Pat Robertson marriage counseling: men sometimes cheat – go make the house nice.

Oh, Pat Robertson.

Someone asked her for advice on how to forgive her cheating husband.  Here’s comes the failure bomb:

You see, if you’d have just kept the house nicer, he wouldn’t have cheated.  You have nobody to blame but yourself.

The irony?  She’ll probably be thankful for that advice.

About JT Eberhard

When not defending the planet from inevitable apocalypse at the rotting hands of the undead, JT is a writer and public speaker about atheism, gay rights, and more. He spent two and a half years with the Secular Student Alliance as their first high school organizer. During that time he built the SSA’s high school program and oversaw the development of groups nationwide. JT is also the co-founder of the popular Skepticon conference and served as the events lead organizer during its first three years.

  • Glodson

    Wow. The woman in the piece started into something that sounded reasonable, talking about the problems in the relationship.

    Pat… more or less just reduced the woman seeking advice to property that should consider itself lucky to be owned by a philander, and just ignore the cheating. And then rants on porn. Because that makes sense. Don’t blame the man for cheating, and consider yourself lucky to even be married to him!

    • Glodson

      Also, am I the only one who thinks that Pat used house as a euphemism for vagina?

      I guess I should be grateful he didn’t talk about trimming the hedges in the front, and making sure the backyard is clean.

      • invivoMark

        I didn’t think Pat Robertson could even think about vaginas. I’m not sure he fully understands what they are.

        • Zinc Avenger

          They’re SIN-HOLES. They are the hole left when the SIN burrows its way into a woman’s body. That’s all the godly needs to know.

          • Glodson

            Does that make the penis a SIN injection unit?

          • Zinc Avenger

            No, don’t be disgusting. The penis is VIRTUE. Godly males must neutralise as much SIN as possible with their VIRTUE, applied directly to the source of the SIN.

  • Art_Vandelay

    I don’t understand how these women on the 700 club can sit there with a smile next to this piece of garbage every day. The self-loathing is off the charts. I’d have to go home and bathe in Ajax everyday.

    • Feminerd

      They’re trained practically from birth to always smile, always present a perfect front, no matter what they feel. Libby Anne’s blog and some of the others from people who’ve left fundamentalism make it really clear that sometimes, the worse you feel, the more you smile, as a desperate mask.

      • Glodson

        Sounds like the Cab Driver’s fallacy, which is really just a catchy name for Sunken Costs. I will bet the same thing is at play with men who are fundamentalists, to a degree.

        I mean, listen to Pat’s comments here. He manages to say something that is both misogynistic and misandrist at the same time. The woman here is treated as an object, she should not hold the man accountable for the cheating and just let that go because of all the other things he does, things a husband should do. Why is being good to the children counted in his favor? You’re supposed to do that! He is assumed to be the household bread winner, and that is supposed to excuse his cheating.

        On the flip side, Pat is suggesting the man has no, or limited at least, agency in his cheating. Men cannot help themselves, according to Pat. Our Libido is so out of control, and all that pornography, drive us to cheating. We are reduced to near bestial in our volition when it comes to sex. While that does serve to further the patriarchal view by putting some of the blame for cheating not on the man, it still reduces our agency. It is insulting and insipid.

        This toxic view on sexuality and human relationships, and gender roles has an effect. Everyone feels worse. The woman is assigned guilt for not preventing the cheating, and we’re reduced to being in possession of our libido. It is much like the whole reminder that we’re all horrible sinners. It wears at you, and it removes defenses. You feel guilty, you feel all the worse for it. You feel insulted.

        You don’t speak out, as this is from god. You hold it inside. And you tell yourself that this is right. This is from god. As you invest more, you feel worse. But you don’t want to admit that it was a waste, a sunken cost. You don’t want to walk away after all you’ve invested.

        This is part of it. The other part is the very real threats of alienation, and worse possibly, of outright rejecting the claims.

        • Nate Frein

          Posts like this make me wish I could “like” more than once…

  • PhysicsGradStu

    If only there was a nice and easy to remember list of things which people are not supposed to do. hmm.

    • Zinc Avenger

      Hey, he was only coveting his neighbor’s ass. It’s not like he was infringing on the right to bear arms.

  • Greg G.

    But what if the thing that made her fall in love with him was that he seemed to be honest and faithful?

    • Zinc Avenger

      Then she didn’t marry him for his virile seed-spreading manly manliness and therefore the fault is still hers.

      • Art_Vandelay

        ZA, it’s too bad you’re an atheist because you could have a lucrative career as a Christian apologist.

        • Zinc Avenger

          Sometimes I scare myself.

        • Miss_Beara

          That doesn’t matter. There are many Christian apologist gems here by ZA that should not go to waste. Start writing that book!

  • b33bl3br0x

    This roughly reminds me of an NBC PSA spot with max weinberg,

    go to about 1:52

  • Alice

    Well, *obviously* he doesn’t “share with you things that are going on.” LOL

    Poor wittle defenseless man wandering around aimlessly only to be hunted and captured by a savage stripper or ten. Oh you careless wife, it’s all your fault for starving him and then letting him off the leash. Dontcha know that husbands are dogs?

  • Baby_Raptor

    I like how he thinks women don’t cheat. We totally do. Or at least I have.

    Not that I’m proud of it. But it happened. I wonder if Pat would be okay with that, since at the time I was the one making the higher paycheck?

    • Glodson

      You misunderstand Pat. It isn’t that women don’t cheat, it is that men are driven to cheat unless their women ensure that the man doesn’t. Women who cheat aren’t driven to cheat by their uncontrollable lust. That’s biology as created by our perfect god.

      And that you have a pay check at all is probably a problem to Pat.

  • Thumper1990

    “Males have a tendancy to wander a little bit”
    Fuck you, Pat.