Dear God, it's not our fault. Sincerely, women.

The following is a guest post from Camille M. Richoux.

Dear God, it’s not our fault.  Sincerely, women.

I recently had a conversation with a Christian acquaintance, and it was over the subject of feminism.  She attempted to explain that ‘true’ feminism, from a Christian perspective, is understanding the purpose given to you by God. The word ‘feminazi’ was dropped (because it’s clear as crystal that wanting equal treatment is the same as wanting to invade Poland and kill a few million people), and I admittedly became irate.  The conversation eventually led to her assertion that, “women deserve better than abortion; abortion isn’t a choice” and then my brain exploded out of the back of my head.

I live in a country where my basic dignity is being attacked constantly.  From attempts to legislate contraception to whether I should have to carry a stillborn to full-term, and everywhere in between, I feel like I have suddenly been dropped into a rollercoaster in fucking bizarro world and I don’t know when the ride is going to end.  Is outright insanity some new fad? Let me answer my own rhetorical question: No, it isn’t. It has always been this insane. We’re just more vocal on both sides. And we have the internet.

If you’ve been following the news, you’ll come across a new attack on women’s rights from the conservative religious right springing up left and right.   Crazy and crazier legislation has been repeatedly introduced into the public sphere almost rapidly over the past year.  If you aren’t filled in, here is a pretty graph detailing them.

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Towards the end of the conversation, she could tell she wasn’t swaying me to her side, and she attempted to patch things up with a heartwarming quote on the relationship between Adam and Eve: “Woman was not created from his head to rule over him, nor from his foot to be ruled under him; but from his side to rule with him.”  I stared at her for a moment because I thought I was suddenly having a stroke; but alas, this was real life happening. I sputtered, “that is literally the opposite of what the Bible says”. She disagreed. I asked her if she had even read the damn book, or if she just watched the movie.

We didn’t get too much further in meaningful conversation. But it got me thinking, and I sought out to refresh my memory on deplorable things the bible says in regards to gender equality. Not surprisingly, I found a lot of appropriate material. I won’t drag you through all the misogyny of the Bible because we’d be here for a while and I imagine you are all well-versed on the evil that the bible says is okay. I specifically want to share one verse because it very clearly states the problem at hand:

“Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” (Genesis 3:16)

This blatantly states that women will suffer and they deserve their suffering. The inferior treatment of women is not only allowed by the Bible, it is divinely ordained by God; to do so is to rebel against their savior.  It is no surprise, then, when we live in a country in which a majority of people’s moral compass comes directly from the Bible that we have viable candidates for the presidency who are able to say heinous shit like the separation of church and state makes them want to vomit (Santorum 2012!) and not be a laughingstock to the general public.

(Note: We had a viable candidate. RIP Santorum 2012 campaign. We barely knew thee.)

This is the root of the problem we have in America. Conservative legislators are reflecting the archaic, misogynistic, Bronze Age book they believe in.  And people vote for them, thinking that their religious beliefs are universal and should apply to everyone!  This is not the future I envision in a country that has progressed so much over the past 235 years. I aspire to live in a country in which I have sovereignty over my body.  I want contraception and sexual services to be attainable, affordable, and nonnegotiable. I want to see slut-shaming looked down upon and see sex positivity reign.

What I’m trying to say is I am a woman.

I did not eat a fruit after being tempted by a talking snake.

I am not the cause of the world’s suffering.

I am a simply a woman who wants to be treated like a human being capable of having a voice, having that voice validated, and being able to make decisions regarding my personal life and body. And if that makes a feminist, then I am a very proud feminist.

And I hope you are too, damnit.


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About JT Eberhard

When not defending the planet from inevitable apocalypse at the rotting hands of the undead, JT is a writer and public speaker about atheism, gay rights, and more. He spent two and a half years with the Secular Student Alliance as their first high school organizer. During that time he built the SSA’s high school program and oversaw the development of groups nationwide. JT is also the co-founder of the popular Skepticon conference and served as the events lead organizer during its first three years.

  • Joven

    You’re slut shaming shaming, you’re a bigot and no better than them!

    This message brought to you by the “criticism of bigotry = bigotry” line of retarded arguments.

    Also, you know, if you read that bible quote in context, through your Hovind brand Jesus glasses, you’d know that it actually says the opposite of what it says. You see, god invented logic, thus he’s greater than it and not bound to it. Plus, obviously, reading the bible is the worst way to find out what the bible says. True Christians don’t need to.

  •!/TabbyLavalamp Tabby Lavalamp

    Your country is terrifying, even more so by the influence is wields over my country and the rest of the world.

  • Drakk

    Should have asked her to provide a reference for that quote.

  • iknklast

    I was recently having a conversation with a friend over the birth control nonsense and the Catholic Church. She informed me in no uncertain terms that certain things I mentioned (such as the hospital workers that had been excommunicated for performing emergency abortions to save the women) had never happened. She knew this, because she was a Catholic. I guess they learn by osmosis – or maybe Fox News? Anyway, no citation in the world, no amount of actual reality, was going to convince her that women couldn’t get the treatment they needed, even if the only hospital in town was Catholic. Besides, as she informed me very smugly, since Planned Parenthood has offices in every county in the country, women can just go to them for birth control.

