Opening Up To Love

Tomorrow is Valentines Day, beloved of romantics and dreaded by cynics. Even I, veritable grump and Grinch that I am, am not immune to the vibe in the air.

Love is an emotion that needs open windows, fresh air and room to dance. For many Pagans love forms a key component of their faith. Wiccans are known for valuing “Perfect Love.” Most of us consider love an integral part of our human nature, and many of the rights we fight for are based on love.

As I was considering what to write today Loggin’s and Messina’s Danny’s Song played on my Pandora station:

And even though we ain’t got money
I’m so in love with you honey
And everything will bring
A chain of love.

I thought that was so meaningful in this time we live in. There are riots in Greece, and economic despair everywhere. So many people’s lives are in upheaval. So much is uncertain.

So what do we have to fall back on? What do we have to sustain us in the year to come?


Love is free. Love knows no boundaries. It is present in the laughter of friends. It thrives in the lover’s kiss. It blooms in a child’s heart. Love sustains us.

Just listen to music. Most songs are about love: finding it, keeping it, cherishing it, and losing. Love isn’t just important to humans, it’s critical to leading a happy life. I can’t find it now, but I recall reading a story about an orphanage where infants were dying even though all their basic needs were met. The caregivers decided to spend time with each baby every day holding it, singing to it and showing it love and kindness. The mortality rate of infants in the orphanage went down dramatically. They concluded that shelter, food, clothing, and water were not enough to sustain life. Love is also a necessity.

So for Valentines Day, or Lupercalia, I hope you spend some time giving and receiving love. Spend time with friends and family. Make plans with a lover. You don’t have to do anything expensive. You don’t have to do anything flashy. You just need to be open to love. Give love room in your heart.

Love is all you need.

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About Star Foster

Polytheistic Wiccan initiated into the Ravenwood tradition, she has many opinions. Some of them are actually useful.

  • P. Sufenas Virius Lupus

    Get ready for some more grinchiness, then…

    Lon Milo DuQuette said a very interesting thing on a panel at PantheaCon a few years ago:  “Love never seems to have any money.”  How true, how true.

    As much as I’d like to believe “love is all you need,” there’s an awful lot that love can’t do without justice–and I think economic justice is a dimension of that.  No matter how much my friends love me, medications are what keep me alive, and those aren’t given out because the people making them love you (which is tragic and it ought to be otherwise, of course…but, there again is “justice”!), for example.

    I suppose one of the bigger questions, therefore, is:  if love is supposedly so important (and is stated as thus in many major world religions–e.g. the phrase in one of the epistles of John that “God is love,” for example!), how come love is the last concern (both giving and receiving it) in almost 99% of the decisions that actually keep the world running?

    I am not critiquing your position here, or trying to bring down your mood–it’s a good mood to have, preferably (and if possible) every day of the year rather than on the day that Hallmark makes the most money from a repurposed Christian martyr’s day.  I suppose there’s little that is more frustrating than seeing an ideal one admires and attempts to uphold being thwarted at every turn with little chance of being able to change it on one’s own efforts or a change in one’s own attitude.

    Grinchiness over.

  • Kauko

    Personally, my theme song for every Feb. 14th is Tina Turner’s What’s Love Got to Do With It?