October 22, 2013

This’ll be a brief post about assumptions I operated under when I was a Christian. These assumptions were a sort of mental voicemail message that played all the time in my head, in the background, under my radar. They were unquestioned and unexamined–just there. I think a lot of the time, Christians–especially the kind in the various churches that had ensnared me–have these assumptions they just think are totally axiomatic and true, and they don’t really think about them or… Read more

October 21, 2013

The most powerful thing two people can do is really communicate. When there’s a veil in between them, it’s much harder to do that. Not impossible, but a lot harder. I discovered that truth in the early days of my membership in the Unequally Yoked Club (UYC). There’s a reason Christians find the imagery around the Crucifixion miracle of the “tearing of the curtain” so incredibly powerful. Even I, long out of the religion, find the image very moving. Imagine:… Read more

October 19, 2013

Remember what I mentioned last time about promises? We’re going to talk about that a little more today. There’s something about promises that I need to show you. Read more

October 19, 2013

Before we can really get into the meat of this post, I need to say a few words first about the fundamentalist view of promises, because I don’t think most people outside that mindset will understand fully until this stuff’s on the table. I’ve talked before about the things that drew me to fundamentalism, namely the illusions it offers of an unchanging doctrine, an unchanging god, and an unchanging set of expectations. And it’s true, and those illusions create a… Read more

October 18, 2013

There’s a longer post coming, but here’s a little sneaky-peek to get the party going, so you know where my headspace is when I talk about the Unequally Yoked Club. I’d been out of church for a while. I guess I was 24 or so. This was in Portland, after we’d gone to Japan and crashed and burned and had to return with our tails between our legs. Biff had gone to Basic Training, having no other ideas for how… Read more

October 17, 2013

Oprah Winfrey, who apparently didn’t get the memo about labels, came out with this gem the other day when confronted with a person who called herself an atheist but insisted that she felt awe at the beauty of the universe and humanity itself: “‘Well I don’t call you an atheist then. I think if you believe in the awe and the wonder, and the mystery, then that is what God is. That is what God is. It’s not the bearded… Read more

October 13, 2013

If there was one thing I could say that drew me to fundagelical Christianity, way back when, it was the unchanging and static nature of the viewpoint, as illusory as that viewpoint was and is. There’s a certain comfort in something that never changes and is always perfect. Until then, I’d had a very chaotic life that was marked more by tumult than by security. I’d experienced crushing poverty and terrifying abuse. I’d learned how fallible and scarily unreliable most… Read more

October 10, 2013

People keep finding my blog through searches related to the SCA and Christianity, so I’ve been thinking about this topic for a while now. (BTW: Hi!) The Society for Creative Anachronism, or SCA, has been around since the 60s, when a bunch of folks, among them now-noted fantasy/sci-fi writers, got together in someone’s backyard for an afternoon of medieval-themed frolicking. They liked the outing so much they decided to have another. And another. And another. Now the SCA has branches… Read more

October 8, 2013

It always makes me boggle (“What’s your boggle?”) when I hear Christians comparing themselves to sheep. There’s a fundamental disconnect there between fantasy and reality, but the disconnect is hardly new. In centuries past, a fad emerged around Marie Antoinette’s day for “pastoralism,” which meant that all these foppish courtiers and dazzling women dressed in what upper-class nobility thought shepherds and milkmaids wore and romped around their idea of hobby farms with crooks and yokes and pails pretending to be… Read more

October 6, 2013

Last time we hung out, I touched briefly on why I don’t feel that accommodation is the way to go regarding Christian overreach into the public sphere. I want to expand on that some more. Right now America is going through a really tough time with the Republican Party falsely insisting that it wants to “compromise” when it really doesn’t even vaguely understand what that word means, and I see the roots of their attitude in my own past and… Read more

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