News: Planned Parenthood Shooter Applauded by Fundi-Gelical Christians

I'm sure by now you've seen the coverage of yesterday's horrific shooting at the Planned Parenthood clinic in Colorado Springs, Colorado.  While the shooter Robert L. Dear has been identified there is no other information available about him in the news media. … [Read More...]


Part 2 – RU: Labor Exploitation For Jesus

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows & Kids CollideSince Reformers Unanimous (RU) is an organization that treats addictions, I thought it would be important to understand their definitions of addiction.From their website on "What We Believe about Addictions:Addiction by one definition is “to cause to become physiologically or psychologically dependent on a habit-forming substance.”That's a good definition which would incorporate  ten of the 15 topics covered by RU. … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Michael Pearl Answers Parenting Questions

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - SINFUL SensitivityEditor's note: What? She still thinks it might be okay to let someone that molested his daughters have sleepovers with her daughters? While Michael is absolutely correct in saying that sleepovers at a former child molester's home are a bad idea he then takes it to a very scary place by saying that the man needs to be castrated. Studies have shown that castrating sex offenders does not do any good in the long run. … [Read More...]

Real Dates

NLQ Question of the Week” Why All the Nostalgia?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. We are a day late because of the holiday week and the editor being unable to get off the sofa after a turkey coma. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.This morning on Facebook I saw many people I know from my old faith life sharing this photo: … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 Michael Pearl Answering Parenting Questions?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - SINFULSensitivityEditor's note: This one is short and not so sweet. Another case of a problem that could be resolved if someone, you know, actually TALKED to someone else about the issue. … [Read More...]

Sunset at the park on Thanksgiving Day. Image by Suzanne Titkemeyer

Open Thread: How Has Thanksgiving & Other Holidays Changed For You?

Yesterday it seemed like Facebook was filled with all sorts of tales of hostile Thanksgiving pasts and worries about how sideways the holiday could go due to the presence of fundamentalist Christian relatives or your loud uncle Larry that drinks a little bit and then proceeds to yell out his love for the most awful politicians ever. Turkey Day's filled with pumpkin pie and indigestion.Benjamin L. Corey has a very funny Formerly Fundy Bingo card up on his Facebook page that suits what some have to deal with from friends and relatives during the holidays. … [Read More...]


Part 1 – RU: Labor Explotation For Jesus

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideMe: The Duggars have opened my eyes to a lot of problems within Fundamentalist Christian health ministries that I'd never heard of before. I wish they would stop getting involved in ministries that are going to kill someone someday. … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 Michael Pearl Answers Parenting Questions?

by Michael Pearl and the assorted poor saps that wrote him on No Greater Joy - SINFUL SensitivityEditor's note: One of the few times when Michael doesn't advise creaming the snot out a kid with a plumbing line. What do you think of the letter, is it another suspiciously Pearl-like letter meant to push extra sales of "To Train Up A Child" or a genuine plea for help? His use of the term 'ghetto brat' is horrifying. My first question would be why on earth this mama is allowing her barely two year old baby to be in the company of a three year old without any adult supervision of either. Of course Michael doesn't ask that question. Shaming, blaming and name-calling is easier. … [Read More...]

Dysfunctional Adult Objectives

Shame Based and Immature Parenting Creates Victims of Circumstance and Dependency on Self (External Locus of Control)

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceOriginally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the “Roots of Victimization” All images originals from Under Much More Grace.We've now considered the two primary ways that a damaged or immature parent takes from their child (unloading shame and by siphoning back nurture) which we understand results from a parent's disrespect for the child's characteristics (and needs). With that background, we can now better understand how adults, both parents and grown children, cope with the sense of emptiness that they face. … [Read More...]


Quoting Quiverfull: Our Big Families Are Better Than Your Small Ones Because?

by Zsuzsanna Anderson from Are They All Yours? - Answering Large Family Objections Part 1 -My, How Neglected and Overworked Your Other Children Are!Editor's note: Happy Thanksgiving! Here's an early serving of turkey, or is it baloney?  Someone is sounding a bit defensive here. For the record, not everyone that does not have large families ships their children off to be raised by others, or ever uses daycare, or whatever fetid family fantasy that Zsu has been taught by her husband. Wasn't it not that long ago that she hinted that she wasn't entirely blissful as the mom of many? … [Read More...]


Bonus Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Is He Wetting on Purpose?

Alright, so I know that we've already had one of these today, but when I ran across this question shortly after posting the earlier one I decided that posting a second question on Thanksgiving Eve might not be a bad thing. Especially in light of some of the recent posts and discussions we've had about effective non-physical child discipline. … [Read More...]


Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – I Made My BFF’s Mom Mad – Help!

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read More...]