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About JT Eberhard

When not defending the planet from inevitable apocalypse at the rotting hands of the undead, JT is a writer and public speaker about atheism, gay rights, and more. He spent two and a half years with the Secular Student Alliance as their first high school organizer. During that time he built the SSA’s high school program and oversaw the development of groups nationwide. JT is also the co-founder of the popular Skepticon conference and served as the events lead organizer during its first three years.

  • Christina Stephens (ziztur)


    I could say a lot here, but the most salient thing perhaps is: Why do you have to hide your feelings from Annie? She has no reason to be bewildered that you don’t trust her or believe her. You have no reason to bite your tongue.

    I only know a few of the details of your relationship and obviously lack some serious knowledge about your past with her, but she will have no reason to be bewildered by your feelings and actions toward her if you sit her down and explain them.

    So I say – look at her like she used you and lied to you. If that’s the truth, then stare truth in the face. Tell her that she makes you feel like you’ll never be good enough. Tell her it makes you feel like destroying things. You owe it to yourself to be honest.

    I can see exactly why your history of women dumping you for skinnier dudes would make you feel like you don’t look good enough. Couple that with anorexia and you’ve got a serious recipe for implosion. Honestly, it makes me really angry that people would treat you that way, and I’m having a hard time coming up with a decent, helpful response beyond an exasperated, “wtf is wrong with these women?!?”

    So, for the record, I don’t think you lack something. I think *they* lack something.

  • Tara

    I second what Christina said: You don’t lack anything. They lack something (if not everything).

    Now we just need to focus to get you from just liking yourself to loving yourself :)