    I live in a county without Planned Parenthood (which, in spite of my friends statement to the contrary, are ubiquitous, and probably outnumber the counties WITH PP – she lives in a large, capital city, and apparently has never stepped outside its borders – or at least never bothered to notice the MANY things that are lacking when she drives through towns like this)- our city council is currently hearing protests from the populace against a proposed Planned Parenthood office in our town. Chances are, it won’t see the light of day, or if it does, it won’t last.

    •!/Erulora Erulóra Maikalambe

      She knew this, because she was a Catholic

      Infallible by proxy. And oh so humble.

  • Karen Winter

    Great piece, Camille! Thanks for writing it!

  • Ani Sharmin

    Thanks for writing this, Camille!

  • Brad

    Took me a minute to track down that quote, it isn’t directly from a scripture. Seems like it probably originates from Thomas Aquinas’ Summa Theologica, Question 92, Article 3 (published 1274 AD):

    I answer that, It was right for the woman to be made from a rib of man.

    First, to signify the social union of man and woman, for the woman should neither “use authority over man,” and so she was not made from his head; nor was it right for her to be subject to man’s contempt as his slave, and so she was not made from his feet.

    Not sure who formulated the modern version she quoted. Seems to be a popular saying, most of the time unattributed.

    • anteprepro

      Wow, that is fantastically hilarious. Who would’ve thought that this pop garbage faux-apologetic was part of the very intellectual tradition of one of their most highly esteemed “sophisticated theologians”. I wouldn’t have bet on that before now, lol.

  • Zengaze

    Sometimes the morons just want to make me give up why try saving an idiot from themselves.then I remember I have a daughter and another one on the way.

  • guest

    haven’t finished reading yet but I want to let you know I am glad that there are americans who takes offense when someone uses the word nazi in some random context (feminazi, soupnazi, grammarnazi). I’m German and grew up with plenty of history lessons on Nazis and to me, using the word in that context implies that the user has no clue about history or the impact Nazis had on the world (or no clue about their atrocities which would be even worse).

    • Daniel Schealler

      Good point.

      A friend of mine travelled to Germany a while back, and that was one of the things he pointed out: That certain words are deeply offensive. It wasn’t ‘nazi’ that got him in trouble. It was ‘blitz’.

      Before travelling to Germany he used to use the word ‘blitz’ casually in the sense of vigorous focused effort deployed to achieve a short-term goal.

      After he did this in Germany a couple of times someone took him aside for a quiet word. He stopped using it altogether after that.

      I was also interested to learn that the word ‘Nazi’ actually pre-dates Hitler’s National Socialist German Workers’ Party, and was originally used by Germans as a colloquialism for a generic foolish person. Kind of like how ‘Paddy’ is often the butt of jokes by (and about) the Irish.

  • anteprepro

    Gotta love the attempt to pretend that the Adam and Eve story is an attempt to show men and women as equals. Hah. Eve was made as an afterthought, and was made out of a chunk of Adam’s flesh from a non-vital part of his body. But, because it was from the “side” instead of being from his fucking face or his fucking feet, that’s all the proof one needs to believe that Eve definitely wasn’t subordinate to Adam, who she was created from. Yeah, we all totally buy it.

    • StevoR

      Well I have seen somewhere the slogan that Adam was the rough draft and Eve was the masterpiece! ;-)

      But, yeah, good point.

  • Dustin

    I will be quoting this the very next time some jackass on Facebook spouts some “biblical morality is the best morality.”

    I’ll be quoting it especially if a woman says that.

  • StevoR

    What I’m trying to say is I am a woman.

    I did not eat a fruit after being tempted by a talking snake.

    I am not the cause of the world’s suffering.

    I am a simply a woman who wants to be treated like a human being capable of having a voice, having that voice validated, and being able to make decisions regarding my personal life and body. And if that makes a feminist, then I am a very proud feminist. And I hope you are too, damnit.

    I’m not a woman – but I am a feminist as much as I can be and can understand within my priviledge and ignorance – & HELL YES! to that.

    Well said.

  • Ashton

    Great post and all, but I’m bothered by the picture of Santorum made up like a woman. It seems to follow the group of insults in which little kids use “girl” as an insult. Because that is somehow degrading. I saw the picture and was hoping there was some plausible explanation further down, but deep down I knew there wasn’t. JT, I expect better, even from a guest post.

    • Camille

      hey, I’m the author of this post and I wanted to clear that up. I did not intend to insult him by portraying him as a girl (considering this post is generally about female empowerment). there is a tumblr ( that edits rick’s pictures to look like that. I realize that it may have seemed degrading in regards to women, but I did not include it with that purpose. it was just to show that he is a silly man.