Jealousy is lame

As I have become more of a public figure I’ve come to realize that it’s impossible to please everyone (not that I ever tried), and that some people are just going to try and get a rise out of you because you’ve made them mad in some way.  I got one of those yesterday.

She is sooooooooo HOT! But who was they cute tall guy squeezing her ass over by the right hand wall toward the back? It wasn’t JT but she was giggling with delight!

But don’t worry JT, on those long nights at KU with all those cute guys with hard ons I am sure she is thinking only of you! Hahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!

She is very pretty.  :)

Things like this make me just tilt my head and raise an eyebrow.

This is why living without jealousy is pretty awesome.  In our relationship Michaelyn and I tell each other when we’re going on dates with others, so if someone was grabbing her ass I can trust that I’d know about it (and wouldn’t give the first shit).  It’s amazing how easy (and comfortable) honesty is when there’s no reason to hide anything.

So while this guy is just making shit up, let’s assume for a moment that it was true.  This person tells me my girlfriend is giggling, indicating that she’s happy, and I’m supposed to be upset?  This makes no sense to me.  I’m always ecstatic to find out that someone I care about is happy!  Makes no difference to me whether or not it’s me making her happy.  I’m not that vain.

And so what if she thinks of other people while I’m away?  Am I really supposed to think I’m the most physically attractive person she’s ever encountered?  Once more, my ego doesn’t extend that high.  If this person has a significant other and really believes that they never ever ever fantasize about other people, they are really deluding themselves.  What’s more, if you’re going to consider fantasizing about others to be a thought crime that merits jealousy or thoughts of insecurity (as this person clearly expects of me), you’re going to spend a lot of time in relationships being paranoid and less happy than you could be otherwise.

Besides, as Michaelyn said as we were having an oreo and milk date this morning, overly hormonal college guys aren’t really her type.  :)

Jealousy makes you miserable and insecure for no good reason.  It also allows others to make you miserable.  Personally, I’m not a fan of being miserable.

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When not defending the planet from inevitable apocalypse at the rotting hands of the undead, JT is a writer and public speaker about atheism, gay rights, and more. He spent two and a half years with the Secular Student Alliance as their first high school organizer. During that time he built the SSA’s high school program and oversaw the development of groups nationwide. JT is also the co-founder of the popular Skepticon conference and served as the events lead organizer during its first three years.


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