Vagina Power and the History of Christian Symbols

I saw the symbol for vagina on the back of a car the other day. I also saw one on a business card, a necklace, a church bulletin, and even a Bible. Vaginas are everywhere! People in America must really love female sexuality. Of course I’m talking about the fish symbol. The vulva-shaped ichthys or “Jesus [Read More…]

Fit Shaming: The Evil of Loving Your Body Too Much

I will never forget the day my wife and I were sitting in our marriage counselor’s office on the fourth floor of our church’s main building when we started discussing exercise. My wife reached down and took hold of my wrist, pulling my arm forward to show the therapist the underside of my forearm. “Do [Read More…]

Sexual Consent: The Evangelical Blindspot

The American public is still reeling from the election drama that escalated over the past weekend. One breaking story after another kept blowing up our newsfeeds every half hour or so, straining our collective capacity to process so many outlandish moments, it makes us numb. “Oh, look, now he’s invited all the alleged former mistresses of his [Read More…]

Can Godless Sex Be a “Spiritual” Experience?

I love sex. And I mean I really, really love it. Not everyone gets as into it as I do, and frankly sex isn’t even for everyone. For some, it holds little appeal at all. For some, in fact, it’s a completely dispensable part of life. Some are asexual, while others only need it once in [Read More…]

Doing Without: How One Spiritual Discipline Almost Ruined My Life

“Put a knife to your throat if you are given to appetite.” Proverbs 23:2 I grew up in a religious community that some have called a cult. One of our more interesting doctrines involved sanctions against eating certain kinds of foods. We were hardly the first faith tradition to make rules about food, but ours were pretty [Read More…]

Women Beyond Belief: Discovering Life without Religion

“The tension in the car that horrible day was as thick as the gray fog outside. It felt as dark as a night with no moon. No one would speak of the purpose of this drive, but, oh, I wanted to. I wanted to shout that she wasn’t a bad child. That she was just [Read More…]

Confessions of a Recovering Christian

This article is a general response to the plight of queer Christians who think their same-sex attraction is sinful. There’s a middle place between the hateful and loving versions of Christianity where they treat same-sex attraction as an unfortunate character flaw to overcome. In such churches, gay people may be accepted but with conditions; they are expected to either force themselves into an approved heterosexual union or remain celibate for life. [Read more…]

I Let My Husband Rape Me, and Here’s Why…

I’ve spent the last few weeks wondering if I should own this story or if I’ve said too much, but I think it’s time we have a very open and honest discussion about domestic violence and rape. The repercussions of shame and silence are far too great not to speak up. When we hear stories [Read More…]

Positive Promiscuity and Self-Image

By Alessio Fiore Readers of this blog have likely noticed one of the most popular refrains of the abstinence-only movement.  Whether it is manifested with hokey images of chewed gum, beat up gym shoes, or gunky scotch tape, the message is clear:  “You are who you sleep with.” (Doubly important for those whose genitals happen [Read More…]

Absorbing the Smallest Amount of Light

A friend recently revealed to me that she was upset about having sex on the first date with a man she met online. She didn’t remember having sex, or even going to the man’s house. She simply woke up in his bed without any clothes on. She remembers having two drinks… then nothing. She wondered [Read More…]