Sending Matt Dillahunty a few hundred bucks.

Despite opposition from some irretrievable asshats (who inadvertently helped the cause by clicking, suckahs), we raised a fair amount of money for Matt Dillahunty and his wife, Beth, after their house was robbed.

Right now the hit count stands at 52,768, which comes out to $211.07.  It’s a drop in the bucket for the thousands they lost, but every bit helps.  Thanks to everybody who spread it around.  As soon as my check from Patheos comes in for this month, I’ll paypal Matt the money and post proof.


About JT Eberhard

When not defending the planet from inevitable apocalypse at the rotting hands of the undead, JT is a writer and public speaker about atheism, gay rights, and more. He spent two and a half years with the Secular Student Alliance as their first high school organizer. During that time he built the SSA’s high school program and oversaw the development of groups nationwide. JT is also the co-founder of the popular Skepticon conference and served as the events lead organizer during its first three years.

  • Jasper

    Is this when I go get my pitchfork and torch, because all I got is a roof rake and vanilla-scented candle.

  • fwtbc

    JT, you’re being a douche.

    I have no doubt you’re trying to do something nice, but that doesn’t change the fact you’re going against what Matt indicated in his post.

    I didn’t comment on the last post and had just shrugged it off, but your opening line to this post annoyed me. Mocking and insulting those who had justifiable reservations about what you are doing is extremely douchey.

    It kind of feels like this is more about you being seen to help Matt, rather than Matt being seen to be helped. There’s a saying I think more people could benefit from keeping in mind. “Help that isn’t wanted isn’t helping. It’s bothering.”

    So maybe in future you could respect the wishes of others, or at the very least, not insult those who think that’s a good idea.

    • phoenix_860

      I really don’t get this reponse. If I told somebody I didn’t need money, and they gave me money anyways, I would just donate it to a good cause. I wouldn’t get pissed that they tried to do a nice thing. I don’t think JT is the douche here. If you don’t want to give money because you feel you’re just respecting Matt and Beth’s wishes, then don’t give money and don’t participate in JT’s plan. It’s really that simple.

    • RuQu

      Matt can take the money and use it gratefully, or he can take the check and write one to or Heifers international or whoever. Or SSA for that matter.

      Or he can look at the donations he gets, decide “You know, I really could use the first $1k to help get this important item replaced, but I’ll donate the rest.” That’s his call.

      The only one being a douche is you.

      • fwtbc

        I was more referring to his opening line in this post. Calling people who voiced a valid concern irretreivable asshats and then taunting them that they contributed even if they didn’t like it, that’s what I really found to be douchey.

        • Jasper

          To some of us, this seems so utterly absurd that it’s even an issue, that it’s more likely that people like you are manufacturing outrage.

        • RuQu

          The mistake was thinking that the concern was valid, and then compounded by thinking that all opinions are worthy of respect regardless of the validity of the opinion.

    • Jasper

      Do you have an extra torch and pitchfork I can borrow?

  • John Horstman

    Hrm, while I do think that ignoring the direct expressed wishes of others is kind of a dick move, even when one thinks one is being kind, I think it’s an even bigger dick move to angrily criticize someone for taking an action that both has a helpful impact and is motivated by kindness. Granted, I’d not refuse free money, but if I was in a position to do so and really couldn’t use it, I would simply give it to some worthy cause or other; I agree that those positing JT is just boosting his ego or trying to get blog traffic (which doesn’t make sense anyway, since he’s giving the money from page hits away, but whatevs) are just being asshats.

    That said, I’ve been trying to get people to stop giving me Christmas (Solstice) and birthday gifts for years, because I mostly don’t want the imposition of having to store and/or dispose of crap I don’t need nor want. After one Christmas of simply handing back gifts that I didn’t want (and which I explicitly asked to not be given) while refusing to pretend to be concerned about the impact on the feelings of people who were intent on ignoring my clearly-expressed wishes (because, really, at the point where you don’t give a fuck about how I told you to treat me, I stop caring if you haz a sad because of my behavior), my family finally got the hint. As long as JT isn’t expecting kudos for his explicitly-anti-solicited help and isn’t going to be pissed if/when he doesn’t receive them, then I see no problem.