Smash the Closet!

This was the day I came out, at Cafe Lafitte in Exile in New Orleans, Louisiana.

It took me ten years to come out. Between the time I sat, crying, in an Italian restaurant at the age of 17, telling my family I thought I might be gay, and the night in New Orleans when I finally accepted myself as a gay man, a decade passed. I think sometimes about all the things [Read More...]

Boy Scouts of America: Still Bigoted


I was a Boy Scout for about two seconds. I liked the toggle and felt there was something swishy about the pseudo-military uniforms, which oscillate wildly between butch and high camp depending on the wearer and the situation. I also liked our school Scout Leader, who was a charming man who always dressed impeccably and [Read More...]

A Humanist’s Guide to Working with Clergy

Act Out

Since moving to work at the Ethical Society of St. Louis, I’ve had lots of opportunities to work with clergy in my local area. As an atheist this is often fascinating, sometimes uncomfortable, and on occasion troubling. Yet, as Humanists seek to spread our perspective more widely in the world, we will find ourselves working [Read More...]

In Russia, Two Men Holding Hands is a Revolutionary Act

The BBC reports today on a viral video from Russia, showing two men holding hands as they walk through Moscow. The reactions of those they pass – ranging from mild rebukes to homophobic slurs to physical altercations – demonstrate that, in today’s Russia, two men holding hands is revolutionary. As the video itself says, “On [Read More...]

Death Is Not the Answer


I remember the Boston Marathon Bombings. I remember hearing of the attack on the radio, and wondering if my friends running and watching the marathon were alright. I remember being locked down in my apartment as news of the unfolding manhunt trickled in: an MIT policeman killed, a shootout in Watertown, the dramatic discovery of [Read More...]

5 Things Humanists Can Learn from “Welcome to Night Vale”


Tuesday night, I sat in a packed auditorium while the Secret Police tried to determine the identity of a murderer through an evening of Mystery Dinner Theatre. At first, it was a total mystery, and the killer ran rampant – even killing other guests at the Dinner! But soon I developed a tentative alliance with another [Read More...]

Love, Lust, and the Bible: A Further Response to Matthew Vines


Matthew Vines, author of God and the Gay Christian (and subject of yesterday’s post), kindly responded to my critique on Facebook: Thank you for writing this post and for sharing your perspective about what I’m doing. Thanks also for reading and engaging with my book.Some of your criticisms, however, are factually wrong. While it is [Read More...]