That awkward moment when you learn that a friend did you wrong.

I found out today that someone I had considered a friend up to today did me wrong a while back, and has been chummy as hell to me before and afterward.

It doesn’t suck so much to lose a friend like that.  Personally, I think I’m pretty rad about keeping shitty people out of my life.  I have plenty of friends who are trustworthy, and so I have no need for people who aren’t.

I do find, however, that I’m much less angry at the person who wronged me and much more angry at myself for not catching wise.  Then there are all the usual thoughts: Should I confront said person?  Should I hold a grudge?  Should I inform other people that this person isn’t exactly reliable as a friend?

I suspect that the next time we’re in the same place, I’ll make it plain that I know what they did and leave it at that.  Being angry when it won’t change anything will only make me less happy, and if I let them live in my head then they get to fuck me twice.  Being duped like this is just part of being a good friend to others and leading a happy life.  I’d rather be disappointed from time to time than suspicious all the time.

And so life, as it tends to do, goes on.

 

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About JT Eberhard

When not defending the planet from inevitable apocalypse at the rotting hands of the undead, JT is a writer and public speaker about atheism, gay rights, and more. He spent two and a half years with the Secular Student Alliance as their first high school organizer. During that time he built the SSA’s high school program and oversaw the development of groups nationwide. JT is also the co-founder of the popular Skepticon conference and served as the events lead organizer during its first three years.


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