … [Read More...]
Good catch by Calvinist Janeway! She posted this on her blog Explorations in Egalitarianism - John Piper, Rape, Seduction, and Sin Leveling The quote is something that was tweeted by John Piper of Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood.Editor's note: Piper deleted this shortly after posting it on Twitter. He must have gotten some well-deserved fundigelical push back over this idea that somehow female seducers and male rapists are the same thing. A seducer can be resisted, but a rapist takes violently what he wants. … [Read More...]
by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog The Lost (And Found) Mind of Kaleesha WilliamsToday Denny laid to rest one of his closest friends, his little dog, Talula, who has been with him since he rescued her as a pup about fifteen years ago.He posted a picture to Facebook, of Talula on her last day, and the condolences began to roll in. Among them, however, there was a comment from a local chap with whom we are nominally acquainted, a Christian who never comments unless he sees an opportunity to witness to us. Why we have remained friends online is a mystery even to me. Maybe I’m reluctant to shut anyone out. He’s not been unkind, just pushy about his faith. … [Read More...]
by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Are You Angry At God? Let Him Quiet Your SpiritEditor's note: Obviously in Nancy's world God is some sort of fragile being that cannot handle any push back so you must control your emotions and never get angry at God. Does anyone really want to follow a God so petty and weak that you cannot get angry at Him occasionally? … [Read More...]
by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons If you’ve spent any time in feminist circles, you’ve probably bumped into the termsex-positive. It gets thrown around a bit, and one thing I’ve noticed is that it can occasionally be difficult to nail down what the writer/speaker means when they use it, so I’m going to offer a definition for what I mean when I use it. … [Read More...]
by Whitney Capps of Proverbs 31 Ministries at Faith It - An Open Letter to All the People Writing (and Sharing) Open Letters About What's Wrong With The ChurchEditor's note: Clearly this woman doesn't understand that what 'The Church' and many Christians have been doing has wreaked havoc, caused pain and damaged many of those same people that are writing about what is wrong with the Church. It's not 'whining'. it's not 'complaining', it's an attempt to deal with what has happened to those who are deeply wounded to heal and make sure no one else is harmed in the same way. How is that wrong? … [Read More...]
A Film That Helps Us Understand Why Pearl Becomes Appealing: How do parents get caught up in extreme practices?
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceA few years ago, I attended a professional conference that dealt with addiction which featured John Bradshaw as one of the speakers. I didn't like his old PBS series on codependency and families, but in recent years, I've found his lectures and books enlightening. He points out well, much like Alice Miller does, that corporal punishment in particular destroys critical thinking and makes a person ripe for manipulation. In a talk, much of which referred back to his own history of abuse, he ended up mentioningFocus on the Family and Richard Fugate as examples of ideologues who recommend abusive practices in their books. I approa … [Read More...]
by Doug Wilson of Blog and Mablog from 'His Hand in Marriage' as quoted by Vaughn Ohlman at his blog True Love Doesn't Wait - Courtship: That Volatile Sexual RelationshipEditor's note: This is one of those few times I don't entirely disagree with Vaughn Ohlman. Yes, sexual attraction and chemistry exist and they do play an important part in marriage and who we chose to marry. But life outside the Fundamentalist Christian Bubble is just not as sexually charged and focused as it is inside. Most people don't walk around thinking about sex all the time, unless they are a certain sort of sexually repressed Christian man. … [Read More...]